I have a princess 1.55 carat diamond and it used to be set on a plain contemporary band which I loved. Mostly because my now husband picked it out. Yesterday I broke the ring at church thank god. The entire head came off. And fortunately I found it right away. When I told my husband he said go get a new setting. So I went today and found a pretty antique setting which I thought I loved. It was about 1200 more than the setting I had before. When I got home i showed it to my husband and he doesnt like it. I feel like I should take it back, i feel bad because hes paying for it and its important to me that he likes it too. I'll post both photos up. Please share you're thoughts
I think it is important that you both love the ring, if you are able to return it, I'd suggest you and your husband go together to pick a new one out.
Good luck!
Would hubby go with you? If you really and truly love it (is it the 1st ring?) - then beg him and bribe him. lol
@Mrsns07: Thank you for your input, I feel the same way. I was really bummed out when I saw his reaction. Although, he said as long as I like it, it doesn't matter what he thinks, it still makes me want to get one that he likes. especially since this one is more.
find one you both love! if you know he doesn't like it (and that bothers you) it will probably continue to bother you, or maybe help him visualize what the ring will look like in the setting??? It can be hard sometimes to visualize the final product when just looking at the metal... maybe that's why he doesn't like it??
the solitaire is a picture of my old setting. The diamond pave one is my new setting
Did he say why he did not like it? This is purely a guess on my part, but I'm wondering if what he doesn't like is the dramatic, vertical thickness of the band that results from having diamonds along the sides as well as the top of the band.
Perhaps he would love a band that has diamonds all across the top but not the sides so that the there isn't such a disparity in thickness/height of the band between your new setting and the setting you had.
@Brielle This was exact reaction. "Oh, the band has diamonds on it? Hmmm, It's okay I guess."
@Poptartz: I'm hoping that i can exchange it for something that we both love. It is totally important to me that he likes it too.
@girltuesday: oh - it IS a beauty. Like I said, beg! :)
In all seriousness, I do love it, but he has to at least like it a little for this to work out. I am sure if he goes along with you the two of you might find something he likes too.
It is so much more fun, plus he will see the excitement in your eyes while you have him still in the store! Sales people do it all the time, you can too.
@womanofsubstance: I actually already have it. He let me buy it and I just charged it to his card. I really should have consulted with him first instead of purchasing the first ring I saw. That's why I'm really torn, because now I would have to go back and explain to the jewelrer that i want a different setting. But It's a pretty big purchase so I hope they understand.
@Brielle: You might have a point actually. But I was thinking of sending him off on his own to pick out a setting (one that won't break). I have a feeling, that as long as he picks it out he will like it. I personally think that most all rings are beautiful. Who knows, maybe he'll get something just like you described. I'll keep you posted. BTW, thank you for your input.
If you love it it will probably grow on him. I chose an antique setting that my husband would have rather not had, in exchange for a larger diamond. A few weeks after our engagement, he said, out of the blue, that he now saw how special our ring was in comparison to his friends' wives with larger, solitaire-set diamonds. It took him a while, as a guy, to see the style points. I know your ring will have the same size diamond either way, but sometimes with guys they need to get used to more flamboyant choices for a little bit.
Also, you will be the one wearing it forever, so in this case your opinion DOES matter more than his.
@Cecilia37: So true. I think I will sleep on it. I don't know if its a libra thing but it is SO HARD for me to mae decisions on things like this.
@Cecilia37: So true. I think I will sleep on it. I don't know if its a libra thing but it is SO HARD for me to mae decisions on things like this.
@girltuesday: I love your new setting!! I think that as long as you love it that is what is most important! He picked the first one and you picked the second one- seems like a fair trade to me. Plus if you both have really different styles,there may not be a setting that exists that you both love. I would talk to him and be honest about- let him know that you really love the new setting and his criticism hurt your feelings and now you feel torn about it. Maybe talking about it will bring about a resolution you are both pleased with.
@girltuesday: I understand. If you return with him, would it make a difference? Since you are worried about the store's return policy, it might be helpful to have him along.
It's just too bad that he doesn't like it, I really do think it's gorgeous. Sleeping on your decision to keep it or return it is a wise choice.
I like both settings. :) I'd suggest you both go together and look.
Maybe he thought you were going to get a setting that was similar/identical to the one he picked for you, so that's where his disappointment came in.
@girltuesday: It is likely that he chose the solitaire/plain band as a classic look and your choice in the new setting has changed that entirely. I too suggest taking him with you if you want both of you to like it.
@girltuesday: Haha, I can confirm that it is nothing to do with being a Libra and everything to do with being a bride-to-be! It's like the one time that, no matter what you try to tell yourself, you want everything to FEEL perfect to you (i.e. no disappointment/settling). At the same time it's about sharing your life whith someone else, and it feels like everything choice should both feel perfect to you and be thrilling for him, since it's all about sharing. I'm not sure from my experience that such a thing exists.
Have you tried to softly delve into what he doesn't like about the setting you chose? Maybe your man is more enlightened than mine, but I found througout the process that often when my FH was upset it was because he felt personally rejected / hurt, or left out, not because he really cared about a specific decision.
@girltuesday: I think it might be a libra thing. I am the same way! For nearly ten years I have been falling in and out of love with my ring...I suspect now that this indecision is permanent.
What works best for me is to set some perimeters with a limited set of choices. Having your husband feel equally happy with the choice may help establish those limits for you. I can see the dilemma: both settings are beautiful!
Thank you everyone for all you amazing feedback. I was truly distraut and I didn't know how to handle the situation.
Everything is in order now, I spoke to my husband and his first thought was "I liked a solitaire for you so i got you a beautiful diamond, why did you go out and buy more? Was that not enough for you?" OUCH! I think he thought that I took advantage of the situation. I explained that the only options they gave me were all diamond encrusted settings. I actually LOVE my old setting, I love the classiness of a solitaire but they didn't have one.
Backstory, I live in LA, so there is the Jewelry District in downtown LA. The jewelrer where my husband purchased my ring is a long time friend of his family and he has a small store front in the Jewelry District. I don't buy jewelry, I didn't know I can order something not in stock. So when he showed me what he had, I thought "okay, these are my only options."
When I explained that to my husband he finally got it. He went down yesterday to return my setting. When he got back I thought he would have my ring in hand but after talking to the jewelrer he decided we both should go together. Sometimes, i just have to let him figure it out himself and I really didn't want to go into the store to return the ring. I'm glad he wanted to do the dirty work. 
So tomorrow, I should have my new ring! I'm so exited. He said, if I don't find a solitaire that I love, he wouldn't mind me keeping the one I already picked. Which goes to show that he was hurt that I didn't stay within the style he chose.
After all the trouble, I think a solitaire fits my style best. It's neutral and I can always layer on more jewelry for the days when I feel like having a little extra something.
I'll post my new ring tomorrow
@10plus: You are SO right! I seam to fret over the smallest things. When we go tomorrow to get my new setting, I will narrow it down to a few choices and he can make the final decisison. It's important to me to have him like my engagement ring too, since I feel it represents the both of us. I'm sure I will fall in and out of love with my new setting for the rest of my life (the libra curse) but I'm excited for a new setting :) Thank you for your advice
@girltuesday: I am glad you got through that awkward conversation and came to an understanding. Can't wait to see what you choose together - I am SURE you can't go wrong with that beautiful stone, libra curse or no!
I got to keep the diamond encrusted ring! YAY!! We went looking and as we searched, my husband liked the setting I chose more and more.
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