Post # 1
My fiance and I have finalized our wedding parties- there are 6 on each side and all members are friends from childhood through college. The only exception is my Step-Sister, who is one my my bridesmaids. My brother, who is not in my fiance’s party, will be given the roll of an usher.
My fiance’s youngest sister (military, just like him) will be asked to take part in the sword arch.
This leaves DF’s middle sister. Does anyone have any ideas of jobs we can give her to let her know that she is being honored as a sibling and that we value her being there? The two of us have only met a few times, and are not close enough to add a seventh bridesmaid, and she is not military.
Post # 2
Have her do a reading at the ceremony. My readers are cousins I wanted included and they will wear corsages and have this role in the ceremony. Other minor roles could be guestbook attendant or program attendants. I have also been a cake cutter at a college friend’s wedding.
Post # 3
CarolinaOak2014: Her role could be to do a reading at the ceremony.
Post # 4
We didn’t have anyone do readings during the ceremony and if you’re not planning on it either you could always just give her a corsage and ask her to be a greeter, handing out programs or making sure everyone signs the guest book. Put her in charge of gifts. Or maybe just let her wear some pretty flowers. Not everyone wants to have a task or be put in charge of something.
Post # 6
CarolinaOak2014: If you’re not planning to incorporate readings during the ceremony, I second the idea of asking her to be a greeter – I think it’s lovely to have a member of the family welcoming guests.
Post # 7
I agree with PPs, her role could be doing a reading during the ceremony, or even a reading at the reception if you aren’t doing any in the ceremony. It could be a poem, or an excerpt from a book or something. FI and I are hoping FSIL will do a reading at our ceremony, I think it is a really nice way to get her involved. I also like the PPs’ idea of having her greeting guests. Although it depends on her personality and whether it is something she would like doing or not, just don’t make her a guest book guard or anything like that lol.
Post # 8
sarals24: lol. When I read the title I thought “what rolls?”
Post # 9
Soon2ElopeBee: Ha–me, too! I was thinking she was demanding gluten-free or something…
Post # 10
Haha thanks, Y’all. Sorry about the typo- I was in a hurry and not proof reading. Whoops!
Post # 11
No, no, no do NOT ask her to be a greeter. That job sucks. Trust me, I know from experience. I would totally have wanted to just be a guest rather than do that terrible job. No one needs to greet guests at a wedding. They all know why they’re there. Leave the programs on a table or on the seats and call it good. If you barely know her, OP, do not feel obligated to give her a job. As a family member, you could honor her by giving her a corsage but allow her to just be a guest and enjoy the day.