Roommate won't take responsibility for ruined property

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

spiffanee:  Ask for money.  Some people don’t get it until they are told.  Don’t play games about it.  If he blows up about it, take things in stride.   Be reasonable about the amount.  If you are replacing a $100 couch, but plan to buy a $1000, keep your number more towards the $100.  And if you and SO plan to keep the couch after roommate moves out, don’t make him pay for the whole thing even if it is his dogs fault, and you go cheaper than the current price. 

Post # 3
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5222 posts
Bee Keeper

Well, I see a few things:

 

-first, if the dog is trapped in the room at all times, of course it is going to piss when it is let out! A “big dog” left in one room for long periods of time isn’t ideal at all. 

Second, I have 2 dogs– 1 is a puppy. While it isn’t the most desirable thing to do, the smell of dog piss CAN come out of just about anything. However; you may need to get a steam cleaner to do so. I would suggest asking the roomate to help towards that cost before replacing the whole couch. Otherwise, you’ll just be replacing furniture every time the dog gets out and pees, which isn’t a viable solution for anyone in the house.

Last, I would definitely make sure you sit down and have a conversation about house training and making sure the dogs gets plenty of outside time and exercise. THAT to me is a big issue as well.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ask him to pay for a rental steam cleaner or hire a professional furniture cleaner. It’s pretty likely that the couch is still cleanable and it is a lot less complicate than asking for money towards a new couch.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is not complicated. “____, when your dog got out of your room the other night, he peed on the couch. We tried to clean it, but we can’t get rid of the smell. That means we need to replace the couch. We feel that you should contribute______ as that was the value of the old couch. Does that seem fair to you?”

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

spiffanee:  Then you and your FI will have to decide what you plan to do if he doesn’t apologize and/or come through with some cash.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s only like $45 to rent a steam cleaner. Surely that is less than the value of the couch?

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Did he pay a deposit?  If he did then just take it out from there when he moves out and let him know now that you are going to do that.  I would also tell him the dog can’t be just left in the room but that while he is away he needs to have him in a crate to avoid this situation in the future.  If he does not get the crate then he is responsible for ALL damages and I would have him sign a contract stating this.  We have roommates in our house and require them to pay a deposit and sign a lease with the house rules written into them.  Its a live and learn situation.  

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

spiffanee:  Can’t you steam the couch to rid the smell (and febreeze, if you get that in the US is also good for getting rid of odours?). Did you take a bond from your roommate when he moved in? If you did then I would deduct the cost of the couch from that.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d just ask him for money to steam clean.  There’s no point in getting a new couch as long as the dog is still there.

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