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((HUGS)) it is a surprise because although he put down a deposit you don't know how or when he'll give you the ring. i wouldn't talk about it at all so that when he pops the big one it is a complete surprise.
I had the SAME EXACT situation! I went to figure out what exactly I wanted so that he could budget and it turned into a deposit and layaway. Now he has the ring and he knows that I know he has it and he loves it! Trust me..... he will love it later when he can torture you. You may think you know when it is coming, but I am guessing it is coming within a month and I feel crazy cause I can't think of anything else! It's actually making it more exciting cause I'm thinking so much that I have NO IDEA when it is happening. Good luck :-) Be happy that you are getting the ring of your dreams!!!
Thanks ladies. I needed that. :)
And honestly, even if he had taken it home that day, I STILL wouldn't know when he would plan to actually propose! We have had my dream setting put aside at a different jewelery store since MARCH!! He's been saving up for the diamond. So he will still need to take the new ring to the other store to have the diamond set in the real band.
:) This is so very exciting, now that I think about it. But I definitely plan to keep my mouth shut til the proposal. No more ring talk until it's on my finger. !!
you can of course come here to talk about it!! it'll keep you from going crazy!!!
Make sure you come here for some venting!! ha ha
I know we all need it sometimes! Especially when you just want to get engaged so bad you feel like you are going to BURST... ok just me?
::hugs:: don't worry! my boy gave me explicit instructions to make sure he didn't walk out of the stores with a ring when we went shopping. i thought he was joking but i actually had to remind him of it! probably to the chagrin of the saleslady. lol.
but just remind him that you still don't know WHEN and HOW he'll propose so it'll still be a surprise!
In hindsight, I wish my bf gave me that same warning, tea!! Haha. Hopefully he's getting a good deal. That's another concern. He's going to call his jeweler friend to see what he thinks. But yeah, I have already assured him that I still have no idea how/when/where/etc. the proposal is coming.
Awww that is so super exciting! I cannot WAIT until we go ring shopping together- I'm waiting for him to bring it up cause I don't want to pressure him, but I hope it's soon! Do you have a picture of what it looks like?
Of course! I don't have a picture of the actual ring with my diamond in it, but I can show you the setting we picked out in March. (Hopefully the pics show up...)
Oooh its so pretty! Good luck keeping your mouth shut until you get to put it on your finger. :)
Thank you! Thank you! He actually just told me today that he called his jeweler and we are going to pick up the setting NEXT THURSDAY! Then he's going to continue his search for the actual diamond on his own, so there's still some element of surprise. He did put a deposit on one stone last week, but he just wants to be sure that one is really "the one." :)
I will say that I've been really good at not bringing up "the ring" myself. I'll converse only if he brings it up first. And luckily, he's been bringing it up a lot lately!
oh how sweet!!! i'm so excited for you!! looks like the waiting bees are dwiddling quickly to the bees to be!
Aw, sounds like he's getting really excited! The ring is beautiful!
very beautiful ring! good luck not saying anything about it til it's on your finger....i know that can be pretty difficult!
oohh wow such a pretty ring
@bunnylovesbear I feel your pain, I don't know how you are surviving knowing you picked it out in March!! I went through the same thing....there was a ring sale going on and FI was drawn into the store while I was at work....he then calls me and tells me he found a ring he really liked and said he could afford to buy it if we traded in the promise ring he bought me for Christmas. I was reluctant because I didn't know what the ring looked like and I didn't know how long I would have to wait to get it (would have the empty finger syndrome). He was so convinced I would like it he took me there after work and had me try on a few to see if I liked the one he picked (I didn't). We ended up finding another one we both really liked and ended up buying it a week later together. I was so excited, but dying at the same time because he told me I wasn't getting it right away it could be in a month or 6 months. Needless to say I went crazy waiting and he eventually brought back the ring because it ruined the element of surprise for him. I was soo sad :(, but blown away a couple weeks later when he completley surprised me with a new and much better ring which I absolutely love more than the first. It was worth the wait and it was a smart move him returning it to trip me up!
@bluebutterfly - Your story sounds so similar to mine. I just hope my boy doesnt decide to return the ring after we pick up the setting next week! It's been sooo very hard to wait patiently since March! But at the same time, I did initiate the original trip to the jewelry store to "just look" and give him some ideas...you know, for future shopping. hehe. I never thought we'd stumble across an amazing Tacori sale and fall in love with a ring, though!!
