Post # 1
I kind of posted this before but didn’t explain it well so I didn’t get a response and I’m running out of time. I figured I would expound on it and see if anyone had any great advice. Thanks for helping!
My bf and I recently bought a ring. He told me I had to wait to wear it until he proposed properly, which I obliged happily to. Well, he has planned a secret weekend for us, and has all but told me that he is going to propose Friday night.
I am super excited, but I don’t want it to be completely about me. I really want to do something special for him. I know that we are going to stay at a hotel so I plan on going out and buying some new lingerie for the weekend but that’s as far as I’ve gotten.
When we were looking at rings he picked out a $2,000 watch that he jokingly said he wanted for a wedding gift. I plan on following through with this and had though about picking it up for him early to wear as an "engagement watch". I thought it would be cute. However, that’s a steep price tag and I really don’t think it would be financially wise.
I also thought about getting him an a bracelet or ring to wear. I am worried about the ring idea because I don’t know what he would do with it once we got married and he started wearing his wedding band. I can’t see him wearing two rings. Does anyone have any experience with male engagement rings? What do they do with them when they get the wedding band.
I also read that some men get thier wedding band early and wear it on their right hand until the wedding. I though about doing that also. The only catch there is that his ring is Tungsten and can’t be resized if I order it in the wrong size. The jeweler was going to order a couple so she could get an exact fit on it before we actually purchase it and we haven’t done that yet.
And as far as a bracelet goes, I bought him an ID bracelet last year when he was baptized with his daughter. I had engraved with a religious message and both of their initials. He wears that any time we go out along with his current watch on the other wrist. I don’t want it to look like he’s wearing bangle bracelets.. haha. Maybe he could switch them out though and take turns wearing them.
Any other suggestions??? Did anyone do anything like this? I was hoping someone would have a great idea 🙂
Thanks! and sorry for being so long winded
Post # 3
My fiance is always talking about wanting a ring! I would love, love, love to be able to buy him a nice watch because he is always looking at them and telling me which ones he likes (and I will try very hard to afford one as a wedding gift for him). I may end up buying him a simple sterling silver band because he wishes he had one during our (very long) engagement. I think boys get jealous that girls get to wear something signifying their engagement, and they just have to wait! I vote for a ring, just maybe not the wedding band, so that he has something to look forward to!
Post # 4
Honestly, I think you should enjoy the special night and get him a watch (a less expensive one) for his wedding gift.
Post # 5
Trust me, when he puts that ring on your finger, it definitely won’t be a night all about you. It will be about both of you. You will feel so happy and so close as a couple. I never would have anticipated how close my FI and I felt on that night. I would just pick up some lingerie as you suggested, and enjoy the special time together. Then, save up each month until your wedding to purchase the watch for him! 😀
Post # 6
I bought my FH an inexpensive ring. He wanted an engagement gift and was apprehensive about wearing a wedding band bc he’s not used to it. I bought him a $40 silver-colored band from Wal-Mart and gave it to him on our one year of being engaged, I think it was titanium. I was worried he wouldn’t wear it much, but he really likes his pre-wedding band and says its good practice. He wears it on his right hand.
Post # 7
We bought him an inexpesive titanium ring. It’s really cool, but we won’t shed tears if he’s not wearing it after the wedding. It was really important for him to have something on his left 4th finger as well during our long (15 month) engagement. When we get married, he’ll either move it to his right hand or wear it only when his wedding ring might get damaged: working with his hands, traveling.
Hopefully that helps.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone for the advice! I went shopping yesterday and wandered through the jewelry stores while I was at the mall. I found a bracelet at Kay that is going to be perfect. It is an ID bracelet with carbon fiber inlay on the links (except the middle ID piece). He has already picked out the wedding band he wants and it is a Tungsten Carbite ring so this bracelet will match it perfectly. I had to order it and it wont be here until Feb 11th so I don’t have to worry about upstaging him.
I’m going to have the bracelet engraved with the Infinity symbol on the outside (to represent the shelf life of our relationship) and with our monogram on the inside. I told him I bought him something and that he wont get it until Valentines day.
I’ll still save up and get him his Tag Heuer watch for a wedding gift too. This way he will be completely decked out..haha.
Post # 9
Sounds very sweet. I’m sure he’s going to love it, since you’ve been so very thoughtful about it!
Post # 10
I ordered a set of matching "engagement bands" for both of us – I get a diamond ring too, but I wanted to have something that we both had to connect us as a couple, and I want him to wear a ring, at least some of the time, partly to get used to it and partly because I shouldn’t have to wear a ring that says I’m off the market if he doesn’t. I ordered this set from Etsy and am excited – it was pretty cheap, and the fact that they are wooden means that they will not be suitable for lifetime use but will probably last until the wedding. I will wear mine on my right hand. They will also be good for traveling if we don’t want to take our expensive rings with us.
When they come in, I hope they will soon, I will post and let you know how they turn out.