Roles for cousins in ceremony? PLEASE HELP!!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee

@SarahTee:  I wish I could be more help, but I’m having issues with what can my 2 soon to be step sons do!

I was going to say have them do a reading or something together, but not sure if the 11 year old would be up to that?

It’s kind of hard to do without knowing what kind of ceremony you will be having I guess.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

My FI has two cousins, one in middle school and one in elementary that are kinda shy and I didn’t quite know what to do with them. We’re going to have them as guest book attendants. They are still involved by helping to wrangle in the guests to make sure they all sign the guest book and select a program (at the same spot) before the ceremony. I’m also going to have them passing out the bubbles after the ceremony is finished. They feel included and are given a task that they can easily do, but isn’t crucial to the ceremony. Hope that helps!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

@SarahTee:  I’m thinking of having one of the boys walk my mother down, and one walk FI mom and dad down.  Neither I or FI have grandparents left.

I am seriously thinking of having them walk my dog down who will be the ring bearer, but my dog isn’t so good on a lease.  Something we have to work out in the 2 years. Laughing

The guest book attendent is a great idea!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SarahTee:  Who is bringing up the gifts in the offertory procession?  That’s a good way to include people in the wedding, if you are having a mass.  If you are having just a liturgy of the word, I’m not sure how to involve quite that many in the ceremony.

Can your older cousin with downs officially greet people as they enter, and say welcome, you can get your programme from these girls here and point.  Perhaps making sure to say in your instructions “it’s ok if you miss some people, because you are all a team.” and also make sure an adult is there to help her in case she becomes frustrated that things aren’t going how she envisioned. Sorry if I’m not accurate about my perception of issues with downs; I only know a little about it.  they’d do know they tend to be very warm, and compassionate people, so I am sure she would make people feel warm and welcome at the Church steps.

Is anyone ringing the bell when you leave the church?  Could she do that?  What about helping to decorate the church?

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SarahTee:  The bell ringing is an old tradition that isn’t done much after all, but I love it.  Plus, not every church has a steeple with a bell(s) anymore.

Yeah, from my limited knowledge (I’m more familiar with ASD, but know a little about down’s from reading and CBC radio) I’m thinking if you give her a basic script so she knows exactly what to do and say, she’ll just put on the world’s brightest smile and beam at everyone.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@SarahTee:  I haven’t seen them in a while, but when I was little, we had rice girls. Generally, they were that 8-13 age range where you aren’t old enough to be a bridesmaid but too old to be a flower girl. They held the basket of rice bags to be tossed at the end of the wedding. They would pass out the bags before and after the ceremony to be tossed and processed with the wedding party and sat with the flower girls. My older sister was always the rice girl and I remember really wanting to be one, but by the time I was old enough, no one was getting married.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We aren’t having kids at our wedding, so no flower girls, but there are some teenage cousins who are invited.  They already expressed wanting to be in the wedding, but I already chose my bridal party.  The girls will help out with programs, bubbles, etc, and the boys will be ushers for guests.  

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