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Ring Bearer Tux - who pays?

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Who pays for the ring bearers tux?
    Me : (4 votes)
    13 %
    His mom : (28 votes)
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    Rocktsrgn    May 22, 2010   living in Tucson, wedding in Atlanta

    I feel like if anyone else asked this question, I would be able to answer it.  But now it's personal, and I feel funny asking my cousin to pay $130 to have her son wear a tux in our wedding.  He's FIVE, and his tux is the same price as the groomsmens!  This blows my mind.

    Anyhow, I've told her that we don't have a strong preference - he's going to be adorable in a tux or in his Sunday best - and she said that he would get a kick out of a tux.  Soooo, does she pay?  Or do I pay?  I don't want to assume that she's paying if that's not standard, but honestly, we can't swing that right now, and if it's me paying, that cute kid will be in his own clothes.  :)

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't have a RB, but I am under the impression that the parents pay.

     
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    BrideMegan    August 20, 2011   Wausau, WI

    I would think that the parents pay, just as your bridesmaids and groomsmen do.

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    I think traditionally his parents are supposed to pay, but in my case, I'm buying the RB outfit and the FG dress.

     
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    twalila    May 2010   Ohio

    Oh man - you mean I can ask my brother's ex to pay for my nephew's tux??  She's the mom!  =)

    Since the RB tux was to cost the same as the GM tuxes, we're just forgoing the entire thing.  My brother and his gf are both already in the wedding party and paying for their attire, I didn't want them to have to shell out another $150.  My nephew is just going to wear black pants, and we're going to buy him little suspenders that coordinate with the GMs. 

     
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    Rocktsrgn    May 22, 2010   living in Tucson, wedding in Atlanta

    Thanks for responding so fast!  You guys rock.  :)  Since we've got a perfect consensus at the moment, I'm off to let her know the cost!

     
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    alivoo01    September 18, 2010   Dallas, TX

    My RB's parents are buying his.

     
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    Rocktsrgn    May 22, 2010   living in Tucson, wedding in Atlanta

    @twalila - that's a good idea.  I like the black suspenders idea, and I'll offer it as an alternative.   Although she's not in the wedding party, so she might not mind spending $130 to see her little guy all dressed up.  He's kind of a doll.  :)

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    Would you consider something like this for your RB?  It isn't nearly as expensive and it's so cute (at least IMO!).

     

     
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    Rocktsrgn    May 22, 2010   living in Tucson, wedding in Atlanta

    @SanDiegoAli - that is super cute!  Looking around on amazon, there are much cheaper options!  We'll see what his mom says - I just sent her the cost of the tux, and some cheaper alternatives.  If she goes for the pricey tux, then that's fine with me, but it's great to have some cute back up options!

     
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    cbee    July 26, 2010  

    I think it is standard that his mom pays.  Just ask her- tell her you are fine with his Sunday Best, or she can pay for the tux, let her choose.

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    I bought our RB a cute little tux at walmart for $15, but he is only three.  I can't see putting that kind of money into a full blown tux when the likelyhood of them ruining it is pretty high, kids are kids.

     
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    mrsheart    April 8, 2001   Ilinois

    hello I just saw your post the wedding is right around the corner,  PLEASE try looking on Craigslist in your area and Ebay!!!  My son has been a ring bearer twice, we have a gently used childrens shop right near home and we got the suit jacket pants vest and shirt for $30!!!! help a mom out.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    The boy's parents pay for it

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    I think traditionally the parents of the RB and FG pay...but I decided to pay for my flower girls dress, but that was a personal choice. Are you comfortable asking them to pay? Do you think they would offer to reimburse you if you bought it?

    Good luck!

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    First, I think the parents of the ring bearer ought to pay, but I didn't follow this rule myself, as I bought my newphew's tux because my sister has less money then I do.

    Second, Why have him rent a tux with the men (and pay soooooooo much!) when you could find one here in wedding bee or craigslist for cheap? I originally bought my newphew a tux ($50, used for 2 hours and dry cleaned) off craigslist and now I want him in a suit. You could have mine for what I paid for it. :P

     
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    Rocktsrgn    May 22, 2010   living in Tucson, wedding in Atlanta

    Update!  We found a really cute tux on ebay for about $30, and we're getting him matching purple suspenders ($10) too!  :)  After talking about it, I figured out that his mom always assumed that she would pay, and was okay with $130, but is obviously happier with paying less for something that he can re-wear!  I'm a lot happier too.  (Guilt free = stress free)

    I never would have thought to look elsewhere without the bee, so thanks for weighing in!

     

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