(Closed) Ring (wedding band) practicalities?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I get the band that I want that's 3x the price of Fi's?
    Yes. Get the ring you love, you'll wear it forever. : (44 votes)
    85 %
    No. It's too much, get something simpler. : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Other. Please comment. : (5 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 4
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    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m a “bargain hunter” (or as my FI calls me, “cheapskate) just like you. I had an idea of the wedding band I wanted, but all of the jewelers in my area quoted me $2,500-$3,000 to make it.

    Everyone said “it’s your wedding band, you’ll have it forever, you should splurge to get what you want”. But just like you, I felt bad. My FI had already bought me a beautiful e-ring, and I didn’t want to put him further out by spending so much to buy me my dream band. Especially since his titanium band cost $30!!!

    So I turned to Etsy, my savior!! I found a jeweler who made my dream band for less than $1,000. I still tried to split the cost with my FI, but he wouldn’t hear a word of it. He was happy he was “saving” $2,000 on my band, and I was thrilled that I got a great deal compaired to having it made locally.

    I would HIGHLY suggest finding an Etsy jeweler to make the exact same band for less $$$$.

    Post # 5
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I’m so sorry you your FH is being so difficult about this. E-rings are very expensive and most men are shocked when they find out how much they cost.

    Could you upgrade your stone in your e-ring? Would that make you feel any better? I ended up paying for my setting on my e-ring because I wanted something that cost more then what FH wanted to spend; to me it is worth it because it’s something that I love. If he had gotten what he wanted to get me I wouldn’t love it I probably wouldn’t even like it.

    As for the insurance you need to get the ring appraised and send the appraisal to your insurance to cover lost & theft. As for something breaking on it- did you get anytime of warrantee/ service plan on it? Some places its included others you have to pay for it.

    Check out Jared.com (I don’t know if they ship there) they have amazing blingy rings for not too much money. I got a band with ½ ct for $500! Also when looking for wedding bands don’t just look under wedding check out the diamond right hand rings they are often less expensive!

    Post # 6
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    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think the wedding ring is the one thing that should not be influenced by price. You will wear this ring every day for the rest of your life, it is the only tangible representation of your marriage so I say get the one you love. You say you can actually afford it so it is not like you are choosing a ring over food and really, if you don’t you’ll look at your satisfactory ring and dream of the other.  I too enjoy a good bargain but FI was set on platinum wedding bands so we searched out the best price for what he wanted (his is the expensive ring in our relationship) and ordered it online. His ring was way more than I anticipated spending and almost twice as much as mine but he will wear it daily and as long as he does not lose it, I think it’S an okay investment. 

    Post # 9
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    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My mom chose a simple band that she didn’t really love at the time, and after years of disliking her ring, she finally broke down and had it swapped out for something else she actually LIKES. Now she’s not wearing her original ring which makes the sentimental side of her a little sad. So consider how you’ll feel about it long term. In 5 years, will you be upset that you put the money toward a ring and had to wait on COUCHES?!

    We have been in our new house for a year now, and yet we’re still sleeping on a box spring and mattress. Obviously I want to get an actual BED at some point, but for us, splurging on the mattress was more important than having a frame to put it in. Also we had one completely empty room for a whole year! We only just recently put furniture in it. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time to fill your home. People expect new homeowners to be missing a few things at first!

    Post # 10
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @Vitsippa: Haha sorry I typed my responce in word when I went back to post I thought your thread was the one I was writing my comment for- It was not 🙂 I just found the thread I was responding to!

    Post # 11
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    226 posts
    Helper bee

    1. The rings on their website are LOVELY

    2. You have skrimped and saved and you dont have an engagement ring so I think you deserve one of those lovely rings as a symbol of your love.

    3. You kind of remind me of myself. You seem very selfless and you are concerned about indulging and spoiling yourself.

    GET IT!

    xox

    Post # 12
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Ultimately, if you can afford it, I would say get what you want.  However, I am going to throw one more consideration for you out there which is that if you get the delicately carved ring you are probably going to want to take it off when you are doing any kind of hard labor (gardening, housecleaning, building, etc.) whereas with a plain band you could wear it all the time.  Gold is soft and wears easily and if you wear a carved band all the time you will wear the design down fairly quickly.  Even if you take it off to protect it from hard wear your ring will look very different after a lifetime of wear. 

    I inherited a collection of wedding rings from my grandmother going back to at least her grandmother (one has a date in the 1860’s engraved in it).  The ones that are still beautiful are relatively plain (including my grandmother’s which is going to be my wedding band as well).  There is one in particular that I suspect was once a beautiful ring, but the ornamentation is worn down to oddly shaped globs and it is frankly kinda ugly although very sentimental because someone clearly work it for a lifetime.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Honestly, I think its really normal to have a band that is considerably more expensive that your FI’s.  Frankly, I think it wouldn’t be normal if they cost the same amount of money.  My FI bought me a 3 ct round brilliant platinum eternity band, while my FI wanted a Tungsten ring, which was literally 20 times cheaper than my band.  That’s what he wanted and that’s what I wanted, which he generously gave me.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Thats really pretty!  My set was about 100x more expensive than FI’s band!  Thats also because I got a deal though.   If I had gone the traditional route with a jeweler it would have only been about 10x. 

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