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I just happened to have to use my best friends computer today and came across a wedding ring site for the area we live in. Freaking out she informs me that this is the ring my boyfriend just bought for me. Its a 3 stone right, with 3 small side stone each side. She then goes on to tell me that its .25 total carat weight and that its super small and i wont like it. Does anyone have a picture of what this looks like. Is it actually really tiny?
Post # 3
Isn’t there a picture of it on the site you were on?
I don’t understand why you wouldn’t like a ring that he picked out on his own to give to you. So what if it is small. You can always get a wedding band to dress it up and/or you can upgrade later on one of your anniverseries, if the size bothers you.
Post # 4
this is a .25 so you have to think that your main stones will be a little smaller because you have side stones also.
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There was a picture but there all the same no matter what the carat weight was. And ive come to the conculsion that im more mad that i found out about it, and now im just trying to find things to pick about, Because i didnt see this comming at all, since im only 19.
Post # 6
i can’t get the pic to uplaod
just google .25 carat 3 stone rings.
Post # 7
There is also the possibility that since they are both probably total jewelry newbs that the weight of the setting without center stone might be 0.25cts.
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Your friend doesn’t sound very nice.
Just wait and see what your boyfriend comes up with, THEN worry if you don’t like it. The most important thing is the man and the marriage. Not carat weight or bitchy friends.
Congratulations on your engagement, let this other stuff roll off your back.
Post # 11
thank you very much, texaslawgir, i feel alot better nowl. I really wish my friend had of told me that she was just randomly looking at them instead of telling me the truth.
Post # 12
Well, you don’t know if she IS telling the truth you know? Regardless, even if she is, the ring you posted a link to is beautiful, and you will be thrilled with it. Noone will expect a 19 year old to have the same size ring as a 35 year old. Many women get engaged without a ring at all! The ring your boyfriend chose is fantastic, you’re going to love it.
Post # 13
I agree with Texaslawgirl! At your age my FH gave me a promise ring. I was 23 when he proposed to me because he wanted to graduate and get a good job (which is understandable). But waiting was not always fun. So at least you get to avoid that. Congrats in advance!
Post # 14
if you click on the .25 ctw in the second row on the right, you can select “hand view” and see (approximately) what it will look like on your hand.
I would personally classify it as “very dainty,” and if you do not like the look of itty bitty diamonds, then maybe consider an alternative to diamonds. It is all personal opinion, and totally up to you of course!
Some women love diamonds, and I love the look of diamonds but not the inflated price, which is why FI and I have settled on moissanite. We’re 20, probably going to get engaged by 22, and complete grad school/get married by 25 or 26, so finances are something we definitely have to keep in mind.
Just an option!
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I’m confused by this:
And ive come to the conculsion that im more mad that i found out about it, and now im just trying to find things to pick about, Because i didnt see this comming at all, since im only 19.
It sounds to me like you don’t exactly want to be engaged, and that your boyfriend is totally coming out of left field with a proposal, which you don’t think is appropriate right now. Is that what you meant? If so, shouldn’t we be helping you address that issue before the ring one?
Post # 16
I agree with everything everyone else has said.
1) The ring is beautiful and size doesn’t matter, its the thought that’s behind it. My ring is “dainty” as everyone calls it but I love it because it’s something he picked 🙂 Plus the side stones make it more sparkly so it won’t matter if the center stone is smaller because it’ll still shine like crazy 🙂
2) Your friend was so rude to say that to you! She should never have told you the truth, that’s awful of her to have gone and ruined the surprise for you, and to tell you that you won’t like it is just so so mean!
3) I agree with littlemissmango, if you do feel like you aren’t ready to get engaged then you need to talk to your bf about this before he proposes. Maybe try to have a discussion about where you guys see yourself in the future and if you don’t feel ready to get engaged then say something like I hope to get engaged at (whatever age you feel comfortable) amd be engaged for however long. That way you won’t be letting him know that you know he has a ring, but he will still be clued into how you’re feeling about being engaged right now.
Good luck but just remember that it doesn’t matter what other people think about your ring, it’s a symbol that is important to you and your bf and that’s what really matters 🙂