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That's a toughie. Could it be that your prongs are more raised? I hear that platinum turns grey after some time too.
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platinum scratches easy and white gold can be re-rhodiumed to look like new!
I thought it was the same ring from 2 different angles. I would keep the ring you have.
White gold does wear over time and the rhodium coating rubs off to reveal the yellow gold underneath (because white gold is jsut yellow gold with a coating over the top of it). But like vistagirl said, it can be resurfaced to be made white again.
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Personally, I think the two look nearly identical. But you are the one who will wear it for the rest of her life - so you should be happy with every part of it. If you want to reset it in platinum, go for it. Atleast it would stilll be the same diamond that he proposed with...right? Do you just prefer the setting or the fact that it is platinum? I suppose it doesn't really matter, because either could be changed.
The designs are similar enough that I don't think an exchange is warrented, but of course, you're the one wearing it.
Do you already have your wedding band picked out? That's something to take into consideration as well. Platinum is typically a good bit more expensive than gold and you'll probably want a band in the same metal as your engagement ring. So that would be an additional expense. I've also heard that platinum also ages over time but I don't know of anything you can do for that.
My band is rhodium plated gold and yes, it has worn off a bit but the only place that has happened is underneath. You can't tell just by looking at it. Besides, it's $60 to get it replated and then it will look as good as new.
I vote for keeping the ring he gave you.
Thanks for all the advice everyone. Sounds like I should keep it, which I am leaning towards. I think it's more the mindset that "platinum is better" that's really got me questioning it...but given everything i've heard about platinum and white gold, seems like they both have pros and cons. FI wanted to get me platinum but since he got it from Costco, they have limited stock and he was more interested in the size of the rock than the metal so when they found the size stone he wanted, and it happened to be in white gold, he figured it wasn't much of a difference. I do love the sentimental value of this ring, so I am leaning towards keeping it.
I changed my setting so I say if it's something you want to do, do it. I liked the setting my fiance picked out and it was what I said I wanted (it was a thin band, which I requested) but what I didn't like about it was that the inside corners around the diamond (solitaire) went in really skinny as they got closer toward the stone. It was pretty but when we went to look at bands, nothing laid flat against it. We were also planning on doing diamonds all around my wedding band and it didn't look right up against the plain band, especially because of the indents toward the stone. (I know it's kind of hard to picture). My fiance told me he didn't love the band either but it was the thinnest they had and he knew I wanted that so he'd gone with that one. So, they designed me a matching band (setting) and wedding band that are the exact same size, fit up right against each other, and both have tiny diamonds around them.
I was a little sad it wasn't the "ring" he proposed with, but it was the stone he'd spent hours picking out, and they just switched the stone anyway. So it technically IS the same. And it looks way better, and I'm a LOT happier with it. Moral of the story is change it if it's something you want to do, IMO.
For us, because my ring is from Costco, they can't just change the setting - I'd have to return the whole ring (including the stone). I guess I could get the stone re-set and just chuck the white gold band on it, but that seems like a waste when I'm still within the return policy. I don't know.
@monalisa - I'm having a hard time visualizing the old ring - do you have pics of it?
Bean, your ring is just like mine!
I always thought I wanted plantinum, but that metal dulls over time, so I think the white gold is the way to go.
I do have a picture of it but I don't think you can tell cuz it's not close up enough. I will look tonight or tomorrow and see if I can find one where you can tell. If I were you, I would return the ring while you can. I know it's a sentimental thing but it shouldn't only be about the ring, it's what the ring symbolizes, not it itself. If it's a concern of yours, change it. My first one also stuck up a lot more than this one does (just like your pics) and I requested this setting to be further down, and now I'm more comfortable with it.
Both the original setting and my new one are platinum and I've been very happy with it. I like that I don't have to get it dipped once a year to keep it from yellowing. I have a white gold ring my parents gave me that I often have to get dipped and it's quite honestly a pain. If you're not the type that minds that, then it's not a big deal, but I guess I'm lazy. I'd rather spend more money now than have to be taking the time and money to do that for the rest of my life.
hi there! coming from a family of jewelers, here's my advice. any good quality jewelry can redesign your ring, which means you can change the setting any time. white gold versus platnium is based on preference. platnium is a higher quality and despite what people say about it scatching easily, yes, it's true but platnium is also the only medal that can be polished out without losing the weight of the metal. hope this helps!
Frankly I can't tell the difference between the two you posted!
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Haha. The main difference is the metals (one is white gold, one is platinum), as well as my ring has the diamond a bit higher (prongs are slightly closer together) and the sides don't taper up in my ring (see how Ring #2 has the metal tapering up a little towards the diamond?). But yeah, same reaction that FH had.
