Post # 1
So a recent response to the ring envy post has got me wondering. Do people *really* get jealous of other peoples rings? It’s such a personal item, that I can’t imagine that I would. Does your feeling about your own ring cause or prevent any jealousy? I love my ring, its exactly the size and quality I dreamed of having. Of course there are always bigger ones out there, but just because I see someone that has a bigger ring doesn’t mean I’m jealous of it or wish I had that large of a diamond. Is it not in fact the ring, but what people believe the ring indicates – the amount someone else could afford to spend on it?
Post # 3
I had “ring envy” before I was engaged. Mainly because I wanted to be engaged not because I wanted “their ring”. Now that I am engaged, I LOVE my ring. I have seen others that are gorgeous and I like, but I am not envious of those people, because I so happy about my situation.
ETA: I guess I had “engagement envy” rather than “ring envy”.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m not a fan of most engagement rings in general, but I love mine. So no jealousy here.
Post # 5
I think the way women feel about their rings, diamonds, money in general is SO complicated. I love my ring, absolutely. My FI did an amazing job, picked out the perfect shape, it is fantastic quality, etc etc. And it is a really good size I think (1ct). It’s big enough no one thinks it is small, but its not so big people ever judge me for it. If he had gotten me a ring that was much bigger honestly I would have been REALLY mad because I’m practical and I’d have been upset that he wasted money that could have been spent elsewhere (not that a big ring is always wasteful, but for our financial situation buying a much larger ring would have meant other financial sacrifices). So I would say my ring is “ideal” or “perfect” in my eyes.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t still think large rings are beautiful. And maybe just a little bit like them…. probably for the reason you state (because it would be like saying we’re so well off or something)… which is really hard to admit but whatever its the web right 🙂 But everyone wants people to think they are successful I think. And yet, as I said, if he’d actually gotten me a bigger ring I’d be mad because it would’ve been a bad financial decision. See how these things are all tangled up? haha
Post # 6
I absolutely love love love my ring. I think all the rings that people have shared here are gorgeous, but I would not trade my ring for anything else. It’s exactly the ring I wanted.
It’s funny, because I do experience dress envy sometimes, but never ring envy.
Post # 7
I like this post alot, I dont know why people assume that other women are jealous of their ring just because it is more expensive or more “out there” than others. I made the choice not to wear an engagement ring at all and I dont feel jealous when I see other brides with huge rocks.
Post # 8
First, let me say that I absolutely love my ring. I’m by nature a fickle person though, so there are days when I wish my ring was bigger AND days when I wish my ring was smaller. I figure, since the days kind of even themselves out, my FH must have gotten me the right size!
Post # 9
I agree with you completely @corgitales. There seems to be a fuzzy unspoken line these days between the e-ring just truely representing the couple and love, and it showing off how much money you have. Sort of like cars are a symbol to that as well. People fail to remember that just because you CAN spend the money doesn’t mean you will or want to on something flashy. And just because you DID spend the money, doesn’t mean you really should have. And I think you can appreciate and like things, but not feel jealous about it. If I say wow, I love that ring/dress/whatever it may be, isnt the same as, damit I wish I had that!
Post # 10
When my girlfriends and I get together, we swap e-rings for a minute just to experience another girl’s ring and we celebrate them–there really isn’t any jealousy–they’re all completely different and unique to the girl they belong to.
I think jealousy over an e-ring is a bit weird, too.
Post # 11
I dont really understand ring envy either because hopefully your ring is something that you wanted and even if it isnt exactly what you imagined it came from YOUR fiance and thats what makes it special!! The only way I can see ring envy is if a woman thought she would get a ring of a particular size and didnt. I havent seen this happen in real life but I have heard about women getting upset over this!
Post # 13
I love my ring. Their is a lot of thought that my FH went though to pick it out. I think that is what makes it special. Sure others might have a bigger diamond or whatever but my ring is special to me and it symbolizes the love between my FH and I. Somewhere in the furture we might get an anniversary ring or something like that but I will always keep my engagement ring the way it is. I love the thought behind it.
Post # 14
When I first showed my ring to a close (already married) family member, I showed her how sparkly it was in a certain light in our house (it’s a princess cut, so it’s got uber sparkle). She held hers up, and even though it’s really pretty, it didn’t sparkle as much as mine, which should have been fine since it’s a round cut. Instead of moving on like most would, she starts saying that my ring is grey (it has what I consider a slight greenish tint in certain lights) and that when it gets a little older it won’t sparkle as much. 😛
To make it even better, hers is a 1/2 carat solitaire on a platinum band, and mine has a 1/3 carat centerstone, and it was much cheaper. Moral of the story? Somtimes ‘ring jealousy’ isn’t even about how big it is or how much money was spent.
Post # 15
Not really, but it’s more complicated than getting jealous over size. It all has to do with money which is a really touchy subject for most people. Most people may or may not be jealous of a 3 carat diamond engagmenet ring, but I guarantee EVERYONE will have an opinion about it. And they may say mean things out of jealousy, like “How COULD you spend so much $ on a ring, that’s ridiculous!” Whereas someone who WANST jealous but felt that way would actually keep quiet.
I love my ring, but I do envy women who got to pick out a pretty setting. And like others, I also feel like I wouldn’t want to wear a huge diamond everyday either. In general I don’t really see engagement rings as the size of the diamond, but the quality of the relationship it represents (as cheesy as that sounds).
Post # 16
I dont think people should compare rings… but thats just me. The ring shouldnt be about thow big or sparkly it is, its a symbol of a commitment to get married and spend the rest of your lives together. I feel like this symbol behind the ring is totally forgetten and its all about the ring itself. And no offense to previous poster but I would never take off my ring [wedding band in the future] to let someone else try it on, even for a moment.