- Big Truck
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I got the “OK” from Mr. Big Truck to shop for my engagement ring solo. He’s the typical male: hates all things jewelry, broke out in a cold sweat the first time we went ring shopping and prices were brought up. Also looked like he was gonna pass out from all the different setting options, but that’s neither here nor there. He just seemed incredibly bored by the whole process (minus the price…signs of life QUICKLY emerged once that topic came up), which I understand!!
I HAAAAAAAAAATE doing anything truck/motorcycle-related with him. Bores the everlovin’ snot out of me. So ring shopping must be about as pleasant as a surgery without anesthesia for him. So I thought I was doing him a favor by telling him he doesn’t have to come along if he doesn’t want to. He said that was “fine” with him, but he humbly requested I have something picked out by the end of August.
So today, after being sick in bed for about 8 days, I had the strength and willpower to go ring shopping by myself. My sales associate was lovely, she answered all of my questions and humored me on my shortcomings. I have been e-ring shopping/browsing/creating online for the past, oh, 3 months or so. Obsessed with it. I thought I knew all there was to know about settings, cut, clarity, side stones, baguettes, halos, pave, channel, the whole nine yards.
Turns out I know a LOT, but definitely not as much as a professional jeweler. But I digress.
What I really thought I wanted was a pave setting with princess side stones and an emerald-cut center stone. I also truly love the look of the halo settings, but I don’t want TOO much attention taken away from the center stone, so I kinda put the halos on the backburner.
Well, first I got my finger sized, and it turns out I have the fingers of either a small child or a carnie. My ring size is 4.5! Holy bananas! Now, I do have looooong, slender fingers, but I didn’t think they were THAT thin.
Also, I should note that Mr. Big Truck said he was looking to get a center stone of about 1.5-2.0 carats. HOLLER.
So… Knowing all that, I went in and tried on about 6 different rings… and didn’t love a single one of them . Didn’t like solitaire, pave, channel, baguettes. Nothin’. Nothing felt “right”, none of them felt like “the one”. And that thoroughly annoyed me. When I want something, I WANT IT NOW. And so when I thought I knew what I wanted and found out I didn’t really LIKE it… it threw me for a loop.
Also, I tried on the settings with a 2 carat stone and it just looked ridiculous on my finger. It looked so out of place and gaudy. Even trying it in different settings didn’t help. Ugh.
But when we switched stones to a 1.25 carat stone, it looked more reasonable.
I’m still upset, however, because a) I didn’t find anything I really liked, and b) I’m kind of back to square one!
The good news is, though, that we will stay well within Mr. Big Truck’s price range if I stick with a smaller stone.
The only thing I’m sure about is that I want an emerald-cut center stone. But I even wavered on THAT for a few minutes today! Let’s be honest, the emerald cuts don’t shine/sparkle like the round and princess cuts. But I still think the emerald cuts are sooooooooo classy and beautiful. That’s why I want some side diamonds to help accentuate it.
I don’t know anymore, ladies. Did anyone else have similar problems? How did you resolve them?
I plan on going shopping again on Friday, maybe, to another store and trying on other settings. I never thought this search for the ring would be easy, but I thought I’d have a little more success by now.
Also, I feel bad for leaving Mr. Big Truck out of the process. I mean, ultimately, he’s the one buying the ring, he should have a say in it. But I’m the one that’s gonna be wearing it every single day, so I better love it!!
Another thing… My sales associate kept saying, “It’s not the setting he’s really buying, it’s the center diamond.” I agree. BUT…. the setting is still REALLY important to me. Is that weird?
My best friend of a bazillion years (who I’m hoping will be my maid of honor when the time comes) said that I should just let Mr. Big Truck go and pick one out and surprise me. He does know what styles I like (I printed pictures for him haha), but…. what if I don’t LOVE what he chooses? One Christmas, he bought me a purse that was just HIDEOUS, and I ended up returning it and getting store credit. You’d think I’d murdered his children or something, he was so upset. And that was just a purse! Imagine if I told him I didn’t like the engagement ring?! Get the Xanax, STAT!
So Hive, those are my dilemmas. Dilemmi? No, dilemmas. Do I bring the bf and let him assist/pick out the whole thing entirely, or do I keep him on the outskirts for now?
And what the heck am I supposed to do about my toddler fingers?! I want a beautiful blingy ring, but everything’s probably gonna look ridiculous on my thin fingers. *sigh*
My plan as of this moment is to continue the search solo for a few more rounds. If I kind of run out of options and can’t find “the one”, perhaps I’ll lay it all in Mr. Big Truck’s hands and see what happens.
Though your input would be greatly appreciated!!