Post # 1
I love Brilliant Earth’s rings, and their Delicate Antique Scroll ring in white gold with a princess cut is my number one right now. However, my boyfriend is about to start grad school and his budget is SUPER limited so I have been considering alternatives to a diamond as the stone. A couple girls I know have recently gotten engaged with non-diamond rings, and they are quite lovely. However- I am afraid I will get tired of a colored stone or that it will clash with certain things I wear.
I’m also worried I will maybe resent not having a classic diamond. Anyone going through something similar? I refuse to let my BF go into debt for a ring, but I really want to genuinely LOVE my ring forever.
Suggestions or experiences?
Post # 3
I have a right hand ring that has a very large citrine stone in it. I wear it every day, (no matter what outfit I’m wearing) and never get sick of it. After a while I don’t even see the color of the stone anymore and just see it as a ring. does that make sense?
Post # 4
Moissanite! Looks like a diamond to everyone but the best of experts, sparkles just as much (and more!) and costs like 1/20th of the price.
And I don’t know if you care about the moral/ecological side of things, but Moissanite is a perfect choice for those concerns too.
Post # 5
What is the approx. budget for the ring? Could you get a “smaller” diamond? You can get a half carat diamond of great quality for under 1k (+ setting)…
There’s just something about a diamond… if you think it’s something you’d want I’d try to get one for your e ring. It’ll go with everything and it’s a really timeless classic look. On the other hand, if it’s really not important to you, you could also consider gemstones (though you could probably still end up spending a bit if you get good quality).
Post # 6
To echo Meowker’s post: I have a deep red garnet ring I wear every day, regardless of the outfit I’m wearing, and never get sick of it. I find colored stones to be more interesting than colorless because of their individual personalities and the way the color changes depending on the light, etc. They’re also very eye catching (people notice colored gem rings, and in a good way!) and they’re a much better value than overpriced diamonds.
Do you have any jewelry with colored stones? I think it’s much easier to get over that fear of not loving it if you’ve worn them before. To be honest, I have yet to see a diamond ring I like more than my garnet!
Post # 7
I have an emerald and I love it. Only occasionally does it clash with what I’m wearing and I wear it anyway – to me that makes the point that it’s a symbol above and beyond just an accessory. I also love the color of it… diamonds are pretty and sparkly and it’s gorgeous how they throw off light – the effect of my stone is really different. It’s an almost iridescent green that almost glows… really easy to stare at for way too long. The price was way, way cheaper than a diamond, but I honestly don’t feel like we gave up anything. I hadn’t even intended to be an everyday ring-wearer. I’ve surprised myself with how much I love it.
Post # 8
I have a sapphire e-ring and love it. I never thought of it clashing with anything, it’s the ring my fiance proposed with and I only take it off to cook. 🙂 Like Meowkers said, I just think of it as a ring (although the blue does catch my eye a bit, and I admire it a bit more than I might if it wasn’t) 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
One of my good friends has an emerald ring and wears it with everything… it doesn’t clash. 🙂
There are white/clear stones that cost less than diamonds, and colored stones that are beautiful! If you find you’re bored or unhappy with it later, you can always ask for a diamond anniversary ring.
Post # 10
You could get a small diamond, or even a mostly-clear sapphire, etc. if you’re worried about not liking a coloured stone.
Post # 11
i’ve seen alot of great alternative here on weddingbee that i didn’t even know existed! In fact my best friend just got a white sapphire. a much better price =0
Post # 12
I know that if I decide I want a white/colorless stone it will be a diamond (ethically sourced from Canada I hope). It’s just so classic.
On the colored stone side: My birthstone is sapphire, so I’ve really considered that option although it is almost as expensive as a diamond depending on the source. The teal sapphires really catch my eye, but I just don’t know :
One friend was just proposed to with a lovely amythyst e-ring, and it totally fits her personality, her FI did an amazing job.
I would just leave it all up to my BF but he is 50/50 with this type of thing; he either gets the PERFECT thing or something completely opposite of what I like. It’s usually cute but I don’t want to hate a ring he picked.
I’m so prone to changing what I like every few months. Grr. 😛
Post # 13
Also, BF’s budget is probably around 2k, and if he works extra overtime this summer, 3k. Planning on .5-.75 carat center stone IF we go the diamond route.
Post # 14
Well you can get a half carat for around $1500 or so. Plus the setting, you’re already looking at 2K if you go with a solitaire setting.
Have you considered moissanite? it’s sparkly like a diamond and since your budget is small, you could get more sparkle for your buck with it. and not feel guilty =]
Post # 15
YES. I have posted this story a million times on the bee now, but here goes again, just because it’s so pertinent. I knew my entire life that I didn’t want a diamond, because I found them boring. I always loved sapphires, so that’s what I wanted on my e-ring, and that’s what I got: a big, beautiful, deep blue sapphire. But soon I realized that I am way too anal about my jewelry working with my outfits and every time I wore a mainly red-hued outfit, I died a little inside. I ended up buying this cheapo ‘dummy’ ring that I don’t really care for, made of rose gold and morganite, because of it! So now I have this enormous sapphire which frustrates me because I don’t like the way it looks with so many outfits (among a few other problems irrelevant to this version of my ring regret story), a tiny rose gold ring that I don’t particularly like, and plans to dump even more money on a ring this summer (a custom-made yellow gold ring based on an antique from the 1870’s). I am getting Moissanite in it because it is GORGEOUS and way less expensive than a perfect diamond (which we couldn’t even come close to affording even if we hadn’t already dropped a mint on my sapphire), and a perfect diamond is the only sort of diamond I wouldn’t feel sad looking at on my hand because I just find the minimally-sparkly, white, average diamond to be too bland for my tastes.
So please think carefully about your colored stone choice! Yes, colored stones are gorgeous, and many women love their colored stone e-rings, but if you’re already wondering if it might bother you, think carefully, and don’t spend tons of money to placate yourself like we are!
Post # 16
If your boyfriend’s budget is 2-3K, I honestly think he can get you a fairly nice diamond. That was my fiancé’s budget and he got me a beautiful .86 ctw, SI1 clarity (eye clean), H (nearly colorless), ideal cut round brilliant diamond. So if you don’t mind going under a carat, I really think he’ll be able to find something perfect for you. He’ll have to shop around to find good deals, but it’s definitely doable.
Otherwise, I think a white sapphire would be a great option! I’ve also seen white topaz rings that are lovely too.