- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
This is not exactly a question, but a bit of seeking some support. For a little background, I am having my wedding out of country, and it is unlikely that many of my family or friends will be able to attend. I knew this when FI and I chose to have it near his family, that are close and big and get together several times a year over my family that only gets together for weddings and funnerals. However, My FI’s Swedish culture does not have bridal showers, and I really wanted one. My Maid of Honor left my wedding, but my family friend agreed to host the shower instead.
My shower was this past Saturday, and I had spent WEEKS getting excited for it. I rarely see my family, and my FI has never met any of my Aunts or cousins, and I couldn’t wait for them to meet him. I spent more time picking my bridal shower dress than my wedding dress, seriously. The day of, I’m a total wreck, I am fussing with my hair, and then I started crying it wouldn’t stay up right. Yes, I was very emotional, but then it was time to go to the bridal shower. We get there, and we are the first people to arrive. I was happy I could fix my hair, touch up my make up, grab a drink, and get ready to hug my aunts and cousins I haven’t seen in several years.
Two hours later, still no one has shown up. At all. I called my friend who had been talking about it for two weeks, she said “I’ll call you in an hour…” (she still hasn’t called). At around three hours, a girl from my high school shows up, with her parents driving her, who insist on leaving her there, she then sits on the couch and says nothing all evening. After another hour or so, my mother starts calling my cousin who lives literally 10 minutes away, begging her to come to my shower. Yes, My mother BEGGEd to have a single family member show. At the end of the night I drove myself home with no wedding gifts, seeing no one that wasn’t forced or begged to go, and cried nearly the two hours drive to my parents new home.
I know that the bridal shower is not “my day”, but it was likely the only chance at sharing my wedding joy with my family or friends at all. I spent Easter rather subdued, and now I am ashamed to discuss my bridal shower.
To end this post on a happy note, I purchased my wedding ring this weekend as well. It is a 13 diamond, white gold, contour ring from Zales. It looks so pretty I decided to over look the 13 stones as being a bad sign for a wedding ring.