Ring Conflict

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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179 posts
Blushing bee

Have you told your FI? How does he feel about your mom making all the choices?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Speak to your FI, after all he either asked for her help or went along with it.

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Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas

Can you return or exchange it?

Post # 5
Hostess
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That sucks that you don’t like it, something about my own mother making my ring would irk me as well….why didn your Fi even let that happen may I ask??

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MissusMarcin:  Oh heck no! My mother and I have totally opposite tastes. How did it happen that she did all the designing and deciding?? I’m afraid if it’s custom, it may be too late. Though I would think you could at the very least swap out the stone for one you like better. Why is the work not guaranteed? You can get jewelry insurance which I hear is pretty cheap.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree. Why didnt your FI design this ring??? My mom would have been like um no buddy, this is YOUR engagement ring.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MissusMarcin:  I know it doesn’t help now, but my ring is currently being made in AZ, but I live in MN. But I can totally believe a guy being relieved he doesn’t have to make some jewelry decision. Lol! I think you could still find a wedding band to go with it. If you search here, you’ll see all different kinds of looks so you won’t have to go back to that guy. And if you do go custom with the band, you still don’t have to go to that guy. Know what I mean? What about swapping out the stone for a better one?

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

MissusMarcin:  You’re right, your situation is different.  At this point could you take it to another local jeweler and see if it can be reworked to your satisfaction?  Leave Mom out of it, lol.  It’s your ring, you should love it since you’re the one wearing it every day for the rest of your life.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just get a wedding band you love and wear it alone.  When you can afford to replace the ring, do that.  Mom doesn’t have to know why you don’t wear it – you’re married now, you wear your wedding ring, don’t worry, the engagement ring is safe at home.

Post # 14
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173 posts
Blushing bee

I would just get a wedding band and explain that you’re not planning to wear your e-ring except for special occasions (ones when mommy dearest is around, haha). Then for your 5th anni, you can get a new wedding set or upgrade. Especially since mom won’t let you appraise or insure it, I wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing it every day (what if you lose it, break it, crack the stone, etc.). Find a nice band that is your taste and go from there.

 

Depending on the size and quality of the diamond, it may not even be worth very much. If the setting is gold/platinum, the metal (right now) likely has more resale value. You would want to look into how much salvaging the metal & reusing it for a new setting would cost, compared to an all-new setting, or if the ring is particularly interesting/designed, you may be able to sell it through a consignment or estate seller, or on etsy.

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