I don't think asking your FI to change your ring is a good idea because it has special meaning... Any ring that comes after this one is not THE ring so i think it kind of loses it's intended value. I can understand about the whole compliment thing, however I am guessing because you work in the wedding industry you are just more in tune with hearing compliments about rings/dresses/weddings. You can always add diamond bands or get 10 year or 20 year rings if you'd like but I just feel like your FI might feel crushed if you wanted to change something he got for you from his heart.
Perhaps just change the center stone with a peachy-pink moissanite? It will have lots of sparkle but your ring will still look pretty much the same! Or change the look and go with a clear moissanite, if you want something more traditional looking.
Morganite is not a forever stone, and cannot be worn in an everyday ring. The cloudy is likley abrasions on the top of the stone, And it is beryl, so just not that highly refractive. I would approach him honestly. And say you made a bad call on the stone, that morganite needs to be babied and is not to be worn everyay, or will get ruined...like your stone And then get a more durable stone to replace it. Like sapphire, moisanite, or diamond. :) I would keep the setting, and just replace the stone.
@FutureMrsVerde: I LOVE that its a Emerald style center (thats what I have) I can see what you mean is it possible to just change the stone? maybe Moissy? the ring is a beautiful ring for sure and the Rosegold is fantastic (wont lie gives me ring envy at times LoL) so I think all it would take is swapping out the stone or even taking it to a jeweler to ask about how ot keep the stone clear and bright!
Maybe get it cleaned and polished and you'll fall in love with it again?
I can see why people might not think it's an engagement ring, it looks like it could be a RHR
Oh my god I love your ring! I love emerald cut stones. I know morganite isn't a forever stone, but it should definitely last longer than a few months without getting cloudy! I don't know where you got it from but maybe they have some sort of warranty or return policy you can take advantage since it's gotten cloudy so fast. If you do this, you could definitely get a peachy moissanite or sapphire like PP said. It will be the same color but will be super sparkly and shiny!
And as far as your FI goes, if you picked out the ring, I don't see it being a problem if you approach him about changing it. That way he sees it as more your bad call, not his (although I don't think it's a bad call at all, but I understand wanting it to be shiny). Just tell him that this is your e-ring and you want it to last forever, and you didn't realize that morganite wouldn't last very lng, so you want to replace it with something that looks the same, but will last longer! I wouldn't change the entire ring, though, I think most FIs might be offended by that. Just the center stone, that way he knows it's not the whole ring that you don't like, just the cloudiness
@jcent: Ooo i seccond the idea of a Peachy Pink Sapphire those are BEAUTIFUL
My peachy pink sapphire also gets cloudy sometimes, but after I clean it it is a lot better. It just needs cleaned more often than a diamond because it doesn't reflect light the way diamonds do.
I'm not sure how you would clean a morganite though... I don't want to suggest anything because my sapphire is harder. Morganites are a bit softer... but maybe talk to your jeweler and clean it every couple of weeks.
Morganite is not a "sparkly" stone. And it's a relatively soft gemstone, 7.5 - 8 on the Mohs scale. The surface of your stone may have been abraded through daily wear, so perhaps it could be polished again.
If you don't like diamonds, rubies and sapphires are much harder stones, and suitable for daily wear. If you are ok with lab grown, there are all different colors of moissanite.
The barely pink moissanite is a much closer colour match to morganite that the peachy pink, but emeral but is not available, You would have to get a radiant. A sapphire would be the only way to get that colour and a step cut. I do love your ring though, OP. :) But the center stone looking dull would bug me too.
That is such an original, awsesome ring!!! I love the emerald cut. If it were me.I would tell my fiancee. I would say I love my ring but..and express your concerns...x
If you change the stone, you will still have your ring. The center stone isn't the important part IMO, the ring part is--hence "engagement ring" rather than "engagement diamond/stone".
When FI proposed to me, the ring still had the jewelry store CZ in it, and it will stay there until we figure out what we want to put there. When I change the stone out, it won't be any less "my ring" (though I probably will keep the CZ since I am a little sentimental about it. Maybe put it in a pendant or something.)
ETA: I would talk to him about it. It's still at a point where it can probably be polished and used in another piece of jewelry, but if you keep wearing it and keep polishing it, eventually you won't be able to. Over time, it may develop deep abrasions that can't be fixed without significantly impacting the look of the stone. Just let him know you didn't know this would be the case, and see if he would be open to a moissanite or something. It would be a much more durable stone and more traditional-looking, but wouldn't cost nearly what a diamond of a similar size would.
Alternately, you could put a temporary Asha in for now until you save the money for your dream diamond.
Do morganite stones get cloudy over time just because that's what they do, or does it just need a good clreaning and buffing? Sorry if it's a silly question, I love morganite rings but I don't know jack about 'em!
