- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I am in the last leg of my waiting stage right now, but I seem to be drifting in some foggy waters. My BF and I are getting engaged in a matter of weeks months (who knows). Everyone from my family, my friends, his family and friends, knows it is upcoming. His mom helped us find a diamond after she saw how frustrated I was getting with our search, and because of her, I was able to design the ring of my dreams with a wholesaler. I am beyond excited, because frankly, I never 100% knew I would ever get engaged.
The ring was finalized, and I tried it on for the first time this past Monday. It is beautiful and everything I had wanted: a big, fat pear set in a pave halo with a thin, pave band. I am incredibly lucky that I have a great soon-to-be fiance who worked with me on making a dream come true, and very fortunate that our center stone was as large as it is for the price (2.26 carat).
However, in my excitement, at a family dinner with his mother and sibling/sibling’s wife, I gushed about it. I didn’t talk a LONG time about the ring, but I told his mom we saw the finished product, thanked her, and said it was stunning. That was the extent of it. Then, my BF said something like, “Well I think she should only wear it for special occassions.”
All right, so that took my off-guard for a moment because although 2.26 is pretty big, it isn’t absurdly huge on my fingers and I never imagined he would think that. So… I shut up and we went on with our evening. On the drive home, I asked him if he thought it was too big. He said he only said it was “big” to diffuse the situation.
Diffuse? I guess he felt that sibling’s wife felt jealous, although she has a ring from Tiffany which I think is beautiful and exactly what she had wanted. Now he’s thrown me into a tailspin of doubt…. is it too big? Am I expecting too much? What happens when we get engaged… do I not gush about it? That is the number one question people will ask, the one thing people will immediately reach out to see. I’m relatively sensitive about oversharing with friends about it because a few of them are single… and I remember how I felt. But… is there a ring etiquette? Perhaps I should keep my excitement inside.
Any thoughts? Am I overanalyzing this?