- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
I don't want to be the first bitchy poster but i've never. Ever since I met and got to know my fiance I've never thought about what it would be like being with someone else. Even through mild annoyances I have never thought of myself with anyone other than him. Maybe it's just me, though.
hhahahahahah - - - I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT ALL OF MY EX's, haahaahaahaaa - - - - I haven't thought about my most current ex and I only have 2 others...One of them is unmarried and just had a baby. The other one is married and now has two kids. I put myself in a position...If I were w/ ex A would we be unmarried having a child? If I were with ex B would we be married with two kids, hhahahahahahah Like you said we're engaged but we aren't dead, HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAH
EDIT - - I thank my lucky stars for FH, he is the best thing that has ever entered my life and I am so beyond excited that he isn't going anywhere. I would never in a gabillion years trade in where I am not to where I was in my past never!!!
I think that's pretty normal actually lol. I mean, we all love our men (I love my hubby so SO much!) but sometimes we all have those "what if such-and-such had happened?" questions. We just have to understand that those things DIDN'T happen, and we are where we are and are blessed to have our men (even if they aren't Matthew Mcchonaughey - who I'm sure probably farts and does gross things daily as well ;).
Yep. You're pretty normal lol. I definately don't let on like I have those thoughts though, just like I don't want to know if he's wondering what it would be like to be with "that" girl :S
I can't think of not being with him! Sorry! But even when he does his "guy" things, or things that annoy me, I still think how much I love him and I would miss those things if they were gone. I never think about being with an ex either because I am so happy that all of those relationships are over!
Oh and on a side note: I thank GOD every single day that I didn't end up marrying one of my past ex's. It would have been a COMPLETE disaster. My hubby and I are very well-suited for each other.
BTW - when I DO have thoughts like that, they're not BAD thoughts (you know, fantasies or anything) it's just stuff like "Look at that couple, I wonder if her husband does such-and-such for her like B does for me" and then my mind goes back to my sweet man and the way he treats me and I just KNOW I am luckier than whoever I might be wondering about" ;)
Definitely thought of an ex or two, but then I remember how upset, sad and all the terrible things they did and i appreciate where I am now and that I have an exceptional man. Of course we aren't dead and neither are FH etc. they look or think so why can't we as long as it doesn't go past that lol
While I don't think about being with another guy, sometimes I think "I can't believe he just did that - how have I not noticed this before?"
I think it's natural - when we were first dating, we put our best selves forward. Over time, things get more "relaxed". I'm sure it would be the same with Matthew too - I'm sure he does "grossly guy things" that would come out if you dated him for a while!
I wonder whatever happened to my high school boyfriend. Last I heard he had moved to another state. I suppose I could try to find him, but never have taken the time. I do wonder though.
Neither of us have any serious exes, and he doesn't have any at all. I know every relationship has its rough patches, but our last one was two years ago and I haven't thought about anyone else. I mean, there are still times when I take R for granted, and awhile later I'll realize that X fight was ridiculous, but I never think any of his habits are truly gross (no matter how much I may make fun of him.)
Oh absolutely!! I joke with FI all the time about living with his "grossly guy things or annoying habits" (read: dude grooming & boy farts) forever. LOL
As far as the ex's thing - I have to admit I do think about it, but more in the negative - as in: if I were still with that guy, I'd have 2.5kids, a dog, a minivan in the driveway, the house, the white picket fence - your basic American dream... but I'd never be HAPPY because I was never in love with him.
For other guys... yes to that too. We're not dead. Funny story - I was in Duane Reade a while back and this really handsome guy was in front of me, of course I noticed him. He looked at me quickly & smiled. I looked away and scratched my nose to kinda flash the bling & be all "Hey, I'm taken mister". He paid & turned to say "Have a nice day" that's when I noticed - THE COLLAR!! I had ashes on my forehead for Ash Wed and HE WAS A PRIEST!!! I would've never thought of it because he was young - serves me right. Hystericall!
I don't really think about my exes at all but sometimes when FH is doing something gross or "manly" I'm like, really? I have to live with this for the rest of my life?? Haha, I think it's a normal reaction to have, there's always going to be "what ifs" and thoughts like that, it's whether they affect you or not that is an issue...
Both of us were tempted to go to other universities (which is where we met) so sometimes I wonder how different my life would be now if one or the other of us hadn't chosen that college. ^_^ It's weird because you think about how much your life is influenced by another person and to count up all those forks in the road where you could have made a decision that would have taken you down a totally different path. (This is not in a regretful way of thinking, just a pondering chain of thought about how one person can really change the course of another person's life ^_^).
