(Closed) Ringer bearer- Who pays??

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would be upfront with her and tell her that you are honored that she wants to include your son but you don’t think you will be able to fulfill the financial obligations if you accepted.

She may offer to help, she may not, but either way you aren’t biting off more than you can chew. It’s best for both you and the bride. Good luck! I hope everything works out

Post # 4
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Typically the parents of the children pay, but that does not always have to be the case. If she doesn’t offer to pay though, just politely decline and tell her that you won’t be able to afford him to be in the wedding party also due to finances.

Post # 5
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

My aunt and uncle paid for everything for my 3 cousins to be in our wedding (2 ushers and 1 RB). If you can’t afford the attire then talk to your SIL. I’m sure she’d rather know about your struggle than bank on having you cover these things and not be able to. 

Post # 7
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14318 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think typically the parents pay as well.  In my case, I bought the flower girl and ring bear suit, but they were not expensive at all.  I actually found a really cute pant/shirt/vest set at Costco for only $17 that would have worked.  But then my mom found a suit (pant, shirt, jacket) at Burlington coat factory for only $30 that we went with.  I think you should just talk to her, and maybe tell her you will find a suit for him within your budget that meets her guidelines, but she cannot go and pick out a $100 suit for him and make you buy it.

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