Post # 1
So my FI and I have a major problem. Neither one of us want his only sister as a bridesmaid, but his mom will not get off our cass about having her in the wedding. She even went as far as saying there wouldn’t be a wedding if she wasn’t up there with me. I have always wanted my 3 best friends in my wedding Because personally I believe it should be the brides friends and family standing with the bride. Is there any roles she can have that involves her in everything without actually standing up there with me.
Post # 2
Katlynmarie9413: Stick to your guns on this one. Its not his mums decision and if you give in on this she’ll think she can get whatever she wants by making a fuss!
Can you ask her to be a witness on your marriage licence or be an usher? or do a reading during the ceremony?
Post # 3
Katlynmarie9413: What pp suggested or guestbook attendant?
Post # 4
you didn’t indicate whether your Fi and his sister get along. what about being a groomswoman.
i had my brother on my side. i called him a bride’s attendant.
Post # 5
Does she even want a role in the wedding? My husband’s sister didn’t and that made things easy for Us. I would try and ask her if you or him have a good relationship with her. Guest book attendant and some other things sound more like a (horrible) job vs a role I would be honored to have in someone’s wedding….
Post # 6
I would just ask her to do a reading during the ceremony. I think it is a good compromise.
Post # 7
Katlynmarie9413: My DH and i felt the same. His sister annoys him, and while i get along with her i wouldn’t pick her as a friend. And his mom drives me crazy. We let her do a reading in the ceremony. And MIL still complained and wanted her to do something else, DH just stood up to her and said no, its our decision etc etc. They got over it. And also i no longer give a damn what his mother wants. lol.
Post # 8
I think it is always polite to have the siblings of your spouse in the wedding. I only have 1 brother. I would have been hurt not to have been in his wedding and I am sure he would have been hurt not to be in mine (I was married previously). I, for one, do not believe the wedding is just about the bride and the groom. I think it is about joining families. I never considered not asking my ex-husband’s sister to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I think a reading would be a good compromise. Do not give her some joke of a role like “guestbook attendant.”
That being said, I wasn’t really on board with having DHs sister in my wedding party, but I relented. I ended up being very glad that I included her.