Post # 1
Since joining the Bee I have seen many beautiful rings which have made me question the beauty of my own. I suffered from shrinkage comparing my 1/3 carat with the 1 carat+ rings which many Bees own. I thought mine was too small even though it is a standard size for the UK.
My best friend got engaged on Valentines Day (yay!) and sent me a pic of her 1.5 – 2 carat solitaire based on the Tiffany setting. I was green with envy! It was beautiful! But when I saw it IRL, it didn’t make my heart flutter like my own. I didn’t wish I could swap stones and I felt perfectly happy with my sparkly 1/3 carat. So it would appear that my ring regrets/insecurities only have a place online!
Have you seen a ring IRL which made you regret your own? Or like me, do you like the idea rather than the reality of a different ring/setting/size stone?
Post # 3
@linnylou_88: Nope, never had any ring regret. I LOVE so many of the giant sparklers on here and that I see in jewlers. But I wouldnt swap any of them…..I might buy them as a RHR worn when appropriate. But never for my little beauty. 🙂
Post # 4
@LilLis: + 100
@linnylou_88: OP, I am glad that you love your ring. Just keep in mind that WB, like so many other social media sites, isn’t real life. No one cares about size or specs IRL as much as on a board that is solely dedicated to discussing engagement rings.
I love all the big, blingy beauties on here. I love them on other people though, not on me 🙂
Post # 5
@linnylou_88: I’ve never had ring regret. I honestly like my ring the best out of all the ones on here; and larger rings just don’t do it for me anyway.
My ring is technically an ‘upgrade’, and when we were shopping around for quotes I kept being told by jewellers how with our budget we could get a decent-sized solitaire or halo (mine is a cluster); and we could have bought a 0.8 H VS2 triple-x solitaire, or a 0.65ct G VS2 triple-x in a double halo within budget. But, they just weren’t ‘me’. The same goes for the rings on here.
The only ring regret I had was the fact we didn’t do our research and went with white gold, and a high-street store; that issue was rectified by having the ring copied in platinum by an independent jeweller.
But yeah, I’ve never experienced regret in the sense of envy/wishing I had a different style/bigger size. If I’d gone for a solitaire probably the biggest I would have gone to would be 0.65ct, as I prefer those proportions on my finger.
Post # 6
@linnylou_88: I have not seen a ring IRL that made me second guess my own. I’ve seen some very pretty rings that I might want to add to my collection someday but nothing that I imagined would suit me better than what FH got me.
Post # 7
I can appreciate all rings but I love my own the most 🙂
Post # 8
I have no ring regrets either from what I’ve seen on the bee or IRL. I am very happy with what I received. It represents us at the point we were at when we got engaged and that’s all that matters to me. I adore my wedding and engagement rings and couldn’t imagine wearing anything else.
Re RHRs – woo the bee has given me all sorts of crazy ideas and one day, if and when we are financially able to, I shall be exploring some of those options for sure! But my wedding and engagement rings will remain as they are.
Post # 9
I think the closest I would ever get would be diamond regret! And even that would really take a bit since I could always go for a rhr if I cared. My ering is about my FI taking me to the jeweler and having them custom make the ring 🙂 I got a super hard to find unheated pad sapphire (cushion cut) – no other sapphire compares to mine and I adore my ring! I think it helps to find the unique aspect of your 1/3 ct ring and embrace it.
Post # 10
No ring regret here! I see so many gorgeous ones on here, but then I look down at mine and see it is so perfect for me. I wouldn’t change it for the world! While I do drool over the big stones, I sometimes find the chunky rings too much for my personal taste.
Post # 11
@linnylou_88: my mom and I have the same finger size, so taking her 6 carat ceylon sapphire and 2.75 carat round brilliant diamond for a spin has made me more than confident that my ring is the right size for me.
Others may think my stone is little and my ring is dainty, but I don’t think those are negative comments. I wouldn’t trade in or trade up my ring, and the attention you get with serious bling makes me uncomfortable!
I’ve noticed that my struggles with shrinkage were definitely stemming from my online activities. In real life, a 2+ carat ring would not suit me at all.
Post # 12
I think I am one of the few here that really isn’t into big gemstone/diamond rings. Part of it is that I just like the look of a gemstone or diamond with more metal (like the bezel setting), part of it is that I don’t have a lot of finger real estate between knuckle and palm on either hand and a bigger stone overwhelms them.
Also when I see diamonds or simulants or white gemstones over a carat my eyes glaze over and they start to look alike. With big diamonds (since I know how much they probably cost) I also think about how many animals I could rescue with the money that was spent. And would probably feel guilty About spending the money on myself.
But I have no problem with other people wanting big gemstones/diamonds, it’s just a personal preference.
So no, I don’t suffer from ring envy and prefer my small diamond.
Post # 13
@linnylou_88: There are a few rings in real life that could be enviable, a relative has a beautiful 2 carat high qual diamond (gift from her jeweler dad) and a coworker has a gorgeous SimonG halo setting that she had her high quality 1 carat diamond reset into.
You mentioned ring “shrinkage” here I don’t have ring envy/shrinkage here on the Bee, as I’ve been here a long time and seems like the majority contain a diamond simulant as the main “stone”. Nothing wrong with simulants for others, they’re pretty & affordable, but am a real deal gemstone/diamond lover myself. Of course there are real diamonds (and other beautiful genuine gemstones) here as well.
There are some lovely settings here and I fell in love with classic halo design and history, which is why I now have one 🙂
Post # 14
@gemgirl6: Most of the posts with big stones call them diamonds(at least, that is what it seems like)….I’m just genuinely curious as to how you can tell if they aren’t? Diamonds, moissanite, and CZ all look the same to me
Post # 15
@Bridey77: “Most of the posts with big stones call them diamonds(at least, that is what it seems like)….I’m just genuinely curious as to how you can tell if they aren’t? Diamonds, moissanite, and CZ all look the same to me “
That has not been my experience. I’ve found that the majority on this board are upfront about what their main stone/jewel is . Have been here for a year and after a while you recognize/get to “know” others on here. You remember their rings/setting/issues with rings LOL, its a community. 🙂
In addition, some of the pics are somewhat obvious, can see the pie shaped marks in the round brilliant moissanite or the slight yellow/green, (esp oec moissy), rainbow sparkle, or the extreme whiteness of classic cz, larger carbon spots in diamoonds.
Post # 16
I have seen a few settings on the web that would have me second guessing, mainly because I like the idea of “more or a bigger ring” but when I actually go into a jewelry store I don’t ever find anything that I love better than what I already have or when I actually put it on my finger, I don’t like the way “more or a bigger ring” looks. But I would not mind a bigger center stone in my same setting though 🙂