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Hmmm.... is it bad that all the romantic stuff I've done for him is sex-based? Part of me feels like that is sad, and part of me feels like I just know what my man likes... haha.
Anyways, the one he liked the best was probably that I got him his favorite jersey for valentines day last year. Then surprised him by wearing it to bed :)
The dynamic in our relationship is often that he wants to get or do something that I think it ridiculous and I have a tendency to shut his ideas down pretty abruptly. So occasionally I will go back and buy or do one of the things he had wanted that I was so rude about.
Maybe it isn't so much romantic as it is doing what I probably should have done all along, but it makes him happy!
Like with the wedding. He wanted to incorporate as much Mets into the wedding as possible. Including having "Mr. Met" actually show up at the wedding. I dismissed that fairly quickly. But I surprised him with a really awesome groom's cake at the wedding.
it's all sex related for me too... i once wore my apron and a pair of heels and was cooking dinner for him when he got home from work.. he quite enjoyed that we almost didn't make it to dinner. he also loves that i iron his clothes etc. but he's pretty spoiled i think lol and so am i...
Interesting... I was leaning towards something more emotional. He's been going through a rough patch at work and I am sure my (encore bride) qualms (nothing to do with him -- he is awesome) are not making him feel better so I thought I'd make a special effort to show him how great I think he is and how happy I am with him. Although these comments make me think perhaps I should amp it up every now and then in the physical realm as well!!
My guy, (like most guys), appreciates two things the most: sports and sex. I hate sports so that leave....sex. Pretty much all the special things I've done have been sexual. I've done the cooking in an apron and heels thing. One year for christmas I dressed up a sexy santa to give him his gifts. Sometimes I randomly surprise him with new lingerie, (that's probably his favorite). Things like that. I've done things like make his favorite dessert, etc but it's the sex stuff that's the best received. :-)
Generally, when he's having a bad day I'll surprise him by cleaning his apartment and making him some homemade chocolate chip cookies (his favorite!)
As far as "big" things...I make him a scrapbook of some sort every year for his birthday...he loves it! :-)
On our 1 year anniversary I surprised him by decorating his room (he still lived at home then, we were in high school, haha) and then I had created a whole city-wide scavenger hunt sort of thing for him. He loved it!
Carrie,
Does he use a day planner for work and if so, does it bring it home? Maybe you could clip a sweet note to the next day's page?
OR, if you guys work close to each other geographically, maybe you could bring him a brown bag lunch with a little love note inside....that way he doesn't have to worry about lunch during his busy workday, and he'll be touched by the note as well.
HTH!
Hmm... I guess I do make an effort to cook his favorite things a lot too. I also got him an easter basket with some silly stuff (we don't usually celebrate easter with gifts), and I bought him a video game for no reason when I knew he was trying to be good about money and he really wanted it.
I think every guy is different on what they want. Like the pp, my guy mostly cares about sex, sports, and food. And not always in that order haha. I think that women tend to get "romance" from non-sexual things (like for me, I think its really sweet when the bf takes out the trash or unloads the dishwasher or does some laundry for me because we don't live together so it is totally not his job... he just does it to make my day better). Men however equate sex with romance so I just think they appreciate that most usually. But you know your guy best :)
@Corgitales -- this is actually really good for me to be thinking about. I know he would love it if I initiated more and was perhaps a bit more creative in the physical department. The reality is that I am just lazy (and spoiled) in that realm!!
@Lorriene -- great idea! He doesn't have a day planner but he does schlep a work bag back and forth. I could leave a note in there.
@Amanda-Lynn-- Love the scrapbook idea... One thing I was thinking about was doing a "Sugar and Spice" duo of photo books to give to him the night before the wedding... the "spice" one would be the photos from my boudoir shoot and the "sugar" one would be of photos of us together with funny captions and of pictures of places we have been together. I would love to hear more about the scavenger hunt idea... how did you set it up? I'm thinking I could incorporate the location where we first met, first date restaurant, first kiss location, favorite restaurant etc....
These all are great ideas, Bees! Keep them coming... Thanks!!
My guy definitely likes the sexy stuff. He's all about surprises, and I really have to like, plan and put my game face on to jump through all those hoops. Why is it so hard to be the initiator? I swear, he'd think he won the lottery or something.
He likes when I let him watch football and I don't complain =]
He also loves it when i just make his favorite meals.
Honestly he's pretty easy to take care of. Sometimes i run to schnucks super early and get his favorite donuts--chocolate sprinkle long johns! he's all about it and if i buy some 2% milk (i drink low fat super skim), he goes googly eyed.
I've done boudoir albums and scrapbooks and whatnot. He's not overly romantic so it's tough to see what really makes his heart melt. It's really just the littlest things, though, like picking up a candy bar for him or ensuring i have some food he likes around the house. Making his coffee the way he likes it. Hmm. I'm a do-er, can you tell? =]
haha the only thing that works for FI is unexpected nakedness on my part, leading to unexpected _______
For our 1 year anniversary we were supposed to skip gifts, so I made him a little book of some of the reasons I love him. (some funny, some sweet) He got me an e-ring.
