Post # 1
Hello to my fellow waiting bees! First time posting here, and hoping you guys can help. 🙂 (Thank you in advance for reading!)
For those that have already gone ring shopping, who initiated actually going? Did you bring it up? Did your SO/FI? I want to go look with SO and try on rings. I never wear rings so I’m not sure what sort of style would look good on me.
Anyways, SO and I have talked openly about our future since early in our relationship. I have no doubt in my mind that we will get married. He frequently says “when we get married”, “when we have kids”, etc etc. I didn’t really know how how ready for an engagement he was until this weekend. He jokingly mentioned in the car not having a ring on his left hand (lol). I said well, I need one first! Then he said we should go ring shopping. (I’ll back up here, he’s said this a few times the last few months. Somehow it comes up that he doesn’t know my size or what I like so “we should go”. I don’t want to pick the ring, but I want to give him an idea of what I’d like.) After the car I pushed my luck back at the house and mentioned how I know nothing about rings, how do I know what I’ll like? And he (once again) said we should go sometime. Then I reminded him that he should be the one to initiate us going, if it’s something he wants to buy me. I don’t want to force him to the jewelry store to look at rings for ME. Does anyone know how I feel here? After I brought that up I’m like okay, I think I need to read about tips on ring shopping. So I read stuff to him and he’s like “i knew that”…”yup, read that”.. I’m like whattt? He admitted that he’s read stuff online. He’s the type to read up on anything that he’s interested in, it doesnt mean he’ll make the purchase anytime soon (I’m the same way, so I know what to expect from him). So then he starts pulling up sites and showing me stuff. And then he started talking about venues (lol again!). I straight out asked if he wanted to marry me (of course) and if he was ready for an engagement (he said he was def ready). This is great stuff.
Back to my question. He’s mentioned going to look for awhile. But he never makes a set plan to actually go. (Yes, I feel like there’s a difference!). Has anyone else been in this situation? Did you just wait it out or break down and invite SO? (I really don’t want to be pushy or anything like that. I really wanted it to be all him, but based on our past milestones, it appears that he may need a little nudge).
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
You could get a little sneaky: Look up where a good jewelry store is located, and think of an errand that needs to be done in that area of town. Go with SO to run the errand, and on your way, as you breeze past the store, you could say something like, “Oh, XX Jewelers, I read some good reviews of them online.” (Or, “my best friend’s FI got her ring there…” or whatever the connection is that made you choose that store). If he’s ready to take you shoppng but just didn’t know where to start, that would be a good opener to express your interest but leave the ball “in his court”. He could offer to go in, or not. In any case, it will have shown him that you’re interested/ready to go looking – maybe with all his hinting, he’s been waiting for a more clear sign from you that you’re ready! Good luck!
Post # 4
I wish I could help.. I know SO doesn’t want me involved.. He wants it to be a surprise and to
Pick it out.. I did tell him
A few things I don’t like though!
Post # 5
I would just drag him in… I am not too good with “subtle.” 🙂
Post # 6
My SO and I haven’t gone e-ring shopping, but we did go ring shopping for my birthday present. He’s terrified of jewelry stores. He kept saying we should go look in person (after we’d exhausted all online resources), but wouldn’t say, “Hey! We’re going right now.” I ended up dragging him to some mall ones after we saw a movie one day.
Post # 7
We went to an outlet mall that had a jewelry store, and I jokingly mentioned that we should go in “to look.” He asked, “At what?” and I said, “Oh, you know…” So we went in and looked and that kicked it off. I started looking online and sending him links, and then months later we actually went to stores around here at the mall.
Post # 8
my FI and I talked about it, but i had known for years the one i wanted, so I went in by myself to see if i liked it as much on, and i did. i then took him with me so he could be sure he wanted to get that one for me, then he bought it a bit later, and proposed about a month after he bought it 🙂 so maybe go by yourself first to get an idea of what you like, then take him
Post # 9
Thanks for the feedback!!
@whydoesithurt: I’m not sure why this hasn’t crossed my mind. I miss the obvious, I guess lol. Looks like a few others have done pretty much that, clever bees 😉
@killerQueen13: I’m not sure what I don’t like. Guess I need to spend more time looking at rings online 😀
Post # 10
I researched local stores and said “hey babe I like this ring at (insert store name here) we should go on (insert day)” and he said sure and that’s how we found the ring he will eventually buy lol so I guess I set up the day
Post # 11
@vorpalette: No lie — I did the same. exact. thing!