Post # 1
I’ve found that people have a myriad of odd questions and even more perplexing reactions to my answers to the questions. Sometimes I try to refrain from answering but some people are just persistant.
Today a guy at work came up and started talking to me about proposing to his girlfriend. He asked about local jewelry stores, ring styles, what to look for, etc.
I tried to be helpful but I also tried to be mindful of the fact that his girlfriend and I may not share similar tastes.
He then asked about how much my ring costs. I was hesitant to tell him because…well it’s a ring..it costs money. That’s all he needs to know. But he’s typically a friendly guy and he seemed genuinely curious so I gave him a range(not 100% sure of the exact price)
He popped his cork. He proceeded to go on and on about how women are so concerned about the price of things and how everything has to be bigger, better, shinier, etc. He just couldn’t believe any guy would spend so much hard earned money on a ring. Then he proceeded to ask if the jeweler I recommended has anything in the $100-$200 price range because his woman didn’t need material things to make her happy because she was so hopelessly in love with him.
At first I was stunned. Then annoyed. Then mildly amused.
So I proceeded to correct him. I told him “…under no certain circumstances did I force my SO into spending a certain amount. He knew what style I like and knew clairty and color were more important to me than the carat size. From there he picked out a band and diamond he knew I’d like in a price point he was comfortable spending. Furthermore my SO works damn hard for his money therefore he can spend it anyway he sees fit. I hardly think it’s appropriate for you to ask how much my ring cost then berate me when I grudgingly tell you.”
lol I’ve had a lot of goofy questions and reactions to things and I’ve come to expect it from certain people but that one caught me off guard.
What’s one of the goofiest questions and reactions you’ve gotten.
Post # 3
My Mom and my Godmother swooped down on me and demanded to know how much my ring cost. I told them, and they reacted like high school girls the first time someone says “Yeah, I touched his… You know.”
Gasping and laughing and shreaking! It was phenomenal!
Post # 4
bahaha thinking about that scene actually made me snort.
Post # 5
@SweetHoneyBee: YAY for you for telling him what for and sticking up for yourself! What a stupid way to behave, what does the guy think he’s going to get for asking such a rude question?!
Honestly I think it’s absurd that people get so wrapped up in the cost of these things. Everything wedding-related is too expensive, but if a man wants to get a beautiful diamond or other highly valued stone and a nice ring for his fiancee, that’s his choice and people shouldn’t blame it on the woman– his money, his choice!
I would hate to be that guy’s SO. He sounds immature and, well, stingy with his money if he has that attitude. Ugh!
Post # 6
@BrandNewBride: LOL! Really, I’m laughing! What a funny idea, and what a funny way to put it!! I completely get what you mean!
Post # 7
I can’t believe people ask that question! I’ve only had one person ask me and I told them
one million dollars! LOL
Post # 8
And this is why it is often recommended that you never, ever talk money or prices with anyone for any reason. It is extraordinarily rude for anyone to ask, but I wouldn’t tell someone, even if they were persistent. In my mind, it is almost equally rude to answer. In general, no matter what people claim, they want to know the price so they can judge.
Post # 9
@SweetHoneyBee: 100-200? Good luck with that, buddy.
Post # 10
some people are just completely clueless when it comes to the cost of jewellery (and tact).
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
It’s so funny how people have an idea of a price range in their head of what is reasonable and what is outrageous.
For me personally, I think $1000 is reasonable, you’re wearing it forever and you want quality (I’m also a big fan of moissanite).
I haven’t discussed budget with my SO, but when I talk about how friends of mine love rings in the $3000-5000 range, and how I couldn’t spend that, he said that by many standards, that’s pretty cheap. He has also said that his friends are happy for him that I want a ‘cheap’ ring.
Then there are people that have rings under $100 and think spending anymore than that is outrageous. We all have our idea of what works.
Let’s just hope that dude and his future FI have the same values, or he’ll be having a big time reality check.
Good for you for standing up to him! The gumption some people have!
Post # 12
@abirdword BAHAHAHAH I was thinking the SAME thing! Can someone even get a promise ring for $100-$200?
Post # 13
“…because she was so hopelessly in love with him.” Conceited, much?!
Post # 14
We haven’t told anyone what my ring costs, so I haven’t had any conversations like this.
FI sort of did though. He was talking to his female coworker, and she asked if my ring was expensive. FI was like ummm…yes. (it’s such a weird question to ask someone)
My e-ring is a sapphire, so it’s a lot less expensive than a diamond of the same size would be. We still consider it to be a lot of money, even if it’s not overly expensive for an e-ring.
She responded that she views her future e-ring as an heirloom, so the e-ring has to cost at least $10,000. (this is for the future guy that she’s not even currently dating)
FI and I had a long discussion about how we think it’s crazy to say an e-ring must cost a certain amount of money (what if you love something that costs less?) or that if you didn’t spend a certain amount it isn’t good quality/can’t be an heirloom.
This girl doesn’t really have the same concept of money that we do, though. She spends a lot on things and then brags about how she’s “only” spending xyz. And the amount is always ridiculous!
Post # 15
@Mrs Canuck: +1 exactly what I was thinking
I have a friend that made a comment on how her husband should be so glad that she was not “into jewelry” like I am. (I only wear my wedding set, an occasional RHR and a modest necklace). Same friend that commented that my ring “must have cost $10,000”. Well my whole set was about $7,000. So that’s a little off. But kinna thought it was all a little rude.
Post # 16
Wow, I would be stunned if anyone asked me that question. I also like to pretend my ring didn’t cost what it did because it makes me a little sick.