- 7 years ago
Hey everyone, first time posting here though I’ve been lurking a while. I got engaged March 25 completely out of the blue – literally, we were making dinner, I was a bit tipsy, and I asked him and he said yes. It was really fast and totally unplanned (though we’d been discussing the idea of marriage/getting engaged since July of last year), so of course no ring. We kept the engagement a secret for 3 weeks while we talked things over and let our moms get used to the idea. It was really, really important for me that his mom approve of the engagement before we announced it publicly, so I was absolutely thrilled when she gave us her “blessing” (so to speak) and we were able to tell everyone.
My FI is finishing school and I’m working full-time to support the both of us since he makes very little money. We don’t have a lot to spend on extras, and so while we looked at rings at first I was perfectly okay with waiting until we had the money to get one. I’ve never been a diamond gal, so when we found this one at Zales and I tried it on I was thrilled – both with how pretty it was and with the price:
During our round of calls with family, my uncle asked about the ring and when he found out that we were waiting, he offered to send us $100 as an engagement gift so we could get the ring (I didn’t tell him how much it was, I’m sure he figured he was just chipping in).
My FI is understandably uncomfortable with the idea of not paying at least a little bit for the ring. And this would’ve been fine except that last week I wandered into a little boutique on my lunch break and found a ring I love SO MUCH more:
It’s a one-of-a-kind handmade pearl ring with a diamond accent. My second trip in with FI to see it, the artist was there and she explained to me how she made it which was just so cool. I love the idea of having a handmade ring, and despite the slight awkward size it just fits me and my personality *perfectly*. Only problem is that it’s about $80 more than the other ring, which is $80 my FI does not have and probably won’t for at least another month.
I’m starting to feel horribly awkward without a ring because people keep asking about it and also I feel terrible that my uncle sent us a nice gift and I haven’t called him to say thanks because he’ll ask about the ring and I’ll have to say we still haven’t gotten one.
Do you think I should just suck it up and get the original ring now (there’s a 10% discount online today only) so I can move on or keep waiting? I’m also afraid that the other one will be sold in the time it takes for us to afford it. I’ve offered to just pay for the remainder myself since I do have the money, but again my FI feels weird about that and I don’t want to feel like I’ve done all the work in our engagement. Ack, just so frustrated!