Post # 1
About a month and a half ago, my SO had planned to go look at rings with his mom, but due to a family emergency, he wasn’t able to do so. Before he went, he had hinted that he was going to be doing some ring shopping and asked what size ring I wear. I didn’t know (I don’t ever wear rings), but found some sizing thing online that you could print out and use to figure out what size your finger is.
Anyway, I used that and told him what I found.
Due to a really, really busy summer, he hasn’t had time to go home and look for rings (his family is very close with an amazing jeweler in their town, so I know my ring is going to come from there), but finally has a week off before law school. He mentioned yesterday that he’s probably going to go home for a night or two this week. He never goes home for no reason, so I have a sneaking suspicion that he’s going to look at rings.
The point of this post (sorry to give so much background) is that I just recently found out that the ring size I gave him awhile ago is wrong. I was shopping the other day and found this awesome ring I loved (just a regular ring, nothing engagement related) and tried it on. The point was, it was a size and a half smaller than the size I gave him.
I am really trying to shut it up and not talk about rings/engagement AT ALL. I also don’t want to be presumptous that he is going to shop for rings just because he’s going home this week. But IF he is, I don’t want him to buy a ring that’s way too big!
Any advice? Should I bring it up and let him know that the size was wrong (and thus ending my shutting it up pact), or just keep quiet and only bring it up if he asks? I know you can get rings re-sized, so it wouldn’t be the end of the world if he bought one that was too big, but I would also just rather not go through this whole process.
Post # 3
I would bring it up as a “by the way, I was looking at a RHR’s the other day when I went shopping and the jeweler sized me, and I was pretty off on what size I thought I was..” Honest and letting him know without bringing up engagement 🙂
Post # 4
I would just tell him that I popped in by a jeweler to check to see if the sizing was right and tell him the actual size.
Post # 5
Well, last night presented the perfect opportunity! He noticed the new ring I bought and told me he liked it. I (very casually, I hope) was all “Oh, thanks! Oh, and by the way, it was a totally different size than what I told you I wear!” I didn’t say anything about engagment rings, which I was proud of. Then he was all, “Well thank God you told me this now!” And then entered something into his phone. So now I am REALLYYY thinking that his trip home this week is to look at rings!
I’m also thinking it’s happening this week because when I asked which day he was going home this week (just so I would know), he said, “Oh well I have to check with my mom first to see what day works for her.” No big deal, except when I asked earlier why he was going home this week he said it was to hang out with his dad (who is home from work this week). And since his mom is the one assisting him in ring shopping, I’m even MORE certain that he’s going home to do that, not just see his dad. AHHH. I didn’t push it and am still shutting it up..I just hope I’m not getting my hopes up for nothing!
Post # 6
@nber0815: first of all, CONGRATS on not mentioning ”the ring” – sooo hard and you did a great job segwaying into the fact that your ring size is different than what you actually thought.
secondly – WOOOO!!! so excited for you, keep us updated!!!!
Post # 7
@nber0815: So exciting!!! Fingers crossed for you!