- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
So, this happened to us at our wedding, and I’d be interested to know how other bees would have handled it…
Our reception venue is at a very scenic location, so we decided to use the grounds for our photos. The event coordinator at the venue put in our contract that we would be the only wedding party allowed to use the grounds for photos that day. This was great as we did not have a huge amount of time for picture taking between the ceremony and reception, and we also made a detailed shot list to save time.
You can see where this is going…when we arrived, we saw another wedding party having photos done. My stomach sank because I didn’t want to rain on someone else’s wedding and give them the boot (I know there aren’t many nice places to take pictures in the small town we got married in), but I also didn’t feel like we should have to share the site, given that we had paid for the location and they hadn’t. I felt bad because figured they didn’t know that they weren’t supposed to have access to the site, but what if they didn’t have a back-up location?
We took the pictures that we wanted, but there was an ongoing feeling of having to “work around” the other couple which resulted in stress (them waiting for a spot we were using, us waiting for them to finish with a spot, etc.). Finally, we were running out of time and they were at the final post where we wanted to get some photos. Our photographer told us if we didn’t get the other couple out of the way we wouldn’t have time to get these last shots in without being late for the reception.
So my husband went over, told them the situation, and asked them to leave, at least for a bit. They told him they only had a few more shots to take and would be gone after that. We ended up rushing to get to the reception on time. At the end of the day, we had the shots we wanted, and they had theirs, but needless to say it wasn’t an enjoyable experience.
It was an awkward situation, and looking back maybe we should have just politely asked them to leave at the beginning (what my husband had wanted to do). I just didn’t want drama on our wedding, and didn’t want to cause drama for them. If I’m being honest, I kept expecting that the facility staff would arrive and ask the rogue party to leave, so that we wouldn’t have to deal with the situation ourselves.
Would it have been a bridezilla move to ask them to leave, or did we do the right thing?