Ring Envy

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

um. 25 year olds with 2ct. are most likely moissanites.  IF that makes you feel better.  Comparison is the thief of joy.  My dad once told me something that rings very true – no matter who you are, or what you do, there will ALWAYS be someone better – it’s useless to compare, if you start, you’ll never be happy.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

TonyClifton:  I agree with Tony.  Comparison is the thief of joy.  Most 25 year olds I know don’t even have a carat.  My mom still wears the 2/3 carat my dad got her as an upgrade to her original stone 20+ years ago.  She doesn’t want anything bigger.

 

I also agree with Tony that with the introduction of moissanite and other good diamond substitutes into the market, a lot of times, larger stones are something other than a diamond.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

futuremrsrossol:  If it’s any consolation I’d consider one carat to be quite large.

 

TonyClifton:  It isn’t right to assume that because someone is young they can’t afford a 2 carat diamond. a lot of people just prioritize their money differently. They might put a lot of stock into the engagement ring, but not care to have a huge wedding or big house or fancy car.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

futuremrsrossol:  I completely understand. All of my close friends have a minimum of 1.7 carat center diamond and we are all 25-27 years old. My ring is a 1 carat, which is in no way small but it can be hard not to compare sometimes. Just remember what your ring means to you. I really like the phrase, “comparison is the theif of joy” because it is so true. Focus on the little things you love about your ring and how much you love your fiance!

Post # 6
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188 posts
Blushing bee

TonyClifton:  or an heirloom stone. or maybe their families just have money.

don’t assume someone has a moissanite just because they have a big stone.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

futuremrsrossol:  In life, someone you know will always have something bigger, or better, or nicer, or more expensive than you.  I think it is normal for anyone to think *what if I had that?!*, and maybe dream of having those things, but then coming back and enjoying your world, and what you have is essential.  You LOVE your ring, which is all that matters, and I am guessing those that have 2 carats love their rings too.  

I think rings in general have become more ‘blingy’ – halos, diamond bands, etc, but I do not think there is a new norm on the size, per se.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

<<rolls eyes>> I did in fact say “MOST LIKELY”. Of course there are 25 year olds with family money, heirloom stones, all of the above.  Chances are, the average 25 year old with a massive stone has a diamond alternative though.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

futuremrsrossol:  I hear you. Though for me it isn’t the ring I’m jealous of (I adore mine and would never dream of changing it), but what it represents ie financial security. A girl I went to school with has a 1.35ct D Fl pear solitaire that cost about 24k. I don’t love or want her ring; but I get a touch of the green-eyed monster because she’s able to spend that kind of money on a ring, when OH and I will just never be in that position (unless we win the lottery). 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

futuremrsrossol:  

Most women I know who married in their twenties have around half a carat or a non-diamond engagement ring. 1 carat is a large ring among that circle. So rest assured there are women out there who would think your ring is HUGE!

However since moving and starting nursing I have seen larger rocks (and women who insist on 2 carats + – Yikes.). So it is all comparative.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I want to know where you all live what there are so many huge, blingy rings.  In my neck of the woods, mine seems large at around 1.3 carats. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

futuremrsrossol:  I think with Facebook and other social media apps these days it’s easy to think “everyone” has something you don’t. People who we would have never stayed in touch with are suddenly still in our lives and you are exposed to so much that we usually wouldn’t see Outside our direct group of friends. it can easily feel like it’s everyone and not you but in reality it’s really not. You see what you want aka you are noticing all these large rings, but ask yourself did you notice the smaller ones? Have you ever thought about how many girls prob drooled over your ring? its obviously easier said than done but try to realize that everyone is jealous of somebody’s something. And constantly comparing yourself to others is no way to live our lives. I wonder how much happier we would all be if we got off Facebook Lol 

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