Post # 1
My fiancé and I have three nieces between the two of us. They will be 5 ½, 6 ½ and 9 ½ when we get married. We can’t ask two of the three to be flower girls and not the oldest one, even though I think she is too old to be a flower girl. However, I don’t want to call her a junior bridesmaid either… It just seems weird to me. I’m fine with not giving them a specific “title” but I’m worried on what it would say on the programs and that guests might be confused.
Additionally, I’m extremely close with my second-cousin, he will be almost 10 when we get married and I thought it would be nice to have him and the eldest niece walk down the aisle together.
My dilemma is what to call them. I have this great idea on how to ask them to be in my bridal party (bought wooden boxes from JoAnn’s and I’m going to include a homemade hair bow to show the colors, for the girls, a ring pop to signify him popping the question, a tie or socks in our wedding colors for the boy and then an item signifying the location of our marriage) But I wanted to hang a cute banner inside the box that said “Will you be my flower girl” etc. but I don’t know how to word it for the two older kids.
Any ideas on how to title them?
Post # 3
Your “proposal” idea sounds so, so cute!! I remeber reading somewhere that the average age or so for junior bridesmaids is about 9-14, so technically she falls in that range. But if that seems weird to you, you could try to come up with something that you think better describes her role.
Could she be lead/head flower girl in chrage of rangling the younger two?
Do you have a ring bearer? Could the older kids sort of split the responsibility? Like your niece carries your ring and your nepew carries the groom’s? That way they have a chance to particpate in the ceremony.
Maybe you could talk to your niece about it? Explain to her that you really want her to be a part of your day and let her choose what she’d like to be called. Maybe she’d want to be a flowergirl too, even if she’s a little old. Or maybe the two of you could have a little fun and come up with something creative together!
Post # 4
@Danni32388: attendant? page?
Post # 5
If Jr. Bridesmaid/Groomsmen isn’t right for you, come up with your own term. Have them walk together after the bridal party, but before the flower girls. If you choose to give them their own title you can choose if you want them to stand with you or just walk down the aisle and sit in the front.
Perhaps they could carry something important–rings, a sign, etc.
Post # 5
I did go to one wedding where they put the ‘flower girl’ as “honorary (guest)?” or something after honorary as she was too old for flower girl and they did not have her as a bridesmaid.