Post # 1
I really dont mean to sound ungrateful but I know I will so here goes… my fiancee propsed 4 months ago and after hinting/asking me a final time for my favourite ring types, and after Id tried on lots at Tiffany, I settled on their new ‘step’ or asher cut on a plain, thin band. I wrote 3 options with low, mid and high pricing so he could chose.
He propsed and it was very romantic and there was ‘my’ ring, Id had it esepcially flown over from another Tiffany’s so I could try it on and had loved in the shop.
So… initial excitment and sqeals,happiness at work and with our friends. But with aquaintances/not very close friends, lots of them know Im engaged but hardly ever ask to see ‘the ring’ up close. Obviously with Tiffany its also about style/setting ad the other Cs, so for the amount he paid, approx $13,000- elsewhere i would have got a much bigger carrat. Its 0.90. I love my ring, but Im wandering if other ladies have experienced the same thing, as in assuming other women would have been as excited/ask to see it/opnely appreciative? I know when Im stood on public transport I see other girls I dont know sneek a peak…!
Maybe girls who havn’t got to that stage of being engeged and knowing about diamonds assume becuase mine isn’t some HUGE rock and quite understated setting, dimaond etc, its nothing special? My fiancee is also a well earning business man, and he spent over 1 months salary (after tax) but could he have gone for the more expensive ring I also put down??
Argggh I know I sounds so bitter but I build things up in my minds and then so over anaylse other peoples reactions etc and it leaves me feeling down…
Im wandeign should I have given up on my dream of a Tiffany and got another bigger rock somewher else? But I still feel I wouldnt feel it was as ‘special’. Anyway Id love your thoughts and experience of other womens reactions, to your ring!
Post # 3
@jem123: Your ring sounds beautiful and special to you. I got very negative reactions about mine because it is “small”. I don’t care, I love it anyway. Still hurts though.
Post # 4
Wait, what? You want to get a bigger diamond because random people aren’t asking you to see it? Some people just don’t care about other people’s jewelry. Hell, I have actual relatives who never asked to see my ring, I just chalked it up to them not caring about it, it’s no reflection on me, my ring or my relationship with my FI. Did you get the ring because you love it, or because you wanted to impress people?
Post # 5
Are you the first of your friends to get engaged? Have you been talking about the ring a lot, or giving off a vibe that you aren’t happy with it?
Reactions to my ring have varied from “Sorry, I’m not really a ring person” to completely gushing over it.
An ascher cut is not very common, maybe people aren’t used to seeing that cut and don’t know how to react to it vs. the sparklier cuts (round & princess).
I tried on rings at Tiffany’s to find a style I liked, but FI decided to order a similar style from elsewhere so as not to pay the Tiffany mark up.
If you always wanted a Tiffany ring, then getting a Tiffany ring is great.
As for the size he got you, you gave him options, he picked one of the options. If you weren’t going to be thrilled with what he got you it shouldn’t have been an “option.”
Finally, don’t let your friend’s reactions to your ring change your feelings towards it. The most important part is what the ring symbolizes (your FI wants to marry you and be with you forever). No matter what your ring looks like, it is the sentiment behind it that really counts.
Post # 6
So you’re upset because people aren’t oohing and aahing over your Tiffanies ring? Is that the jest?
Post # 7
It shouldn’t matter what other people think, do, or say….it’s all about what you like and the symbol of your love with your FI. I’m sure your ring is absolutely beautiful! I mean, it’s a Tiffany ring! Actually, I’d love to see a picture if you have one to post 🙂
Post # 8
I never ask to see the ring, because I think it’s rude.
Post # 9
Have you tried maybe using your left hand more to fix your hair or scratch your face or cover your mouth when you’re yawning more?
Ok, you can flag me now. I couldn’t help myself.
Post # 10
Do you show them the box the ring came in? I honestly would not be able to tell whether a ring came from Tiffany’s or from Walmart just by looking at the ring.
You know that it’s the ring you wanted (and hopefully also the man you wanted), so why does it matter that other people don’t get excited?
Post # 11
i’m so confused. you say you love your ring – so what’s the problem? are you mad that people assume it wasn’t expensive because it isn’t ginormous and therefore don’t gawk?
Post # 12
I’m in agreement with lezlers. Just because everyone isn’t lined up waiting to see your ring doesn’t make it any less special. You seem to be looking for attention because you posted the brand name and price like that makes a difference. Not trying to be rude, but no one is going to care that it’s a Tiffany and the size except for you.
Post # 13
@KatNYC2011: Totally agree. To the OP, no one is going to care as much about wedding stuff (rings, dresses, etc), or really your own life stuff, as you will. The engagement and your ring seems like the biggest, most exciting thing to you, but to other people, they might be content just hearing your proposal story and taking a cursory glance at the ring. Definitely don’t let that change how you feel/make you insecure about your ring! The important thing is that you love it and you’re excited about it!
Post # 14
i had the initial. wow thats beautiful…but they faded after a few months of engagement
i also have a .91 center and every once in a while ill be checking out somewhere and the person at the register will comment on its beauty. And at the time im very appreciative but i dont think about it normally.
I notice peoples rings mostly because im newly engaged…i dont know if people really look that closely on a regular basis
Post # 15
@AprilJo2011: I also really wouldn’t be able to tell. Tragic, I know, but it’s true.
Oh, and regarding people asking to see rings, I have only had ONE person in my year long engagement ask to see the ring that wasn’t my mil and my fil. So, THREE people total have asked and believe me – everyone knew I was engaged.
Post # 16
@coconutmellie: Add me to the list of “no idea”.