Post # 1
My Fiance and I are in a difficult position right now. It’s a borderline ceremony/eitiquitte question so….
We are trying to choose the ring bearer for our ceremony! Our ceremony is outside of the site we will be having our reception.
My daughter will be 4 at the time of the ceremony, and so will my cousin’s son. My Gram thought it would be cute if he was the ring bearer. The only problem is that my cousin is not in our wedding party. Is it rude to ask him to the ring bearer if she is not in the party? I also want to add that one of my bridesmaids has a son, but the only children we want a the wedding are family members.
Our other option is my FBIL’s son. He has 2 sons (9 and 11). We would hate to exclude one, so I was thinking about maybe having the older one be a “Jr. groomsman?” Or be in charge of showing guests to the cerempny site (located around the side ov the venue). If we choose my cousin’s son, we will probably have both nephews as helpers…maybe the younger one can show guests to the ceremony and the older one can bring gifts/cards inside for the guests…
What do you all think?
Post # 3
I think it’s perfectly fine to ask your cousin’s son to be in the bridal party even if your cousin is not. Also, the junior groomsmen/helper idea is a great one for the other two young men. My ring bearer was my 3.5-year-old nephew, and DH’s son, who was ten at the time, was a junior groomsman.
Post # 4
Boys for one role, girls for the other, is very traditional. You could break tradition and have your daughter be the ringer bearer. However if you are a traditionalist then, ask your cousin if his little son is willing to do it.
Post # 5
When i was little i was in a family members wedding and my parents were not in the wedding party. I think it is fine.
Post # 6
I don’t think there is anything wrong with it! That is actually what we are doing… my cousin’s adorable little boy is our ring bearer, yet she isn’t anywhere in the wedding. I don’t think it’s a big deal and she didn’t seem to mind, AT ALL!
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s a big deal at all. In fact, most of the ring bearers/flower girls I’ve seen didn’t have a parent in the wedding party. You’re good to go!
Post # 8
Thanks, ladies! I will be asking my cousin to have her son as ring bearer 🙂 I’m so happy. My FI’s nephews will be very excited to help as well. I can’t wait!!!!!