(Closed) Ring Question

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@roxiehart:  Would she let you reset the stone? Then it feels like a new ring. And can your SO afford another ring? I would be more willing to use an heirloom if the only new ring we could afford would be of lower quality. How does your SO feel about the ring?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Thats very sweet of her to offer, however if it was me, i would have to pass… i’m not comfortable wearing anything which came from a broken marriage. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You can wear your grandma’s ring as a right-hand ring.  I’m kind of superstitious so I would worry of wearing a ring that has a history of divorce as my wedding band (maybe just me).

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

See if she would let you redesign her ring into something that is more your choice. But you should really do whatever you feel is right because it is your ring in the end and something you will have to wear forever. You also have to think about your FI in the future he might want to give you something he chose or his heirloom from his grandmother…lots to think about ….you will make the right choice in the end if you go with your heart

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t believe that there’s anything wrong with wearing a diamond from a broken marriage – most diamonds you buy were someone else’s before, anyway! We bought mine Nov 2011, and the paperwork says it has been around since 2008, so who knows what happened to it before she became mine! I would talk to your future FI about what he/you can afford and what you want. After you decide that… THEn talk to your grandma about resetting it if that’s what you want!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think taking the stone from it would be great!!  Its a family piece and I think it would be special to take the stone from it, and reset it into something beautiful, something you want and love and something that you and your FI can do together or something your Fi can take and design on his own, you could even add more stones of keep it as a solitare…. SO many options, I think that would be great and special and would even save some $ 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Fallicious1012:  I totally agree, we did the samething!!! You also know you arent getting a “blood diamond” 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@roxiehart:  I would just reset the stone then!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

When my husband proposed 12 years ago, our options were either his mother’s 1 carat solitaire in a tiffany setting or a vintage ring that was his mother’s aunt’s.  I chose the vintage b/c they (aunt and her husband) had a good marriage (or so i was told).  His mother was in the middle of a divorce from DH’s father when he died.  I loved that vintage ring for years but I can honestly tell you, I always wanted a solitaire.  For our 10th anniversary, DH surprised me with a .7 solitaire in a Tiffany setting. I love it.

Now…after being married over 10 years, I can tell you…the ring I wore is just a beautiful ring and a symbol that I am married.  It didn’t make my marriage better or worse.  Looking back, I would have taken the solitaire that was my mother-in-law’s since it was (and still is) my dream.  (I would have taken it years after if she hadn’t had lost it).  So…from someone who was in a similar situation, I would say to take it if you like it and forget that they got divorced.  But…that’s just my own opinion.  You have to do what feels right for you…  🙂  Best of luck!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Even a “new” stone usually is not brand new. People trade in stones, sell them back, and so on.

I don’t believe a stone carries karma or can affect your marriage. Your marriage is about what you two bring to it, not what a stone does! The ring is just a symbol, not the substance.

I would probably take your grandmas stone if it was a beautiful stone as I love vintage stones, and maybe reset it if the setting was not my style.

But, I am not you! If you feel uncomfortable with it than decline or see if she is willing to provide it to you as a right hand ring.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If she is offering the ring to you then, surely she wouldn’t expect you to keep the same setting? If I was to give my grandchild my ring (when I’m a gran – lol) I wouldn’t expect her to keep the setting, but to rather make something that is more “her” and acceptable for her to wear for the rest of her life.

 Find out from her before you accept whether she has a sentimental attachment to the ring, if she doesn’t, then you make it your own and make your marriage your own too.  What happened to other people is exactly that, it’s stuff that happened to them and that’s not to say it will happen to you.

You will make the choice that’s right for you, don’t think on it too much, do what your heart is feels is right. 

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