Post # 1
Haven’t seen the family all year and we didn’t travel at Thanksgiving because I was too far along. Any reason not to travel after the baby is born for Christmas? It just sounds like a bad idea but I can’t think of any particular reason the baby would have a problem. My mom will be with me because she came up to help me so we would also be giving her a ride home. We’re talking about a 5 hour trip.
Post # 3
@shamieya: that young, you should be fine — all the baby does at that point is sleep, eat, and poop. There is no ‘playing’ that occurs, and thus no reason the baby would be angry about being confined to a carseat for that long! Just make sure you bring some headphones in case baby starts to cry and won’t stop for a while. Being confined in a car with that racket can be taxing, to say the least!
Post # 4
@shamieya: The baby will be fine. Mom might be a mess. Are you planning to breastfeed? I can’t think of anything more stressful than travelling when you are still just trying to get established.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I would be most concerned about exposing such a tiny one to the germs of many people while traveling and visiting. you’re picking up germs at rest stops, germs at other people’s homes, etc. Personally, I would not be comfortable with that when their immune system is so undeveloped and they haven’t had vaccinations complete yet.
Post # 6
My DD was (and pretty much still is) attached to me almost 24/7 breastfeeding. There’s no way I would have realistically been able to take her on a 5 hour car ride at that age. It would have become a 10 hour trip with all the stops we would have to make. Also, I was extremely sore down there and a long car ride where I would have to be sitting like that would have felt like torture.
Post # 7
My youngest DD (out of 3) was born 12/21 last year. We still traveled and celebrated with family as usual. If you can get your hands on one of those donuts for people that break their tailbone it will make your drive much more comfortable. And just be prepared to pull over and stop frequently. But I fully wanted to, if you are iffy, you have a legititmate exscuse not to go this year:)
Post # 8
At that age, my baby was attached to my boob. It’s possible the movement would have meant he’d fall asleep and not scream for food, but…I wouldn’t have wanted to risk it. In addition, I wouldn’t have wanted to be “visiting” anywhere (even going to my parents’ house in the same town was a bit stressful.) Many people are far more flexible than I am, though.
Also, has the baby actually been born, or are you guessing based on due date?
Post # 9
@ieatunicorns: I think traveling with your third and traveling with your first are pretty different 😉
And I’m impressed!
Post # 10
@Jess1483: Barring unforseen circumstances, I’m getting a c-section in the morning.
Post # 11
Ah, ok. I think that adds to my inclination that you should not go. I had a vaginal delivery, but my friends who had C-sections were in significant pain for a few days.
I’m not saying don’t go, I’m saying I wouldn’t have gone 🙂
Post # 12
Another Vote for Baby will be fine… Mom will not.
Newborns to 3 months or so, and babies are extremely adaptable… they will eat, sleep and poop WHEREVER they may be.
Finding time for yourself to eat, sleep & poop will be a challenge !!
Mom & Dad are usually the ones who are exhausted from lack of sleep and lack of routine !!
I found the first month particularly hard as @julies1949: said moreso if you are having issues with breastfeeding…
Month one I was a tired & leaking mess, quite happy to have my Mother & MIL along to help me out, so you’ll be appreciate your Mom’s help immensely.
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EDIT TO ADD – Just read your UPDATE… My firstborn was a C-Section. Don’t let anyone kid you that is a MAJOR Operation. Recovery time will be faster in some regards and slower in others. Sitting for a long period of time could definitely be uncomfortable if we are talking just a week after delivery. And altho you may feel a lot more energetic than a lady who has had a vaginal delivery, the body & mind won’t necesarily match-up. A C-Section takes a lot out of you. I did a lot of sleeping / resting in the first 3 weeks for sure. So I wouldn’t say you’d be “great company”
Post # 13
@shamieya: And also, have a safe delivery and congratulations! How exciting 🙂
Post # 14
Sounds fine to me. As long as you trust the people you are going to be around and they are healthy, nothing wrong with taking a long car ride. As long as YOU feel comfortable with going elsewhere, spending the night, etc, when you are still trying to figure out how to do this mom thing, I hear it’s quite the adjustment! 🙂
Post # 15
You can see how you feel, but be ready to cancel if need be. One of our friends was planning a similar road trip a couple of weeks after her first baby was born, and found she simply couldn’t cope and had to cancel. I think she and her husband were both exhausted and just didn’t feel safe driving, plus she was sore and still getting used to baby. So you can plan for it, but don’t be surprised if it doesn’t happen.
Defintiely make sure that everyone you are visiting is up to date on their flu & pertussis vaccinations too.
Post # 16
@shamieya: I had C-sections and I was in hosptial for 4-6 days after. 5 hours, on virtually the day I was discharged, sounds too long. If you’re a first time mother there’s a lot of adjusting to do, and I’m not sure in a car is the best way to do it.
If you mean 5 hours’ driving… with feeding, burping and settlling interruptions, the 5 hour trip could easily become 8 or 10.
And is there plenty of room where you intend to stay? Baby will be waking up at night for regular feeds, sometimes taking time to settle. Will the noise bother people? Will there be somewhere you can breastfeed, or catch up on sleep, in private?
I wouldn’t do it.