Last year we made a bet on a football game & even though I won, I gave him his prize. My prize was a meal cooked by him. My FI loves thatI was on a dance team in college and still have my boots. So for his prize I put on my boots and did some high kicks and dance moves for him--generally just embarassed myself, but he liked it.
My guy travels alot for his job. After he packed his suitcase, I would go in there (when hes not looking of course) and I leave little love notes for him in random places for him to find when he unpacks. Just notes to say how much I miss him and how much I love him and can't wait for him to get home, etc.
Corny, but he appreciates it-says it gives him something to look forward when he gets to the hotel. Plus he saves all the notes-theres a huge pile in his home office.
I like to write litte notes and hid it in the drawers so he sees it when he gets out his socks , pants, etc. Then I hid notes in his pockets and drawers, cofee mug, etc. It's fun to hid notes all over the house...in places you know he will find them :-)
For V-day I found all these quotes about love...and wrote them on hearts I cut out of paper. I then hid them all in his stuff.....drawers...stuck to the milk...his windshield. So thruout the day he would keep finding the notes
Also....one time I filled our bedroom with balloons...just because :-)
I leave for work waaaay before he does, so some times I write a little note telling him I love him or to smile and have a great day, etc. I put it in a baggie and stick it under this wind shield wiper.
He's also a list writer...(must write a list for everything - you can imagine his excitement when we did the guest LIST!?) so after the last thing on the list, I'll either write something a bit risque or just something like 'be sure to kiss my fiance today.'
Now if we're talking durrrty, I got that covered too w/the heels, hose, and whatever else freaks his freak.
I will send him text during the day .. really random.. example.
"you are big and stong... I like you"
haha. he loves those.
and just doing stuff together like golf, xbox, playing catch.
since there is no sex yet (haha) no stories there.
Two years ago, he was in El Paso for a The Sun Bowl (a big football game around New Years) I was living in Columbus, OH and flew out there to surprise him. It was no easy feat with flights getting cancelled like crazy, a layover in Dallas, and straight up lying to him about what I was up to that day. He had no idea!
I set it up with his whole family and on the day I was getting in his mom said that she was going to run to Walmart to get some stuff and picked me up at the airport. Se called and told him he needed to be waiting in the lobby for her because she wasn't going to track him down to give him the stuff she picked up for him. So he was sitting in the lobby (a few margaritas into his day) and saw me walk in and was shocked. His mom has the cutest picture of his surprised/ super happy face when he realized what was going on!
The week before the game is full of trips and dinners and activities for the coaches (and their families) and players. We got to spend the week together, go to the game and celebrate New Year's together!
One week I was having a HORRIBLE time at work, everything was going wrong, it was very difficult emotionally (im a social worker!) and was just struggling all over. After unloading emotionally in a big talk with him, I headed off to bed. The next morning I got up to get ready for work, and when I got out to my car, he had placed 50 post-it notes inside my car, with 50 different reasons he loved me! I cried when I saw them, and it was a great reminder of what I have. In response, I did the same for his birthday this year, but had them all over the house when he got home late... they led to the bedroom and I was waiting for him, after he had collected the 50 fun, goofy, loving and sexy things I loved about him! He was almost in tears when he got into the room, and it cost me nothing :) Sometimes it;s nice to sit and write out the reasons :)
Awww... What a sweet thread! There are so many good ideas here! I feel like I've been slacking in the "doing sweet things" department lately, but one thing I've done was this... For Valentine's Day two years ago, I decorated a shoebox with lovey paper and crafty things from Hobby Lobby. On one side, I attached a hook-type thing and tied an antique key to it. (My SO collects antique-looking keys. I told him it was the "key to my heart.") I printed out a bunch of pictures of us from my digital camera, put my favorite in a nice frame, and put them inside the box. Then I also put little mementos from some of our dates inside--tons of ticket stubs, because we love movies, and I always save the stubs (We don't go as often now--on a budget...). I also put in some of his favorite candies. I also made a crossword (because we'd do crosswords together sometimes) for which all the questions and answers had to do with stuff about us and our dates, and I think I arranged some of the words, so that they'd say "I love you" on one of the lines.
Everytime we go out to eat and he has leftovers, I write little notes on the inside of the box so he'll see it at work the next day. And then of course there's always surprising him with new lingerie, which is always well received. I like finding little things to surprise him with, it's a fun challenge coming up with new things every week.
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Hello Bees...
So we read a lot on the boards about romantic things guys have done to propose. I want to know what the most romantic thing you have done for your SO/FI/DH has been? I'm trying to plan something sweet for my guy and could use some inspiration.
I'll start... one thing I did last winter when we were in a fight during a particularly rainy week was sneak into his apartment when he was still at work and leave a pot of his favorite homemade soup in the fridge. I wanted to let him know that even though we were mad at each other, I still cared about him. He was really touched by that.