Post # 1
I would really appreciate advice about this situation.
I have been renting a room in a house in the town where my grad school is, where I stay for much of the week. I have 3 housemates, each of whom (like me) has her own lease for her room and the use of the common spaces in the house.
The leases all go until next July (the only thing the landlords would allow). However, we are all hoping to move out of there soon– 2 of the roommates and I, who are all in our last semester of classes, will be moving out in December, and the other roommate, who has a job, can basically move out as soon as she gets someone to sublet her room.
The problem is, we all have to either sublet our rooms individually, or if we all leave at the same time, the landlord may be willing to cancel our leases and advertise for 4 new tenants at the time we leave. However, the 1 roommate who does not go to school, and hence can leave as soon as she finds a subletter, has apparently invited a friend of hers to sublet her room ASAP, which will ruin any chances the rest of us have at everyone leaving at once and getting the landlord to take over the leasing responsibilities, which would be ideal. Plus the girl our 4th roommate is thinking of subletting to is someone the the rest of us DESPISE and absolutely do NOT get along with.
Sticky situation. I would really appreciate some advice on what to do about all of it. Thank you all!
Post # 3
@Creiddylad: I am confused as to why it even matters if she sublets her room now. Why does that affect everyone else leaving at once?
And if you can just go ahead and sublet individually, why not just do that? This makes no sense. Can you talk to your landlord about it?
ETA: I should add that it’s 9:45 in the morning here and I’m still not fully awake. So that may be part of why this post doesn’t make sense to me :p
Post # 4
@Creiddylad: I guess now you have to find an individual subleasee(subletter? subleaser?)…I would just make sure it’s someone you trust so you don’t get stuck with the bill if she doesn’t pay rent!
Sorry your roomie screwed you guys over :-/ and living with the new sub can’t be fun.
But I’m sure she was looking out for her best interest, she had someone to lease to NOW so she took the opportunity I guess…
Post # 5
It’s strange that a girl would be willing to move into a house where ther rest of them despise her?
If she does not know that you despise her I can only assume that you are fake to her. Since you despise her how about you let her know and then she prob won’t want to move in.
Post # 6
@Atalanta: +1. I wouldn’t live with a bunch of mean girls who hated me. I wish girls were honest about this stuff rather than being fake nice before stabbing me in the back, lol.
@LadyBlackheart: +1, I also don’t get it. What does a sublet have to do with everyone else? Couldn’t the other three girls leave at the same time and find new tenants? Panda confuzed :S
Post # 7
@Creiddylad: if you all have individual room leases, this one girl technically can sublet her room out. unfortunately, it’s to someone that you don’t like.
have you all discussed with this one girl, what your plans are for your rooms? maybe she will only sublet it until the rest of you move out.
i guess if not everyone is on the same page you have 2 options: you can either stay until july or sublet your room when you want to leave.
this is the reason why i never ever had a roommate.
Post # 8
The only other suggestion I can think of is that the three of you offer to split her rent to make up the difference between when she wants to leave and when you want to leave.
Post # 9
@LadyBlackheart: It mattered IF the landlord was willing to take over renting the house if the entire house was available at once. But the landlord isn’t willing to do that, although she is advertising the house actively in conjunction with us all advertising actively too.
@ValerieBee03: She hasn’t actually sublet the room to this girl yet; I found out later that it is just an idea, and the girl wouldn’t move in until the middle of November.
@Atalanta: The thing is, she hasn’t associated with most of us very much, but her “friend,” the roommate who’s considering subletting to her, has told us all many stories about this girl that make the rest of us really uncomfortable with the thought of living with her. I don’t know why my one roommate continues to be friends with her, and I don’t know how the girl could not know that my roommate really doesn’t like her, but this roommate of mine IS very fake. I guess we all don’t necessarily dislike her, but we are very uncomfortable with the idea of living with someone like her. . . I really don’t want to go into details, but from my experience of her she is really unpleasant.
@MrsPanda99: See what I wrote above. 🙂
@mypinkshoes: Yes, true. I can’t stay until July; this place is 3 hours from my SO’s and my home, in the town where my graduate school is, and after December I will be finished with classes and will have absolutely no reason to continue living there. I only signed a year lease because that was the only way I could have stayed there and avoid the hassle of moving again and not living with friends. . . though this whole thing might be even more of a hassle than that. Oh well, can’t do anything about it now.
Thanks everyone. I’m super stressed about this situation– the last thing I need in my last semester of grad school. :/
Post # 10
@Creiddylad: i guess if that other girl would potentially move in, in mid november and you will be moving out in december, you won’t really have to worry too much about liking her or not.
i would just focus on subletting my room and let everyone else worry about their rooms.
are you even sure your landlord would even let all of you out of your lease in december? if i was a landlord, i would focus on just my vacant properties to fill, not one that has a lease until july.
Post # 11
Well, that stinks if the girl moves in that you do not like. But it is your roommates right to sublet her own room. She has to look out for herself, and not base her decisions on what the landlord may or may not decide to do in the future.
Post # 12
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Coming from someone who has had absolutely awful housemates before (stealing, spreading horrible lies, trying to seduce FI, etc.) it is possible to live somewhere and not have to spend much time with your housemates. Unfortunately, sometimes you have to suck it up and be the bigger person:( Sorry you’re in this situation. I would try to sublet your room when you graduate.
Post # 13
@Creiddylad: if the girl isn’t supposed to move until mid nov and you are leaving after december, you and your roomates should just split the difference of that one month for that room and not have to worry about leasing.