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Rough day

posted 2 years ago in Newlyweds
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    guitargirl    October 2009   Ohio

    I am having a rough day.  I went to the SS office to change my name, which I am not thrilled about.  FH wants me to change my name in some way, and I want to have the same last name as our kids (FH not open to using my name).  Then he has been such a grouch.  We were supposed to have date night and he's not feeling well, so sleeps for good chunk of the evening and then has been a TOTAL grouch since.  We ran some errands, and barely said anything on the way home, and when I have tried to make conversation, he gives one-word answers and then plays with his phone.  So annoyed.   Am I overreacting?  He works 80 hours a week at a stressful job and isn't feeling great, but I can't help but feel irritated at him.

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    *hugs hugs* Bad days suck - and it's natural to feel irritated by him! I had a similar night with CW last night - I was so annoyed that he was too tired to want to visit (we live an hour apart).

    So I hope your night gets better!

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    Frown (Hugs!) I would be irritated too - I know my FI gets like this when he's stressed. It usually happens once a semester right during finals week, lol. I always just try to be as nice as possible and wait it out. Well, unless it just gets too ridiculous then I talk to him and tell him that he really needs to stop being such a jerk. Smile

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    Sorry that you feel like that! FH is the same way when tired or stressed, and I like to talk and would take it very personal when he acts like that. I quickly learned that when I get these one word answers and hmm hmm, it always leads to misunderstandings; so I turn on the music and don't talk for a while. Every time, he starts a conversation about 5-10 minutes later and is grateful that I didn't insist on talking when he wasn't ready... something to try?

    Good luck!

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    I'm sorry you had a bad day.  Hive hug!

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    Hugs! Sorry to hear you're having a rough day. We all get irritated with each other sometimes.

    By the way, I feel similarly about changing my name. I wanted to, but didn't, and eventually did and sometimes get pretty upset about it. The other day I shredded my old credit cards with the old name and got pretty emotional.

     
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    HoneyBear    March 17, 2012   Texas/ Isla Mujeres

    Aww I'm sorry, sometimes I wish my BF would put away that stupid phone too! 

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    *Hugs* I'd be pretty darn irritated myself!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm sorry that you had a bad day.  But I understand why he isn't really in the mood for much.  I worked 70 hours for a few months at my job and I could barely get enough energy to do anything, I can't imagine him working that much for such a long period of time.  I'm sure you guys can work something out!

     
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    SoonToBeMrs.Kiss    June 11, 2011   Central Pennsylvania

    *Huggs* I think it's totally alright to get irratated with our bf's/FI/Husbands. Before FI and I got engaged, and before I moved in with him, I lived 30 mins away from him in a little toen called Hamburg. I would get so mad at him when it was Fri. night and we were both out of classes for the weekend, and he would tell me he was too tired to come see me, and would wait till Sat. I was so mad, because I wanted to have a sleep over, haha. Kind of like Alishaneva's situation, but not as far, but not we live together, so even if he is tired, I still get to see him. It'll get better, I'm sure. Don't worry, and cheer up. =]

     

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