(Closed) Role of the grooms mother

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Honestly, I’d say it’s up to her. If she wants her future mother in law there, then that’s great! But, if she doesn’t want her to be there then she is absolutely within her rights to tell her that she wants to keep it to just you and her bridesmaids!

Post # 4
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it’s the bride’s decision about how involved her future mother-in-law will be when it comes to the wedding.  Weddings are about bringing families together, and her fiance’s mother will soon be family.  I would leave that decision up to the bride-to-be.

Post # 5
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s up to the bride. I would just suggest you keep in mind, that while she is your daughter she is the newest family member for them and I am sure the Groom’s mom is just so excited!

That said, it’s definitely important to just have some mom-and bride pics, too.

Post # 6
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would say it is up to your daughter, but I know for me, the morning of the wedding is for me, my mom, and my sisters only.

Nothing against my Future Mother-In-Law – but this is something that is personal to us, and she would just be left out if she was there – she didn’t watch me grow up, battle possible cancer and invasive surgeries with a 10% chance of dying on the table, didn’t know about the crazy ex – all those things that happened before I knew FH.

Maybe you and your daughter should talk about how you both envisioned the getting-ready process … 

Post # 7
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would suggest she help her son get ready.. instead of zipping up the bride’s dress, she can tie her sons tie. But like others said, it’s up to your daughter.


Post # 8
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m wondering if she doesn’t have a daughter and has only one son or it’s the last to get married. Maybe she wishes that she would have been able to do this with her daughter. If your daughter wants her there, then she’s going to be there.

Post # 10
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am having my Future Mother-In-Law with me on my day. It will be my mom, my Future Mother-In-Law, my Future Sister-In-Law and my 3 BMs. We will all go get our hair done and get ready together.

However, that being said I only want to have my mom zip up my dress.

Edit – you were posting when I was writing! I think that if this is the case your daughter’s Fiance should give her a job to do the morning of to keep her out of the way!

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