Role for mother in ceremony other than walking me down the aisle?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LorettaB:  Our wedding was on Saturday and we did a rose ceremony for our mothers so they got a little love and recognition. They were both so happy and cried like babies.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Could she do a reading?

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My fiance and i are adding a part to the ceremony where you say thank you to both mothers and present them with a gift.  It was originally meant to be a rose as the gift, but i think we’ll give them an actual gift like a piece of jewelery.

I’d never heard about it before our celebrant mentioned it, but it looks like it might be something fairly common:

http://starbuckweddings.com/mothers-rose-ceremony/

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LorettaB:  I got walked down by both dad & mom — LOVED it, love the pics.  But we also had our moms be the witnesses on the license.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LorettaB:  I got married yesterday and my mother escorted me down the aisle with my uncle. She also played a role in the unity candle portion by lighting my candle as his mom lit his. We then lit the unity candle together. It made the mothers feel special. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You could have her hold your bouquet while you exchanged rings. If you have her lean/step up and take it and move back it’s a subtle thing but important.

I had my dad hold it, but it wasn’t planned.  He “walked” me down the isle but it was a tiny wedding and with him in a wheelchair in a backyard, he didn’t go far, just off to the side from us as it would have taken too much work/time/attention on him (which he didn’t want) to get back to everyone else.  I hadn’t even thought of what to do with the bouquet, but at the time it was “oh, ah… Oh! Here hold this!”.  He just grinned.  And I worried about him feeling awkward, he doesn’t like it when he isn’t “able bodied” but it doesn’t really show (he has MS).  He’d made a big deal about how he’d be in a wheelchair at the time and I insisted I didn’t care if he was ok with it.  I don’t know what I would have done otherwise, everyone else was a good 20 feet away lol. 

Sorry, didn’t mean to thread jack!  Just an idea with a little back story. 🙂

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LorettaB:  Will your officiant be asking “who gives this woman…” etc?  I know I’m not having that at my ceremony, but if you do…

You could have your mom meet you and your dad at the end of the aisle so that when the officiant asks, your mom can be the one to say “we do”.  This way your dad is doing the “symbolic” giving away by walking you down the aisle, but your mom is giving the actual verbal blessing.

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