Just a little update: I think we're going to the jewelry store tomorrow night! I'm a teacher and parent conferences are Thursday night, so we had to reschedule...FOR A DAY EARLIER! Yippee!!
Woohoo! We did the same thing - and I am sure D felt pressured by the sales lady too. But hey, it was "the" ring. I couldn't live without it....so, there.
But I am so excited for you!!! It's so much fun, isn't it? I can't wait to see my ring when he proposes. I've only seen the setting separate from the diamond.
:)
Our jeweler might not be available tonight! wah! I'm waiting for the bf to call me after he talks to him, but it's not looking good. I might have to wait until the weekend....or even worse...next Thursday!
Just wanted to update because I'm excited...we have an appointment with the jeweler for tonight!! Woohoo!! And my daughter mentioned in the car last night that she has a secret Mark told her she wasnt allowed to tell when I told her we were going to the jewelery store! heheh :)
we went into a jewelry store one day just because they were having a big sale ... and somehow ended up trying on wedding rings & i found one i loved.... well he didnt buy it then but I do know that he ordered a custom made ring because he got a call 2 weeks ago that it was ready to be picked up & he has shown it around to his family. I'm not allowed to see it though.......he says he wants to be married this summer and he even wants to start planning it ... UGH I just dunno what he is waiting for to ask LOL.
I know my FH wants our proposal to be something really special I am thinking he already has a day in his mind picked out to ask... perhaps your man is the same way.
Bunny i feel your pain we went ring shopping as well and tried to sneak and give the sales lady his contact information i thought it was really cute but he will not tell me anything as far as when because he wants it to be a total surprise!! So i agree with the other ladies i think you have to not talk about it and maybe he will feel like it is more of a surprise for you! Good luck
it's beautiful! We did a little ring shopping togetherbecause DH wanted to get an idea of what we both liked (they were not the same thing!)
He hates pushy salespeople though, and we would leave if we felt like we wer ebeing pressured into making a decision that day.
My engagement was still a commplete surprise, and I'm sure yours will be wonderful as well!
well my boyfriend ended up having to work late, so I went to our appointment with my daughter instead. Unfortunately, they did NOT have my ring. It got shipped to one of their other locations, but luckily our jeweler was able to locate it and he is having it shipped back to his store. Soooo...we have a follow-up meeting this Sunday where we get to talk diamonds. :) I get to look at diamonds and pick what I like, and then the boy is going to handle the rest. so exciting!!
@bunnylovesbear: omg i bet it's coming soooo soon!! how exciting?! did your daughter enjoy helping? i loved helping my mom pick out her engagement ring 15 years ago!
I LOVE the ring!! I totally understand your soon to be FI being bummed out it isn't a complete surprise. Do him a favor - and do not mention ANYTHING about the ring to him. If he needs to ask you anything about it - he will. Just pretend it didn't happen ;) (at least to him) and let him devise his plan as to how he'll pop the question. It will be GREAT!
Yeah, I think he's over that initial feeling that there won't be a big surprise. He likes the idea of picking it out together, and then he gets to plan the rest.
And crebre...YES! She decided she wanted a heart-shaped diamond ring when I get my engagement ring!! Haha...oh, to be an 8 year old again! :)
@bunnyloves: how cute!!! i really liked the oval shape way back when i helped my mom, now i adore the cushion and emerald cuts (luckily M's fave shape is cushion) who would have thought it?!
it would be so COMPLETELY adorable if he were to buy my little one a cute, little heart-shaped pink sapphire ring (or some LESS expensive semi-precious pink gemstone) Secretly, I hope he proposes to us BOTH. :)
Awwww well I think that it is a good thing to go shopping for a ring with your man! I did that with mine, and I was able to get what I dreamed of, since he was able to be aware of what I like! I can't wait to hear/see what he does!!!
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So I have some good (and kinda bad) news to share. My boyfriend and I celebrated our three year anniversary this weekend (YAY), and we went to a jewelry store to "just look." Well, our "just looking" turned into buying a ring!
I know, I know...I should be SUPER excited, but I left feeling both excited and a little anxious. I know my bf isn't a fan of salesmen and probably felt a little pressured by him, and he definitely didn't plan to go in and buy a ring that day OR with me right there with him.
He was really excited about the proposal being a complete surprise, and now he is convinced it won't be because I know he put a deposit down. I don't really know where I am going with this post...just needed to vent a little bit. (so thank you for listening)