- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
So, I have news – significant news. Some good, some not so good.
My SO was supposed to go home this week. My suspcision was that he was going home to look at rings. He ended up not going home, because his dad threw a grown-up hissy fit and basically forced his mom to go to their beach house this weekend (his dad is one of the most selfish adults I have ever met, so this doesn’t suprise me). As you guys know, my SO’s parents are helping to finance the engagement ring (as a loan) because he’s just starting law school.
So, big bummer. He seemed genuinely upset about the change in plans and told me that yes, my suspicisions had been correct – he was going home (and then onto NYC – more on that in a second) to pick out my ring!
This visibly disappointed me, as he’s been trying to go home since early July to move things forward and because of busy schedules (on our part and his parents), a vacation and a family emergrency, it just hasn’t happened. I was mostly pissed at his dad for being a brat (long story/history there), but he could tell that something was wrong.
When he saw I was upset we had an actual talk about the whole thing, which was awesome, since he generally won’t talk about getting engaged at all. He wants the ring and the proposal to be a total surprise, which I understand, but he’s also been feeling a bit of pressure (my fault). Having him bring up the subject was amazing in and of itself.
So, he told me that the plan is for him to go home the weekend of September 21 to get the ring. I was a little taken aback, considering that’s a month from now, but he explained that it can’t happen any sooner. I asked why and received some interesting info.
Apparently, the diamond that I thought was already purchased (he did too) hasn’t actually been bought. It’s picked out and sitting at a diamond dealer in NYC. They have a family friend who “knows people” in the business so they are waiting to actually buy it until she can go with them..because she can get them a good deal. And because they have to add her schedule to the mix, the next weekend they’re all (my SO, his mom and their friend) available is the weekend of the 21st.
My SO also told me that he’s buying the band/setting prior to that date, so that when they pick out the diamond, it can be set right away. This is the best part of the news, because he’ll be doing this all by himself and really shows me that he’s moving forward with this on his own.
So much of this is good news. I have a real idea of when the ring is going to be bought and my SO is going to have total say in everything (including the diamond, which we thought his mom already purchased). But, because it’s going to be a custom ring, it’s going to take some time to get made (I think. I really know nothing about rings), and since they aren’t even going to look at the diamonds until the end of September, it’s going to be awhile longer than I had hoped.
I am a little bummed, but mostly excited and happy. My SO really seems to be excited about this whole process, which I had been a little worried about, since he never brought engagement up and got defensive every time I did.
I guess I am just so so so impatient! And I shouldn’t be. I should be happy that the ring will be purchased in LESS THAN A MONTH. AHHH.
I don’t know why I’m even posting this..I don’t really need any advice or anything. Just wanted to share the (mostly) good news!