Post # 1
Alrights ladies,Here is a little background story.
My SO and I are ring shopping and he gave me a budget of 1-3k which is on the expensive side for us. We’ll probably never be rich people and I’m okay with that. I’m rich in love 😉 So here is the thing, the ring I’m looking at is at the top end of our budget. So we compromised and I agreed that we could have a cheaper wedding, I guess around 4k, which should be okay seeing as we’ll have less then 45 guests and we plan on DIYing many things, but I have no idea where this leaves us for the honeymoon! We’re both wander-lusters, and the plan after I graduate is to travel to other countries to teach English. That way we can afford to travel a lot and still have time off to see the country but without going completely broke!
So what would you have if you could only have 2 good ones?
The ring of your dreams?
The wedding of your dreams?
The honeymoon of your dreams?
Honestly, I want all three! But I really, REALLY want a beautiful ring. Then again, I really want a beautiful wedding! But a honeymoon is an experience that we’ll remember for a lifetime!
We will do all three no matter what, but two are going to suffer in the budget area. Haha
Post # 3
I voted honeymoon. The true window to travel and indulge can be so small, and your timing is great! You’ll have a lifetime together to find the perfect ring. Plus, you might some unique, inexpensive beauty to wear while you travel!
Post # 4
I would choose a honeymoon. I could totally elope, have a pretty less expensive ring, but my SO and I are dying for a nice, long, honeymoon of our dreams.
Edit: we are doing all three in moderation, but if I had to choose between the three, I would choose honeymoon!
Post # 5
@Epicpooka: I remember your prior post. I think you can have all three.
Ring: would definitely get a good ring you’ll be proud of and not feel like you have to hide what it is. After all, you’ll be wearing it for the rest of your life. . Would absolutely not “settle” in that area. There are beautiful genuine diamond, and/or natural gemstone rings (for instance Morganite) in gold out there very much within your budget.
Wedding: can be simple yet still elegant. You can do a breakfast (cheaper) than a supper. Can do a champagne toast versus open bar. Can do a buffet vs sit down supper. Can buy a less expensive but still beautiful gown.
Honeymoon: You don’t have to go on an expensive trip to have a memorable time. You’re going to Europe later. So for your honeymoon explore semi-locally, somewhere you have not been that is within a day’s car travel. That will save on air fare. Plot your trip on the map. Make it a real adventure! There are all kinds of cool kind of things to do that don’t break the bank– stay at bed & breakfsts-for a nice place to stay, great food and so much better than an inexpensive hotel! See the local sites, tours, wineries. I’ve found that the key is planning ahead so there are interesting things to do and see.
This is what I personally would do.
Post # 6
The Honeymoon, followed by the wedding, followed by the ring. My ring was $600 – it’s 1/2 carat. You know what? I think it’s just as beautiful as many of the more expensive rings. I don’t exactly have small hands, either (a bit bigger than average, I’d guess). But how often do most women really look at their rings? To me, having a big, expensive ring was more show for other people – and most folks just don’t care that much.
I’ll never forget a family member confiding in me that she felt remorseful about a $2k ring – she’d expected that it would really wow her and it would really wow the family. Though she felt it was beautiful, in the end, it didn’t impress her anymore than a simpler ring. And the family was no where near as impressed or wowed as she thought they would be. I don’t think her shallow – I think this thought process is common for a lot of women. The ring is supposed to be demonstrative of the husband-to-be’s ability to provide, at least traditionally.
The wedding was over in 6 hours. But the Honeymoon is the most meaningful for the couple.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! I know he’d choose honeymoon, too. I’m sure some of you think, “just upgrade your ring later!” but if I don’t do it now, I know i’ll never get it. haha there is ALWAYS better things to spend money on. 🙂
I guess we’ve got a lot of planning in the year to come, but I just want that dang ring already. We’re practiaclly married already, we’ve been living together for 4 years, but I’m ready to have things official. 🙂
Post # 8
I picked honeymoon. You can always upgrade your ring down the road. When it comes to having an incredible wedding, at the end of the day it’s just a party. My husband and I had a very expensive wedding, and now almost a year after, I can honestly say that if we eloped, it would have been fine with me!:)
Post # 9
A special trip with your new husband that you’ll remember for a lifetime is the only one of those that matters to me. The other two are just things, but that trip will be amazing.
I’m naturally pretty thrifty, but our honeymoon is kind of a splurge. For a trip to Napa we are planning on a 2 week trip for 20K, but we are open to spending more or less as we hammer out the details. It’s the perfect place for us since we LOVE food. My ring was probably 1-2K, and our wedding budget is 12-15K. I wish it were a lot less because I’d love something small and simple, but he has a huge family and his parents really wanted to contribute.
Post # 10
I chose an incredible wedding. It’s probably the ONE time i’ll be able to get that many of my friends/family under 1 roof to celebrate in our honor! A ring can always be upgraded later & I can always travel later on in life. 🙂
Post # 11
i’d pick ring. i will have it forever. the wedding is one day and the honeymoon is 7-14 days. when you break down cost per day, ring wins.
now, keep in mind, you can still have a wonderful wedding on a small budget and you can travel any time later in life.
Post # 12
I don’t even want that opulent a wedding, but it’s still looking more costly than I want to spend. It’s not that we “can’t” afford it, it’s that I don’t want to.
I want to spend thousands on a wedding like I want to spend thousands on a new roof when I get the unexpected news that the current one is shot. In other words, I have to grit my teeth to spend, but I do want the new roof. Not fun at all though.
Travel is the thing I’m happiest to spend money on. It’s always worth it for us.
The ring was in the middle.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
I chose wedding because FI and I are already travelling and have been on many holidays already, and I’m not a blingy person. But I do want lovely wedding photos!!
Post # 14
I absolutely love travelling, and normally would ALWAYS pick a trip over a thing (for example, FI and I don’t do Christmas gifts to each other, but go on a winter trip each year). However, in this case I picked ring–when we were looking at rings, I just kept thinking, “I’m gonna wear this baby for the rest of my life, and I want something that is going to make me grin/squeal/get warm fuzzies every time I see it.”
Post # 15
@Epicpooka: your wedding will be amazing whatever your budget it. For our wedding we spent about 35k and my dearest girlfriend spent 1,500 on her entire wedding, both wedding were beautiful. You’ll be surrounded by the ones you love and that’s all that matters.
Your honeymoon can be anywhere with him and I am sure you will have fun Whatever you do. I to love to travel and value the experiences Of new places, but it wouldn’t come before my e-ring.
I voted for the ring, i love love love my ring. I look at it all the time, it makes me happy because it reminds me of him, and best if all it will retain its value or increase Over time
Post # 16
I voted the ring: on the wedding day, most of the budget goed to feeding the guests etc. The honeymoon only takes 1-2 weeks but the ring will be on your finger for the rest of your life!