IMO, unless you are at a time in your life where money is truly no object, there is no reason to have an IF stone. I mean, sure, there are “bragging rights…” but is she going to walk around telling people her diamond is internally flawless? I highly doubt that, haha!
I was looking at a diamond store yesterday, and I had a kind of funny conversation with the saleslady. She talked about how the day before, she had a lady come in with a 1ct IF diamond. She said she had to test it to make sure it was actually a real diamond! She said to me, “It’s just funny… You spend 20k on a stone, only to have people worry it isn’t actually real! I thought it might have been a CZ.”
Of course, an IF diamond is pretty dang cool. Like I said, if money is no object, go for it! Otherwise, I just don’t think it is the most important “C” to focus on. But we all have different priorities. And, unless the stone is a large size, it is going to be extremely hard to tell the difference between an IF, F, VVS1, VVS2, VS1, or probably even VS2 diamond.
You obviously want a quality diamond and not something that is clearly flawed to the naked eye. However, from what I’ve seen, you are perfectly safe going with VS2 or even SI1.
I’d rather have a ring that is unique overall, not just a small stone that is flawless in itself. Plus, like I said… In small stones, it is much harder to see flaws in the first place.
I would talk to her about size. Not all women with tiny hands want tiny rings. Many women appreciate a nice amount of finger coverage. Not all do, of course… but some do! I don’t think that, say, a 1ct stone could ever look “gaudy.” To me, it is a beautiful size that would look great on any hand. And lucky for her, a 1 ct will look even more sizable on her fingers than it would on those with larger fingers!
You get used to whatever you wear. I’d specifically talk to her about what she finds gaudy before you buy her a IF 0.5 ct stone. The clarity might not be the “C” she is wanting you to really focus on. 🙂
Of course, these are just my personal musings. I’d just try to find out from her how she feels! 😀
Another small-fingered lady (size 4.25)