(Closed) Ring drama – do I need to let it go?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Have you talked to other jewelers to have a custom ring made to fit? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I bet you could grow to love it, or just not be bothered by it that much anymore.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@deetuned:  I’ll second what lefeymw said. Many custom jewelers will make things custom that are pretty close to the cost of finding a premade ring with similar stones and work. Are you looking for a semi eternity or an eternity? A semi eternity will probably cost a lot less. Or have the match band not have diamonds. There are some lovely filigree designs out there that would look good with your ring, except that they are straight. Could you find a straight band with a design you like and have the jeweler custom make one with the same pattern but bent to fit the contours of you ering?

ETA: post a pic of your ring πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Here’s the thing…I have been peeking at these boards for just a few months now to see what people are saying about trending e-rings. YOU have to wear this ring for the rest of YOUR life so going with something that you will be looking at with “second best eyes” will NEVER make you happy. It will always be a peeve to look down and see your “second” choice. Here is how I look at this….you got a great guy, all the love in the world, AND a (sounds like) spectacular ring. Sorta sounds like one of those rings that would be given a better show on the right hand. I have always been a fan of allowing an e-ring to stand on its own. I would get the wedding band you like, wear the e-ring on the right hand, then custom make the “dream ring” over then next few years, months or whatever. 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you negotiated the price of the custom band from your jeweler?   Ours tried to start at $1600 and we eventually got the ring down to $1100 (though I was ready to suck it up pay the $1600 for the exact matching band).  There were many similar that “would do” and matched ok, but knowing myself, I’d never be satisfied with it.  This was justifiable in my head as a once in a life time exception and purchase.  $700 is not cheap either, if I’m going to have to spend $700, I’d go the extra distance and get exactly what I wanted.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have similar issues. In asking around, I have found that most other people with larger/ more ornate/uniquely shaped rings just wear the engagement ring as their wedding ring once they’re married and have a low profile band for when they want something less fussy.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Have you checked etsy?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My engagement ring does not work with any other band unless I have it modified which I refuse to do, so my fiance agreed to purchase a bridal set of my choosing.

I have been to 2 different jewelers, and also looked at the retail chains (Zales, WalMart, Kay, JCPenny… etc).  So far I have not found anything I like, but I won’t settle because this is going to be my set I will wear everyday for years and years.

I suggest you keep looking, get an idea of what you like and what you want.  I also agree that $1,500 is way too much for a band, but that’s just because I’m very cheap I don’t feel comfortable wearing thousands of dollars of anything.

Keep looking, you’ll find something!  Even if you have to go out of town or have something custom made, as long as YOU are happy with the final resort that’s all that matters.

By the way, can I see a picture of your ring now? πŸ™‚

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Blushing bee

maybe post a picture of your ring and what kind of band youre looking for, maybe some of us bees can help out. I would say just keep your ering and either pay the price for the band you love or just wait and see down the road if you find a better, better priced one.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My engagement ring comes with a matching wedding band that is the same price as my engagement setting. I want it soo badly, but there is just no way that the FI and I can justify spending that much on the band. I’ve decided to go with a plain, white gold band that semi-matches my FI and am hoping to have it engraved so it can have something special. πŸ™‚ Sometimes I lust after other diamond bands, but I think that mine is going to look really nice as well.

My one FSIL has a diamond band to go with her engagement ring that doesn’t sit flush with her antique setting and I think it looks gorgeous! It probably just dpends on what you can live with πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

just remember the ring is for the rest of your life, but its also not worth going into debt for.  If you can afford the one you love, I say go for it!!! Maybe it can be modified to fit more in your budget?

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

@deetuned:  Well that beauty can surely stand alone. I say wear her on the right, get a nice “everyday” wedding band that you love and custom make that baby over time. My mom always told me if you can’t afford it now, don’t buy it….but saving up will give you what you want with time and pride.

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@deetuned:  How many stones and ctw is in your quoted setting?  Just for reference, my band is .36ct total, 12 stones set in platinum for $1100.  The same ring in white gold would have only been $685.   Is this 14k or 18k?  Gold is about 1680/oz lately, but either way, there is NO WHERE near an oz of pure gold in wedding band.  $1500 does sound really high.  I think you have a lot of room for negotiation.  Shop around, and see if you can find rings of similar compostion, even the ones you said you found for $700… if those are the same make up (same kt gold, same diamond weight) and just a different designs you can still use them to negotiate and justify asking for a lower price. 

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