- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
So my roommate and I….let’s call her “A”. A and I recently had another girl move in about two weeks ago. So far, we have had a few bumps in the road. Let’s call this new roommate “B”.
B has shown herself to be (at first) a little irresponsible. Like leaving the front door unlocked when she leaves the apartment, burning a plastic bowl on the stove. She has also eaten some of A’s food (but left mine alone, strangely enough. I guess she doesn’t like my food lol.) and she’s also damaged one of my pots. She burned whatever she was cooking in it and left it in there. So there is burnt food stuck to the bottom of it. Right now, it is currently soaking in soap and hot water.
Anyway. When B first moved in, I was in NC. When I got back from NC a few days later after she moved in, I may have not given her the best first impression of myself. When I met her, I had just been on the road for at least six hours and BF and I were both exhausted. She had her friends over in the living room and they were hanging out. Well BF and I were in my bedroom just resting.
At some point, I go into the kitchen to get a drink and I notice that the front door has unlocked. So this pisses me off. And since I’m already tired and cranky from the long drive, I overreact a bit. When B and her friends got back, I said something to her in front of her friends. I said something like “Hey, when you left earlier, you left the front door unlocked. Please don’t do that again. Someone could have walked in the apartment and we never would have known it. So just make sure you lock the door next time you leave.”
Later on I realized that I shouldn’t have said something to her in front of her friends. I should have waited until she was alone. So I apologized to her and she accepted my apology.
A few days ago, she damaged my aforementioned pot. And I was ranting about it to BF. I was kind of loud, actually. I was ranting about how B never cleans up after herself and how she destroys my dishes. I was pretty pissed. But I did not know that B was home…
Sometime later, she came out of her bedroom and left the apartment. I was like “Ohhh shit….she heard me ranting about her! Oh crap.” If I had known that she was home, I would not have been ranting like that. Since then, B has not acknowledged or said anything about hearing me complain about her. But I’m sure she heard me because since then, she’s been a bit distant and cool towards me. Which I understand, believe me.
My point is that B thinks I’m the mean roommate. And that A has been the nice roommate. Until last night. A got fed up with B and left B a passive aggressive note in the kitchen saying “ASK before you use our dishes or our food! Xoxo, A”
And today, we discovered that B’s boyfriend had his own key. And that he stayed over last night and has been at our apartment all day today WITHOUT B being home. This is one of A’s biggest pet peeves. She hates it when guys stay over without the girl being there.
So now A wants me to say something to B. She wants me to tell B that we have a rule about boyfriends staying over. Boys can only be in our apartment if we are there. If we’re not home, then they’re not allowed to be in the apartment. Pretty simple rule.
However, given that I think that B pretty much thinks I’m a bitch (and I don’t blame her for thinking this), I don’t think B will listen to me if I say something to her about her boyfriend staying over.
But A doesn’t want to say anything to B, she wants me to do it. Sigh. Roommate drama, I swear.
I CANNOT wait until January when I move out. Anyway, I’m not really looking for advice on if I should say something to B or if A should be the one to say something. I have a feeling that A is so pissed that she’ll end up saying something to B anyway, with or without me.
This is just a mini-vent, really. As always, thanks for listening. And if you read this whole thing, I commend you lol.