Post # 1
My SO insists on surprising me with a ring. So he refuses to to go ring shopping with me. He does, however, request my preferences. I feel like I can’t truly have a preference or might miss out on the ring of my dreams if I don’t go try some on. Is it weird to go try on rings without him?
Post # 3
I would take him with me so he knows what your like and dislike. It is not weird to go ring shopping. To be honest I cant care less how the sale people think of me if I shop by myself
Post # 4
lots of stores will do a “wish”list for you. You could go and look on your own and have them write down the numbers of the ones you like, then when your fiance goes in he can ask them for your wish list and will see what ones you like. Just an idea.
Post # 5
My FI sent me ring shopping without him, too. He told me to take his mom and my mom. It was a little weird with both moms, but we picked one out, and his mom told him exactly what I wanted, and it was perfect!
Post # 6
@Beenurse1357: Hear you, but it’s not weird. He truly wants to get your preferences right but on his own. It’s his way of saying “I hear you, I know you and I want to prove it by self-selecting”. Let me say, that I think, just a little bit, picking out your ring with him may take something away from the ‘first time seeing/proposing’ moment. Just an opinion, and went through both experiences – total surprise and picking it out – and the total surprise proposals just have an extra bit of magic. Trust him if he asks for your vision but wants to take the reigns from there. Usually that works out.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s strange. If he wants your preferences though I think he should go with so that as you try rings on he can see exactly what you like and don’t like. He doesn’t need to buy one you try on but he can look at similar styles then.
Post # 8
@Beenurse1357: I didnt try one rings with DH. It was very improtant to him that HE picked out the ring… and it was extra special becuase of that.. i find it sad and unfortunate that that youre worried about missing out on the “ring of your dreams” and not about spending your life with the “man of your dreams”… he is asking you what YOU like, so its not like hes not taking it into consoderation…
Post # 9
I ring shop alone all the time. I have an obsession you know lol.
It’s not weird at all – and it’s the only way you will know what style suits you best. You could take a camera (cell with camera) along and take pictures. Sales staff don’t mind – especially if it brings in business.
Post # 10
Thanks for all of the advice everyone! I think I will go try some on, maybe with my mom. I don’t plan on picking out an exact ring (easier said than done, I’m sure). I just want to get a general preference about the metal and style.
Post # 11
@Beenurse1357: for my anniversary ring I just ordered, I did TONS of ring shopping alone. DH would be so bored! I don’t think it’s weird at all.
Post # 12
@Beenurse1357: That will be fun, shopping with your mom. 🙂
I did almost all of my ring shopping alone. (FI HATES shopping.) I didn’t once get the side eye, all the salespeople were really good about it. I just started with, “I’ve been sent to look at rings…” And they would say, “ooh That’s a good sign! Want to try some on? “
I hadn’t thought to bring my mom. She is the absolute worst at keeping secrets, and we weren’t telling anyone until the ring was on my finger.
Try to get a firm budget from him too. I had a hard time nailing my guy on a budget and set one I thought would be good. Then he surprised me by raising it by $2000 AFTER I did a ton of searching!!!
Post # 13
@Beenurse1357: Not weird at all. Plenty of people do it. I’ve done it tons of times. You don’t want to become a regular at any store lol.. but this is a normal thing to do. How else are you supposed to know what looks good??
Post # 14
I do it alone, because FI always feels uncomfotable in jewelry stores, and I totally understand why. I just have more attitude and don’t let the salespeople get to me, lol!
Salespeople always make super awkward comments about our age (we look VERY young, though we’re not really) and are snarky about my very small ring. One lady looked straight at it and said snarkily, “so, do you have your engagement ring yet?” WTF, really. It made him too mad to ever go back, so thank goodness for Etsy! We can online “window-shop” from home 🙂
Post # 15
@Beenurse1357: no that’s not weird. You can check out by yourself.
Post # 16
Ring shopping with a gf was great. it let me truly go through my shopping process of learning about rings and figuring out what I liked most and what mattered most and least. I could see what I liked without wondering about price initially and without worrying that he’d latch on to something I said early on that I later changed my mind about. Then you or your gf/assistant can get him the info he needs once you’re set.