Post # 1
There is this girl that I work with, we both started working for our company on the same day. It turned out that both got engaged on the exact same day as well.
I came into work on Monday to hear her telling her story to some other co-workers. I heard her say “….and I said YES!” so I knew she got engaged. I walked up to her and held out my hand with my engagement ring on and a big smile on my face and said, “I got engaged this weekend too! Congratulations to you! Thats amazing news!!” Ever since then, there has been some weirdness between us. I actually believe that she thinks that I “stole her thunder” so-to-speak and thats why there is something very off between us now. She chose to get married in 2011 and my fiance and I chose to get married in 2012….Guess what??? We both chose to get married on both of our deceased grandpa’s birthdays. SERIOUSLY??? How many more things are we going to be choosing to do at the same time….ugh lol
So when we both got engaged we both had a look at eachothers rings. Her’s is very pretty. Its very dainty for her hand and fingers though. It doesn’t look proportionate but still very pretty ring. In between us getting engaged and her wedding date – she had asked to see my ring THREE TIMES, and each time I held my hand out so she could see. Then she would say “It’s very pretty”. Then when she got married and was back from her honeymoon, she showed me her rings – she got 2 wedding bands. It looks good. The only 2 times I have seen her ring was when she was engaged and when she got married. Since she had her wedding and came back from her honeymoon, she has asked to see my ring AGAIN another TWO TIMES…..really?? How many more times does she need to see it?? And why does she need to see it…seeing how good the diamonds are? How big it is??? wtf?! LOL
What is her deal?? Has anyone has this before? Any advice?
Post # 3
It could either be because she finds it very pretty, or because she’s competitively comparing yours to hers. Her body language and tone should let you know which it is.
Post # 4
It sounds like maybe she likes your ring better than her own. Or your ring is just that gorgeous that she can’t get enough of it 🙂
Post # 5
next time she asks take a pic and give it to her 🙂
Post # 6
Hmm…maybe she just really likes it! I am always gawking at other people’s rings even though I absolutely love my own. I’d feel awkward asking to see someone else’s more than once or twice, though….but if I had the chance, I would probably stare, haha! I’m a sucker for sparkle. 🙂
Post # 7
It kind of sounds like you might be the one who has an attitude towards her. Really 2 seconds after she’s happily telling her engagement story you shove your ring in her face pretty much shouting me too. You then look down your nose at her dainty ring in your mind declaring yours better. You obviously think her proposal was second rate. So the girl wants to see your rings and that makes her jealous? Maybe she just likes diamonds and thinks yours is fabulous. I have a coworker who has a ring I adore. I am not jealous, I love my ring but every time I see her I ask how her diamond is doing and she laughs and shows me. Cut the girl some slack. Be flattered she admires your ring. There’s room enough in the office for two newlyweds!!! Oh and were gonna need some pics of your jealous worthy ring!!!
Post # 8
@blingbling: my thoughts exactly
Post # 10
@blingbling: you took the words out of my mouth!
Post # 11
@abirdword: Thats it! I think you hit it on the head! She competively comparing mine ring to hers. Why are girls like that? It boggles my mind.
@blingbling: If that is what you think from me telling you of her proposal, and her very pretty dainty ring then you totaly mis-read what I wrote. I don’t have an attitude towards her but we aren’t friends so there is no need for her to ask to see my ring SIX TIMES. In fact, she has the attitude towards me. In her world, there isn’t room for 2 engaged/married girls. You think I’m the villian here? Thats laughable! And cut her some slack?? I didn’t think I needed to explain the entire story right from the start until now but if I had – I’m more than certain you wouldn’t have wrote that comment negatively towards me. I gave the girl a freakin engagement card to congratulate her on her engagement because we got engaged on the same day! And then she shunned me and became very weird towards me. You still want me to cut her some slack? lol
Post # 12
My fiance took me on a romantic helicopter tour with snowshoeing on a frozen lake inbetween some mountains, and champagne and chocolates……… and her fiance woke her up at 7am and proposed to her while they were staying at her parents house.
I really wonder about that paragraph above. It sounds a little… hmmmm. Anyone else sense what I’m sensing?
Post # 13
Can we see a pic? 🙂 can’t talk about a ring and not show us!
Post # 14
@futuremrskgt: OMG LOL I was telling how we both became engaged. Her proposal was very sweet and heartfelt. But I can’t tell you about the rest because it was him on bending knee telling her personal stuff.
Post # 15
@TrixieKix: Honestly, maybe she “shunned you” and became “weird” towards you because she could sense your judgment over her proposal and ring. I would probably feel insecure if a co-worker came off as condescending as you have in this post towards me, too. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt & assume you don’t act as judgmental towards her as you seem in this post, but you might want to reflect on your own self before insisting that she’s jealous of you or just “weird”.
ETA: I say this because if I read someone saying word for word about me what you’ve said here, I’d be very hurt & offended. My proposal was not champagne & chocolates because that is not me at all & I would hate a proposal like that. Also, I love big sparkly rings & admire my friends’ all the time, but I’m not jealous, I just appreciate beautiful things.
Post # 16
@blingbling: I echo your sentiments too!