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I think it's completely a matter of personal preference. If you really like the look of the platinum better, maybe you should upgrade. IMO, platinum and white gold look completely different, and I actually like the look of white gold better - it's whiter, for one (platinum is a little grey) and I like the mirror finish of the rhodium plating better than the look of the platinum, which even shined up is more of a satiny finish.
On the issue of white gold changing color, that is mostly a problem if your ring was never plated correctly in the first place. If the rhodium plating is the correct thickness, it should wear for years without looking yellow. And you can have it replated whenever you like - I take ours in about every 6 months to be steam-cleaned and replated. My jeweler charges me $70 for all three rings (my e-ring, my wedding ring, and his wedding ring), but maybe that's because we had him design and make all three rings. And they look brand-new afterwards. (I take them in pretty often just because they do get a little scuffed looking - nothing you can do about that - and because we like them shiny!!)
I have a girlfriend who is pretty superior about her platinum "upgrade" - which made me wonder for a while if we should have platinum too. There is some idea that it's somehow "better." I don't really think that's true - unless you just think that more expensive is better. I would honestly just go with what you like best.
Ok, the pics of my ring are not close up enough to show you whats I'm talking about so I found some online. The plain band that goes in in the middle is basically what mine was like. The second pic is what it's like now, with the band matching what my wedding band will be. I didn't think it would look right to have that kind of band up against the band that indented. Plus a little more bling didn't hurt! My fiance was all for it, so like i said I didn't feel that bad. I still think you should change if you want. If you're still early enough in your engagement that you can return it, eventually you won't even think about it b/c it's still the ring you had during your engagement. And if your FH thinks it looks the same anyway, then it's basically the same as what he picked out, but in platinum! And lower, like you want. Go for it if you think you'll always wish you did- better now than later.
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Platinum is not dull, and it will never change color. I personally think the look is luxurious and not that different from white gold. Most people can't tell the difference. However, white gold depending on your skin chemicals can change color to yellow as quick as weeks or as long as years. I chose platinum because I never wanted to have to get it rhodium plated. Forget about my FI having to do that for his w-band - not gonna happen every 6 months or a year (as experts have told me). And as far as the "scratching" on platinum. That can easily be polished out.
The other issue is changing the ring your FI gave you. I'd probably check with him first so as not to hurt his feelings since best to take advantage of the refund policy.
So I think what I am going to end up doing, if anything, is to get a platinum band custom made for my the stone he proposed with. That way I will keep the sentimental part (at least some of it) and still fix the things that bother me (it sticking up too high, the metal). However, I am not even sure if I want to change it anymore, so I might just stick with it. I have talked to my FI about it and he is ok with whatever I decide, he just wants me to be happy with it. He does prefer keeping the original stone as opposed to exchanging the whole thing.
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I was told straight from a jeweler that platinum does permanently change color over time...considering the ridiculous cost of platinum over white gold, why would they have told me that. I don't think anyone would be able to tell the difference unless they were holding your ring in their hands and could feel the weight of platinum. I'd say as long as your're open with your fiance about it and he's understanding, do whatever makes you happiest.
I also come from believing that platinum vs. white gold is a preference, but I'm a platinum girl all the way having had one prior. I can say the patina of platinum gets more lovely over time.
I have a white gold ring and I just simply am not as fond of it as I was my platinum band (from my x). I'm going with platinum again.
Again, there is no right or wrong. Platinum is stronger, and it simply is my preference.
I think you are obsessing over nothing. Keep the ring he gave you, there's not a big enough difference to be worth exchanging the original. And it's so much more sentimental!
It looks the same!! I honestly cannot tell. FYI, platinum changes color and loses its luster. Like, within months. My FI's sister has platinum and it looks dull. It needs to be professionally buffed in order to maintain that gorgeous polish! White gold DOES lose its color over time (years...) but can easily be replated and then looks brand new!
But it depends on your preference if you want platinum or white gold. I prefer white gold, but that is just me!
If you want to keep the ring you have, the setting can be lowered.
Platinum gets that beautiful patina over time, I personally love it! I'm not into the shiny white gold thing so I got a setting that hides most of the metal.
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I love my engagement ring - it's a round solitaire on a white gold band. However I have seen a slightly different solitaire setting from the same store (that has a good return policy) in platinum. Mine seems to stick up more than the platinum one, and from what I hear white gold changes colors over time. I am starting to think maybe i should just exchange it for that one, but I also know it won't be the same ring FI proposed with. Here are pictures of both rings. What do you think? Is there enough of a difference to exchange for the other ring, or am I just obsessing over nothing?