I sometimes look at my FI and think, how on earth did I end up with this weirdo! Then I remember its because I'm pretty weird....
Yea I definitely think about how miserable my life would be if I had never broken up with my ex.
He’s 27, never finished his college degree, lives at home with parents, and just found out he’s a busboy at a restaurant… drinkin boozin and clubbin thurs-sun and any other random day of the week.
FI is the first man I’ve been with that I’ve never cheated on, that I’ve never even imagined being with someone else, even when I’m angry and we’re fighting and he’s being gross or pissing me off… it’s never ONCE crossed my mind thoughts of another man!
Celebrity crushes? Now that’s a whole other story! ;)
If I have ever thought about an ex, it was always about the things that went wrong. There is nothing that my mind can erase. It helps me appreciate my hubby that much more. I am very lucky to have found him. Quirks and all, I LOVE him to pieces :)
Also, whenever Mr Spin does something gross, he'll turn to me and say "60 more years!" Aka 60 more years of him farting on my nice couch. Which makes me laugh every time. ^_^
we also both don't have any exes..but i think we both have moments where we think "omg. he/she is gross". (I can be VERY messy.. like leave clothes, dishes, shoes everywhere in the apartment. FI can't stand it. FI, on the otherhand wakes up in the middle of the night and eats like 3 danon yogurts..and leaves the spoon/empty containers in the BATHROOM. wtf?)
But that never makes me think i don't want to be with him! Its just our little "quirks". If i had to be with a "perfect guy" then I'd be single because i'm not nearly the "perfect girl". i'm usually thankful that hes not that gross in "guy terms" though. ( ie bodily functions are private in our apartment)
whenever my man has gross guy moments and looks at me sheepishly, I just smile and say "this is one of those moments where I'm tragically in love with you".
We joke about how I am going to run off with somesuch movie star because of all his fine qualities...but it's all in jest. I have thought about what my life would be like if I had stayed with my exes but it just makes me glad for the life I do have with my husband! I remember many things about those relationships fondly but I am not going back to them because too much was wrong, and even in a "what if" moment I can't suspend that much disbelief.
Just remember nobody's perfect. Not us, not our fiances or husbands (or wives). Fantasies are fun but you can't take them seriously---so we have a little fun joking about them now and then.
I don't really think of my ex's in that way at all - each relationship ended b/c it wasn't right, so there's just not much to think about lol if I do think of them, it's more in a hope-they're-doing-well type of thing.
As for celebrities and famous men, I'll admit - I drool openly over famous men in front of my SO lol; I even have a "boyfriend" on each of his favorite sport teams and he knows which one it is! He'll even tell me, "Oh, your boyfriend scored." lol
It's all in fun though; I know who his celebrity crushes are (Kate Beckinsale (sp?) and Jessica Biel).
I will admit that I have looked into (facebook stalking) my exes. I guess I was curious to see what my life would have been if we stayed together. I'm happy to say that the way my life has turned out with my FI is much better than it could have ever been with anyone else, but I guess I was just curious.
And if FI could stop biting his nails and leaving his dirty clothes every where that would be a huge plus LOL.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MissBoPeep | 52 |
| hisgoosiegirl | 38 |
| Mrs.KMM | 36 |
| ndreighton | 36 |
| beargoose | 34 |
| akp0702 | 34 |
| BetterSherm | 31 |
| Beckster329 | 28 |
| Gemstone | 27 |
| KatNYC2011 | 25 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| NVACat | 3 |
| KatNYC2011 | 2 |
| MsMonkey | 2 |
| Sasha2011 | 1 |
| SouthernGirl | 1 |
| aprose | 1 |
| bookworm88 | 1 |
| KatyElle | 1 |
| Spoonie | 1 |
| MilksMom | 1 |
Ok first of all I just want to say I love my FI very very much and I'm SO excited to be marrying him. We have a beautiful, wonderful baby boy together and I couldnt imagine our lives being any different..but with that said,
We are all on her talking about how excited we are and how much in love we are. But has any of you ever thought when your watching your guy do his grossly guy things or annoying habits that "I'm going to be with HIM forever??" Or "hmmm I really would like to know what it would be like to be with Matthew Mcchonaughey for a day? (my personal fav guy)" Or even wonder what it would be like if you ended up with that wacko ex of yours? Mine currently is in school for Aviation and getting a degree so he can become a pastor. Talk about High achiever! (LOL get it??) anywho...
I know we all love our guys....but common girls, we may be engaged but not dead!