@jcent: I second motion this! I'd almost recommend you speak to your FI about wearing your true ER on your right hand and getting a traditional diamond for the left, as a way of having an every day more durible ring for work, and your beautiful beryl morganite as your heirloom to keep forever and always and to wear on more special occasions. This way it will be a taking turns idea, not a replacement.
Have you thought of "NEXUS diamonds" they are lab created so there is no ethical issues and the price is more realistic. My friend has a Nexus diamond that is 2ct and you can not tell at all. We have compared them several times with others including my 3ct old mine cut diamond which has no clor or inclusions and the quality is amazing. Especially if you like the traditional look of a diamond without the negitives. Its worth giving it a try. If you explain it over a glass of wine or nice dinner i bet he will be onboard.
Good Luck
Because you picked it, I don't think talking to your FI will be bad. It might even give him a chance to go out and surprise you by buying something gorgeous that you would love that screams ER...you'll never know unless you talk to him
Your ring is beautiful! I personally love morganite. I know that there are lots of people that say morganite is not for everyday wear but I have also heard otherwise many times. Yes its not as hard as some other stones but its perfectly fine to use in an engagement ring as long as you take good care of it, which wouldn't you do with a diamond anyways? As far as the cloudiness goes, morganite is not known to become cloudy over time as some people may think. Maybe if you use a good cleaner on it it will sparkle back up. Morganite does not have as high of a refractive index as diamonds, but it actually does have a good refractive index. My morganite and diamond engagement ring sparkles beyond belief. It seems that if you have only had your ring since November and your having issues with it not sparkling, maybe you should confront the jeweler about it. It just seems to me that shouldnt happen.
Here is a picture of my morganite and diamnond halo set in platinum which I have had for a month less than you:
@angietime: I agree!! You could get a solitiare for your everyday ering, and then either try to have the morganite repolished, or replaced...and it could be your ring for special days, when you are not working with your hands, picking up things, doing dishes etc. I have pave, and I only wear it for doing out to dinner. Solitaires get my daily wear.
I too have second thoughts on my ering (its a 3-stone but they are not the clearest and the side stones are different sizes... only I can tel apparently but it still bothers me) and I don't think you should feel like you can't change it!
A lot of women in my life do not have the same ring they got proposed to with... stones fall out, upgrades happen, sometimes tastes change as well.
I am even looking into a moissanite solitare for our ONE year anniversary lol
Its all about what YOU want...
Do you not like moissanite?
@Pinkpiggynat: Diamond Nexus stones are not lab-created diamonds, they are diamond simulants. There are a lot of threads on here as well as a lot of websites you can find through a google search that will tell you that they sell really overpriced cubic zirconia. If you want a CZ, that's great, but for heavens sake don't be duped into paying that much for one. They don't do a good job of advertising what they really sell -- I have a friend with a Diamond Nexus ring, and she truly believes she has a lab-created diamond.
Diamonds are completely carbon -- what Diamond Nexus sells is not. Real lab-created diamonds are usually canary yellow and oftentimes are actually *more* expensive than earth-mined diamonds.
ETA: I just visited their website for the first time in over a year -- it looks like the word "simulant" does appear a lot more frequently than it used to, so they're being a lot more straightforward about their product now.
Everyone makes mistakes. Talk to your FI about it. It can become a special-occasion ring. I suggest hunting around for a good bargain on a more traditional diamond ring. You can get a Canadian diamond if you like. If money is a factor, I'd suggest a design that's simple and understated, as that can be cost-effective and doesn't look "cheap," but instead demure and ladylike.
I can't help with all these decisions about stone choice but I can offer these two thoughts:
-After my initial phase of showing off my ring everywhere I went with utter joy and excitement - no one comments on my ring. No one brings it up.
-My diamond gets cloudy sometimes from being dirty. It will not wash off in water. I think maybe I get lotion on it or something. I take it to the jeweler and then it sparkles like new.
I agree with a previous poster about Canadian diamonds. I would also do some reading on the Kimberly Process.
You ladies are the best. So many helpful suggestions! I'm going to talk to FI tonight when he gets home from work. I'm going to see what he thinks about keeping my current ring and possibly getting a more durable ring to swap out with. That way I can baby my morganite and make sure it DOES last. I am going to do a lot of research on conflict-free diamonds and the diamond alternatives. Thank you all!
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So we've been engaged since November and I have been wearing a gorgeous morganite/ rose gold combo that I picked out and fell in love with. I'm ethically not a big fan of diamonds and thought that Morganite would be a really pretty alternative! Since I've had the ring, it has gotten cloudy, it doesn't really sparkle like I want it to..and I just feel sort of indifferent about it. I never get compliments on it (I know, it shouldn't matter.. but it does) and I just feel like people don't think it's an engagement ring. Not to mention, I work in the wedding industry and see so many beautiful examples of more classic style rings.. I keep finding myself having serious ring regret and just wanting something more traditional. I know that ethically-sourced diamonds exist and there are other similar alternatives.. I'm just not sure what to do?
Do I bring this up to FI? How do I do that? Will I eventually get over it?