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I think you can just start by saying "you know when you decide the time is right to propose to me i hope you know im not expecting or wanting anything expensive"
When we talked about getting married I brought up what kind of ring I would like. It made my FI feel a lot better knowing that I didn't want something flashy.
Thank you ladies, I went with what JustlikeHeaven said and brought it up casually in a conversation. I told him that I don't want him spending too much money on the ring as there are more important things, and he smiled and jokingly said "Yeah, like CDs" (he loves his cds :P ). I then said "I hope you don't think it's lame that I just said that", and he said "No of course not". I also told him that "all my favourite rings cost less than such and such amount". He didn't ask me about my favourite rings though. I am not sure if he will ever ask me about rings I like as he said that he prefers to pick one out himself.
hmm, I don't think I would bring it up. If he feels ready (mentally and financially) I am sure he would bring up the conversation himself. As you said before, he is a bit stressed, you might not want to add to that.
Aw, well does he have an idea of your tastes, if he wants to pick it out solo? I'm glad you were able to bring the subject up and that it went over well. Nice work! :)
No, I haven't shown him any pictures of rings I like or anything like that since he hasn't asked about my taste. Not quite sure how to bring that up without being too pushy or presumptous ;)
Ah. Feel ya on that one... trying to figure out how to talk to my guy about it too. Although, I have been vocal about how I feel about other people's rings... so I guess so far he knows that I hate halos and that I really like rose gold! You can always do the old, leave up pictures on the computer screen for him to find trick! :-D
I agree with @AugustBride. It sounds like he's under enough stress and since you've mentioned he didn't respond to you after you told him about the rings you liked, I might just put it on the back burner until he's feeling better about his finances.
I actually brought up the conversation just by showing him a ring on my laptop and saying "I came across this...what do you think?" and the conversation kept going after that...especially since the ring you want is like you said not as expensive as he may think...that would be a good convo starter I think. It worked for me!
You know, we have yet to even talk about the ring! Plenty about marriage but not the ring itself... some helpful tips! Im confident that when the time comes he will ask for help - he was too scared to pick out a pair of diamond stud earrings for me in case he got them wrong!
I've heard of several people leaving their internet browsers to show their SO their favourite rings, I am not sure if I would want to do that though. He is traditional and wants to pick out the ring himself, and he said he thinks it's a bit odd and unromantic when couples pick out the ring together (I don't agree with that, but at the end of the day he's the one who's buying it). Therefore I am not sure if it would go down well with him if I left not-so-subtle hints on his computer.
My plan at the moment is to leave all talk about engagement and rings until he's sorted out his job situation. He has a stable job at the moment, but he is not happy working there. Lately he's been having regular freak-out moments about the fact that he will be 32 this year, he says he feels old and not where he should be career-wise at his age, plus he feels unhappy about the fact that he is still renting a house. I am trying to my best to relieve his stress by calming him down whenever he has these moments, and I know that it would just add to his stress if I started to constantly show him pictures of rings.
I know it's gonna be hard not to bring up the matter for a while, though!
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Hello ladies,
as you probably know I have been thinking a lot of about getting engaged to Mr. Bells recently. However, I think his financial situation prevents him from thinking about it too much; he is applying for a new job, he is worried what his salary is gonna be, whether he can afford a nice house like he wants etc. And of course, if we are to get engaged he needs to buy an engagement ring.
Basically I don't want him to spend a huge amount on the ring. My favourite rings cost no more than 400-500 pounds, and I don't like the idea of him spending much more than that. I feel like that money should be put towards the house and the wedding itself.
I have not told my BF about this, but I feel like we should have this conversation as it might make him less stressed about his financial situation. Any ideas as to how I can bring this up, without coming across as pushy?