Ring Dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would tell him exactly what you told us. You found the world’s most perfect vintage ring, and while you know you’re not getting engaged for another year, it is one of a kind and once someone buys it, it is GONE.

Then if he continues to be open to the conversation (as opposed to saying “You don’t get to see your ring before I propose with it, woman”), show him the listing. And when he FREAKS over the price (as all men do), throw in “Well, you know I love nice things. And I never want to upgrade! I want this to be my forever ring, and I’m willing to ship in for it, just so you know…”

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Do you know when in 2014 he plans on proposing? If its before March or April I don’t see a problem with him buying the ring now as he would have time to either A. pay it off or B. save  up the money he spent on the ring.  My SO is going to propose before March 2014 and he says he’s going to start ring shopping in September or October. So he will sit on the ring for a few months. How much is the ring?  And is it graded by GIA? that is important when choosing a ring you plan to spend a lot of money on (its more valuable and important for insurance purposes). If you honestly feel this is the ring for you as him about how he would feel if you chose your ring. He may say he wants to choose it (in which case you would have to explain why you would like to choose) and then you need to talk about how you found the ring of your dreams. The good news is he would have time to pay it off if they allowed payment plans, you’re willing to help, and it would take the pressure off of him to pick a ring. (sorry for the novel!)

I have showed my SO a few rings that I love, but he has different taste than me (not bad taste just different) so I guess it will be more of what he likes (which I struggle with a bit since I have to wear it forever), but men do take great pride in picking out the ring so I would see how he feels about WHO chooses the ring.

Hope that helps!

Post # 6
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@keylimepie:  I would definitely ask the seller about the GIA report and maybe ask if it has been appraised. I’m sure the ring is more than you could have asked for 🙂 If you truly love it talk to him about it (worst case is you keep all the pictures saved and give them to him and he can have a jeweler replicate the ring incase it gets sold!

My SO and I have been to a million jewelery stores. Went to DeBeers and Tiffanys today (just to look at styles since he wants to custom make it) and he liked what I liked, but is still set on getting what he likes. I love him, but it annoys me a tad lol! Oh well HOPEFULLY when he goes in the fall to make my ring he listens to what I want as well as what he wants lol

Post # 7
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1951 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@keylimepie:  If you love it, keep as many photos of it as you can find. If your SO isn’t ready to purchase, you can always have something made custom – with whatever additions/changes you like. 

Post # 8
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Newbee

I agree that you should show it to him so he has an idea of what you like.  He may be relieved that he has an idea to go on! I would however, not be surprised if he didn’t buy that exact ring but instead got something similar, which I’m sure you’ll love too.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@keylimepie:  “I showed him the listing before, and he didn’t comment on the price at all, just asked me what I liked about it, so that could be either a good or bad sign”.

I don’t think it’s a bad sign. It sounds to me like he’s trying to understand your preferences, likes/dislikes, but that he’s not ready to pull the trigger on a purchase just yet. I would advise against bringing the topic up to him again really soon. I do like what a previous poster suggested about saving as many photos of it as you can. He might be able to have one custom made for you that looks just like it when he is ready to make the purchase!

 

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