Post # 1
Arghh I need some advice please! I just got engaged 3 weeks ago after waiting 10 years, YAY! I had a ring picked out made by a small artisan designer. I fell in LOVE with the setting as soon as I saw it a year ago and nothing has ever compared! Luckily he proposed with this setting (double YAY) It is a rose gold setting made from a REAL willow twig. (I am kinda a hippy) We talked about stones and I never really cared much about the details I just wanted that setting. A few months before he proposed we saw that the designer was offering moissanite, money isnt really an issue but I didnt want him to get into debt and as a tree hugger the no-conflict thing apealed to me. (Not bashing diamonds AT ALL! Read on….) So I told him we might as well get me a big stone! So heproposed with a 6.5mm moissanite (equals aprox. 1 carat) It is beautiful!
It is also slightly GIANT on my wee little hands. Everyone who see’s it comments on how huge it is. I feel it is taking away from the point of the ring…The twig setting. Another issue with such a large stone is, as a small artist the designer generally works with half carats and this was her first time using a stone this size. She didnt really consider the following:
Post # 3
So yeah the apex of the stone is scratching at my finger! 🙁 Really I have a big sore now!
The artist said she can exchange it for a half carat and she is so sweet and accomidating. We absolutly love her but still wanted other opinions. I took it to a local jeweler who said they could try to alter it but I dont know. This is the band I fell in love with and I am leery about anyone altering it.
I also have been thinking about wedding bands….with this size of stone there is not much I can get done (I am an acupuncturist and work with my hands and patients all day so I dont want to add to the size at all) With the .5 the artist offers the following matching band (its unfinished)
Loving this together! Perhaps rose gold ering and white gold band? Anywho. Thats not the point…. Should I go down to a .5? or should I see if someone here (Canada, the artist is in US) can fix it? Also if we go down to a .5 FI wants to get a diamond as he wants my ring to have a certain amount of worth behind it (he is a snob, dont hate) So I will have to compromise and try to get the most conflict free diamond possible.
Thanks for any suggestions!
Post # 4
The ring is gorgeous! But, I understand how you would feel that the big stone is taking away from the details of the band. I totally agree with you on that point. If you love the setting, maybe you could convert your current stone into a lovely necklace and choose a smaller stone for your ring. Or maybe you can get a matching wedding band that really showcases the twig design of the ring you fell in love with. Good luck!
Post # 5
I don’t know, maybe it’s just me, but especially with that rad wedding band, I don’t think the stone detracts from the ring. BUT the bigger issue seems to be that your stone is scratching you!! Since you use your hands that would be a total bummer. You may get used to it. It’s only been three weeks, so you could wait. But if your ring is hurting you, well that’s just not good at all. I agree with you about not wanting anyone but the original jeweler to do it. That’s what I would do as well. By the way, your ring is stunning, and I love the rose gold “twigs” 🙂
Post # 6
I think I commented on your ring once before but I LOVE it. It’s just gorgeous just the way it is, and so unique. Personally I don’t think the 1ct stone detracts from the band, but like the PP said, the scratching is definitely an issue.
Post # 7
Size the stone down, and keep it moissanite if conflict free matters to you. Principles are more important than monetary value! I’m sure your FI doesn’t want to support slavery and all the bad things associated with mined diamonds nowadays. Just explain how important it is to you. Or, you could always get a conflict free Canadian diamond; from what I’ve heard, they are REALLY pricey.
I love that lower set with the leaf wrap and completely see your point about the stone overpowering the band. To be honest, I didn’t even notice the band in the first pic. I just saw bling! lol. The lower set’s design really caught my eye, though.
Post # 8
Your ring is amazing with the stone the size it is, honestly. I love it! I would do whatever I could to get it altered with the current moissanite in it so that it doesn’t scratch, whether that be the person who made it or another jeweler. I’m also loving that band & I think it would be gorgeous with your ring (again, as is).
I really don’t think the stone detracts from the design- the setting is so one-of-a-kind I’m not sure that’s possible. I actually think that downsizing the stone that much alters the look of the ring ALOT more than altering the position of the current stone itself. So I guess it’s up to you in just how different you want it to look, of course depending on much you’ve fallen in love with that look in the last 3 weeks.
Please post when you decide! I’ve seen your ering on a couple threads & always wondered about the story behind it because of how unique it is Good luck!
Post # 9
Hmm, I think if I were you, if the artist couldn’t adjust the ring so it wasn’t pinching you, I would have her switch it out for a smaller stone.
As for diamond vs moissy, this is something that seems important to you. It’s nice that FI wants to add value to it, but it sounds like maybe you two should talk some more about it?
It truly is beautiful and I love the band with it!
Post # 10
I actually do agree that the large stone is taking away from the setting. I’ve seen your pictures before, and didnt really took note of the setting. (sorry). But in the pic with the smaller stone and the band, the setting and unique wedding band is definitely on display, and the stone is more of an accent. Where as now, the stone is the center of attention and the setting second. If you dont care for it to be a diamond, why waste the money. I voted go for a smaller moissy.
Post # 11
That’s a lovely ring, and the matching band is awesome!! You’ve got darn good taste. 🙂
For something so intricate and unique, if it were me, I would not trust anyone to work on it other than the original designer if at all possible. And obviously the size of the stone is actually a problem… (if only all of our problems were such nice ones like that!). I would probably get the smaller stone from the designer, and have a discussion on what exact type of stone with your fiance. Describe in detail why you feel the way you do about both stones, and have him do the same. Every little silly reason you can come up with that matters to you, even if it sounds really stupid. You might suprize each other with what you say, and end up coming to a conclusion just through discussion.
One idea… have you considered a completely different type of stone? Money permitting (it is a problem on our end at the moment), I’m hoping to get a white sapphire or topaz. Conflict free, and still worth something depending on how high the quality.
Good luck with whatever you decide. 🙂 And again, that is an awesome ring set!
Post # 12
It is a gorgeous ring!!!! Just as is, BUT the scratching doesn’t sound to fun at all! If you are to afraid to let anyone other than the artist fix the ring, then take it to her. Personally I think a .5 would look amazing on your hands as the 1 carat looks huge!!!! 🙂 But if you want to keep the 1 carat you could let someone in Canada try to fix it, if you want to risk it. IDK if I would, but its totally up to you. Switching to a .5 diamond seems more in your interest to me, if you want to be 100% safe with altering the ring.
Post # 13
I don’t think that the stone it too big in looks, but again, you want the focus more on the setting and it does take away from it a little bit. The biggest problem is really how it isn’t sitting on your finger properlly.
Go for the smaller stone, I think it will make you happier.
Post # 14
Thanks ladies, I am leaning towards going with a smaller stone, though I am a bit worried about the drastic change in size this is a pic of a simular ring (I wont have the side stones) on a woman that apears to have much larger hands then mine:
I dont know! ahhh! That size would look good on my smaller hands right? I know this is the perfect setting for us and I am pretty sure I will like a smaller stone but worried after having 1ct on my hand for a month the .5 will looks teeny to me…..
Post # 15
Ugh Just thinking how attached I have become to this ring! This was the one he proposed with….Think I will go see one more jeweler to make sure they can alter it without changing its look at all..if they cant will go down to .5
Post # 16
I think if they sized it up a bit and then put another ring within it, to protect your finger? Does that make sense? There must be some way to raise it up so it isn’t cutting you.