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you could have it reset if you chose to, but i also think you could have a band contoured to fit your e-ring with the halo setting...
I'm not sure exactly what, but it would be neat to have it set in something that you keep on your dresser or in your purse like a compact? I would feel really weird wearing it with all the baggage it has, yet it's such a neat heirloom.
In terms of your ring, I have a friend with a halo e-ring that looks gorgeous with a regular wedding band. She had them soldered together to creat a really unique looking piece. I don't know if that helps...good luck!
It sounds like you're already leaning toward resetting the diamond, and it's a great plan... you can always decide later if you want to wear it or not, but that way you'll at least have the option (and a new ring). Having the diamond reset in platinum so that you can wear it would be great, and that way you can do platinum wedding bands, too!
Also, from what I've read it's a good idea to send an heirloom diamond into GIA to be graded before you reset it... they can only grade loose diamonds, and a grading report from them is a good thing to have for a diamond that you might be wearing every day, since you should probably have it insured.
Good luck and happy setting-shopping!
I can't say I give much thought to good luck versus bad luck. But I do place tremendous importance on promises. If I promised my grandmother I'd never wear a ring she gave me, then I'd never wear the ring. Not because of any luck associated with it, but because I made that promise to her.
You have to make peace with what your grandmother said about the ring being "bad luck". Personally, I don't believe in bad luck = life is just hard, bad things happens to everyone (we all die in the end, yes?)- it has nothing to do with a ring. I hope you'll be able to make peace with that and wear the ring with joy :D
I'd wear it. i'm not superstitious and I don't believe an item can ever bring me bad fortune. I certainly wouldn't blame bad fortune on my 'cursed' ring. That being said, I'd probably end up breaking my promise. It's still from the gma, and I always make a point to wear my heirloom stuff b/c it makes me think fondly of her. I might have it set into a pendant, rather than a ring--"break" the curse =]
If you promised your grandma you'd never wear it, I think you should keep your word. Wearing it with your wedding band seems like the complete opposite of your promise to her.
Thanks for the opinions. I actually never thought about insurance or appraisal. Does anyone know if there is a way to have it appriaised without sending it out, can I take it to a local jewler and use that for insurance?
I promised never to wear the ring and I won't wear the ring. I see resetting the stone as a way to do something with this family heirloom without breaking my promise to my grandma. I guess the promise is what is making me hesitate in this decision but I love the idea of being able to look down and think of my grandma at random points throughout the day. This is a very emotional decision for me so it is nice to have some external feedback from the hive.
I took mine to a local jeweler on a Monday and I had it back by a Wednesday.
Do what feels right. How would your mom or dad feel about you resetting their mom's ring?
I think it'll look great reset - but like ejs said -how would other family members feel? I would check with them first ... but it would be so very cool. I only wish there were something like that in my family (maybe minus the bad luck).
You shouldn't send it away for an appraisal. I found a jeweler who appraised my engagement ring (which dates back two generations) right in front of me, and never left the room without taking me with him. I wouldn't do it any other way.
The ring is from my dad's family and he didn't really have any objections, mom was not sure how she felt and asked me to give her some time to think when I asked for her opinion about a month ago, I have not had a chance to ask her since.
Do what you and your FI think is best. Will he have a problem with you not wearing the ring he proposed with? Another option is to turn it into a solitare necklace. That way you can keep it close to your heart, but it is still separate from the wedding and engagement ring you have started with your new family, your fiance.
I say reset it into a pendant necklace. That's what my mother did!
I think that you're lucky to have a family heirloom to wear, and i think it's fine as long as you don't wear the original ring, which you're not planning to do.
The difference between appraisal and diamond grading is that an appraisal will determine the value of the ring, whereas a diamond grading report will detail the characteristics of your actual diamond. I know it's a good idea to have the grading report because they can use it for hte appraisal, and insurance-wise it's a good documentation to have.
Anyway, if it's something you're considering, I used this site to figure out the process:
http://www.gia.edu/lab-reports-services/how-to-submit-gems/general-information/index.html
I would repurpose the stone into a necklace too! Your grandmother asked you to never wear the ring, not the diamond. I don't think you should wear it as part of a wedding set... Not out of superstition, but because dear little grandma asked you not to.
If she knew you were going to wear it, she probably wouldn't have given it to you. Don't wear that ring!
If your christian have it blessed first ;-)
It's tempting since you have that stone so readily available, but I wouldn't "ring" it since you told her you wouldn't.
I don't know. I am not one to be superstitious, but all of that baggage compounded with your grandmother making you promise. I don't think I'd wear that diamond in any shape or form. I'd keep it somewhere special, but not on my person.
I'd reset it anyway...just to break that cycle of bad luck/superstitions. Whether or not you choose to wear it is another thing.
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Hi Hive,
Here's my current dilema. i have a diamond solitaire ring which was given to me by my grandma before she passed away. It belonged to her mother who died really young, her father than gave it to his fiancee who also died before they married. My grandmother wore the ring briefly and was diagnosed with cancer. Because of all this, she made me promise to never wear the ring (bit is ad luck) but wanted me to have it because it was her mother's.
Fast forward to now, I have a halo e-ring which will not lie flat against a band. FI offered to alter or replace m ring so I can have a "wedding set." Since he was a student when he bought this ring, when he gave it to me, he told me he wanted to upgrade in the future and even asked if it would be possible when he bought it (yes). FI also wants platnium wedding rings and my e-ring is white gold.I don't want to alter the ring with which he proposed.
So, I had the thought that I could wear my e-ring on my right hand and have my great grand mother's diamond reset to wear with my wedding band. It would mean a lot to me to have a family heirloom ring and I love my e-ring alone so it would make me happy to wear it like that.It would look like an engagement ring and would be designed by us together but would not be the ring with which FI proposed.
What do you think? Should I...(poll above)