- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Okay, so part of me is overwhelmed with excitement and there is a small part of me is feeling a wee bit guilty (though I admit, the excited part is winning).
So, I had posted a little while ago on another ring thread that I had teetered back and forth on whether I wanted a solitaire or a 3 stone engagement ring. I never was convinced one way or the other, I loved both, but we opted for the solitaire because I was trying to be conservative and told FI I didn’t want him spending the $ he wanted to spend. We did a lot of research online and we opted to go slightly under 1 ct with a high quality stone. Bought stone seperately, and had it set locally. So, I got my super gorgeous princess solitaire in a platinum setting and I loved her….soooo sparkly, colorless and just beautiful. Sure I sometimes had ring envy, but mostly I loooooved her.
Well, then it happened…we finally set our date (nearly 9 months after getting engaged…we were delayed by our home purchase) and we went shopping for our bands. I know it’s premature for most to get their wedding bands so early in the game, but it was fun and it was one more thing we could pay for and not have any debt by the time the big day arrives.
I knew I wanted a band with some bling since my e-ring was so simply. We wound up with a 1ct 5 stone platinum band. I REALLY love the wedding band. Took this snap shot on my finger when we picked it up from the jeweler…
THIS is when the problems started. I created ring envy with my OWN wedding band. Suddenly my desire for the 3 stone came back in full effect. I kept secretly pulling the wedding band out from the drawer and even though I initially liked the effect of the bling next to my solitaire I started to feel like the e-ring was missing something. Something just didn’t feel right. I discussed with FI very casually and we talked about upgrading later, and the last week or so we talked some more…I found him searching online for settings and asking which I liked and if “this” or “this” were ones I liked better and I finally confessed that I really had this desire to change the setting on e-ring for a 3 stone.
Today we went out with the intention of doing some Christmas shopping and maybe popping into jeweler to take a “look” (I brought my wedding band with me…just “incase”). Well, after trying on very similar 3 stone settings I finally found one I loved. I knew I wanted round side stones even though my center stone is a princess cut. I didn’t want the side stones to be a princess like most three stone rings are (side stones are typically matching cut). The sales woman pulled it out from the back after I told her what I didn’t like about the others. I must have lit up like a christmas tree, because I looked back at FI and he nodded his head and said “go ahead” and well…we did! Left the original ring behind for the stone to be reset in the new platinum 3 stone setting. I feel so naked without my ring…you get so used to wearing it. I keep feeling like I lost it or something. Can’t wait to get the NEW version back. She’ll be .75 ct heavier. The basket on the new setting also sits up higher so the band sits much better.
I am SOOOOO excited! And, FI is totally fine with it, he wants me to love the ring and I was the dumb one that picked up the solitaire instead, so it’s not as if I am hurting any feelings by making the change. There is a small part of me though that feels like I should have been more grateful for what I had, especially in this economy and all. I just knew this day would come, it was really eating at me and I really wanted to have the “right” ring by our wedding day.
In any case, I’m not sure what was worse, waiting for the first ring, or having it taken away and now waiting to get it back. This is torture. They said it would be 1-2 weeks (getting sized, too). Argh.