(Closed) Roommate issues, HELP! (Kinda Long)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

To be honest if this is how things are starting out I would consider letting her move out and finding a replacement if that is what she is going to suggest.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Stand firm on not repaying her towing fine. It’s too bad she didn’t know, but that’s really not your fault. Encourage her to speak with someone from the community about possibly waiving or reducing the fine, but don’t get yourself involved with it.

I don’t know what she would want to talk about regarding living arrangments, but maybe she wants out of the lease? If so, I’d at least consider letting her out of it because I bet she’ll only continue causing you problem as time goes on.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Who wouldn’t read the note that was included with their keys anyways????

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

If she wants out of the lease– I’d let her do it. 

I’d send her an e-mail stating that such a meeting can be scheduled upon your return.  

For the posting of signs, issues with being towed, etc. I’d refer her to the HOA or management office of the complex. (basically, whomever set up the tow truck!) These are concerns she should “persue” with them– not you, seeing as how you told her IN WRITING not to park there.  Also, as for the lights– I assume at 10pm she didn’t move her stuff in in total darkness? You should remind her that light was available in the communal areas of the condo, which according to her lease, she has access to. 

Beyond that– enjoy your vacation! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@FutureMrsJohnson_:  That sounds fair. I mean normally when you break a lease you’re on the hook until a replacement tenant is found, so she shouldn’t expect to keep the deposit.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@FutureMrsJohnson_:  Haha yea I know what you mean. Good luck dealing with her!

As a side note, did you check her references before leasing from her? If not, it might be a good idea to do that with future tenants

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This isn’t a very good sign.  I would absolutely not pay for her towing.  She can take it up with the community since it’s their rules and not yours.  She might actually have a case if there’s no signs about towing.  But that’s her issue, not yours.  You let her know in her introduction letter and that should be sufficient (that’s how I found out about the parking rules in the condo I rent).

I would meet with her and see what she has to say.  It might be worth the hassle to let her out of her lease and try and find a new roommate.  She sounds like a PITA.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

What does no overhead light in her bedroom have to do with the price of eggs? Sheesh.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would split the towing bill with her. I do not think you are required to, but it’s a sign of good faith. It’s not your fault that she parked there, and while you did try to warn her about not parking there, if there were no lights in her bedroom then she couldn’t read your note (although i’d have read it in the bathroom. but I guess not everyone has those ideas).

If you split the towing bill with her, then each of you is admitting a little of the fault for the towed car, and it gives you an opportunity to resolve things to the point where you can peacefully co-exist for the next 6 months.  If you don’t at least pretend to be trying to help her (and in her mind, money = help), then she will either leave right away, no doubt dragging you into a long line of fighting over that security deposit, or she will be a giant pain in the ass for the next 6 months till you can boot her out.

Even if I felt 100% not to blame in this situation, it would be worth $170 to me to have a greater chance at peace and quiet in my own home for the next 6 months. Be the bigger person.  You might still have a giant headache of a roommate on your hands. But if you don’t at least try to extend the olive branch, you’re guaranteed to be the mayor of crazytown for the next 6 months.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I understand being pissed but her letters are kind of bordering rude and snarky. If this is how she already speaking to you I see lots of trouble down the road.

 

That being said, not having a light in room is kind horrible. And she moved in late at night, maybe she was tired, perhaps disorientated and didn’t want to go into another room to read the letter. I think sending an email or calling her would have been better. I would wait until you speak to her in person, if you think she is a reasonable person I would split the bill with her to keep the peace. If she isn’t ask her to move out.

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh Boy.

You are NOT in the wrong. Not at all.

it’s not your responsibilityto take care of her, she is old enough to live without her parents etc. 

she should have read the letter, and it’s not your fault there isnt any signage stating about the car being towed etc, that has to do with the landlord/housing department.

I would talk with her one on one. Explain that you feel terrible about what happened. Tell her that you support her moving out/breaking the lease and I know you will find a much better roommate in the proces. I know it’s hard finding one but you will!

Best of luck chicky!

 

 

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